Iingcebiso ezi-3 ezifunekayo ukuze woyise ixhala lokuthetha esidlangalaleni

Ndiyabazi abanye abantu abathanda ukuthetha esidlangalaleni- abonwabela naliphi na ithuba lokucofa iintsini zabo phambi kwesihlwele. Kodwa kuthi sonke (ndicinga ukuba uninzi lwethu) kunzima kakhulu, kwaye kwabanye, mhlawumbi kuyothusa.

Kodwa ukuthetha esidlangalaleni yinto onokuyifunda ukuyenza- kwaye ufunde ukwenza kakuhle. Nazi iingcebiso ezintathu endizifumene zibalulekile kwimfuno yam yokufunda (okanye ubuncinci ukunyamezela) ukuthetha esidlangalaleni.

Ingcebiso 1: Musa ukumamela naliphi na ingcebiso phaya malunga nokuthetha esidlangalaleni.

Ewe, oku kukuzibaxa, kodwa into endiyithethayo kukujonga ingcebiso "ngasemva" kweengcebiso ngokuchasene neengcebiso ngokwazo. Ukuba umntu othile ukuxelela, umzekelo, ukuba nomfanekiso-ngqondweni wabaphulaphuli behamba ze - nto leyo ilicwecwe eliqhelekileyo leengcebiso kwizithethi zikawonke-wonke-eyona nto bakuxelela yona kukwenza konke onokukwenza ukuze abaphulaphuli bazive bengoyiki kwaye bengabantu. Kwaye ngelixa ucinga ukuba ze ze zisebenzele abanye (ngokuqinisekileyo ayisebenzi kum), zininzi ezinye iindlela zokwenza ubuntu kubaphulaphuli. Umzekelo, nanini na xa ndinikela iintetho ngoku, ndizama ukufika kwangethuba ukuze ndidibane nabanye babaphulaphuli. Ndifumanisa ukuba ukuba ndingenza olu nxibelelwano, luyayidambisa imithambo-luvo yam kwaye lwenze nabaphulaphuli "baziwe" okungakumbi-oku kundinceda kakhulu.

Ingcebiso 2: Sukubukela iintetho ze-TED zokuphefumlelwa.

Xa ndiqala ukunika iintetho kwathiwa mandijonge ezona zithethi zibalaseleyo zeTED kwaye ndizikope. Kodwa kum, yayisoyikisa kakhulu ukubukela aba baqeqeshi kwizinxibo zabo ezincinci zithe tyaba eqongeni njengoko babothusa abaphulaphuli bezigidi.Okubi nangakumbi kukuba kubonakala ngathi kukho isitayile esikhethekileyo esisetyenziswa ngumntu ngamnye kubo - zimbalwa izilayidi, intshayelelo evusa inkanuko okanye intshabalalo, kunye nebali eliqatha, elihlala linobuqu. Ubuncinci ekuqaleni, ukubukela ezi ntetho bekukhathaza ngakumbi kunokukhuthaza.

Kodwa into endiyifumeneyo kukuba isitshixo sokufunda ukuthetha esidlangalaleni ayisiyiba sesona sithethi sisesidlangalaleni (okanye kwimeko yeentetho zeTED, ukulinganisa ezona zithethi zibalaseleyo). Endaweni yoko, kukwenza konke onako ukuzisa okona kulungileyo ekuthetheni esidlangalaleni. Oko kuyokwahluka kakhulu kuye wonke umntu. Umzekelo, ngokuchaseneyo neengcebiso zemveli ze-TED, usenokungathandi ukubalisa amabali abo. Okanye ungathanda ukusebenzisa izilayidi ezininzi - njengoko ndisenza - ukunceda ukubalisa ibali elibonakalayo xa uqhubeka nentetho yakho. Inqaku kukuba ungayilahla indlela yokuthetha esidlangalaleni ehambelana nokuba ungubani kwaye yintoni oyenza kakuhle.

Ingcebiso yesi-3: Gxila ngakumbi ekuzisokeni kunokuba ujonge isihlwele.

Ukuhamba phambili kwengcebiso yokuthetha esidlangalaleni kugxilwe ngaphandle, kwimbonakalo oyenzayo kwabanye, kodwa ingcebiso yam kukuchitha ixesha elininzi ujolise ngaphakathi ekuphuhliseni ezakho iinjongo zokuba kutheni ukuthetha esidlangalaleni kunentsingiselo kuwe- Ngamanye amagama, kutheni kubalulekile ukuba uxinzelelo kunye noxinzelelo lokuba uye kuma apho uhambise amagama akho. Yintoni ekufaneleyo? Kum, kuhlala kusenziwa umahluko. Ndinebhongo ngencwadi yam entsha ethi Fikelela, egxile ekuncedeni abantu ukuba bazolulele ngaphandle kwemimandla yabo yokuthuthuzela, kwaye ngalo lonke ixesha ndisiya apho kwinqanaba ndicinga ngokucacileyo malunga- kwaye ndamkele-loo mqondo wenjongo. Kwaye iyandinceda ukuba ndilwe noxinzelelo.

Ekugqibeleni, ngekhe uthande ukuthetha esidlangalaleni- kodwa, kwakhona, ukuba uyakwenza ngokwaneleyo kwaye ufunda ukuhlakulela isitayile sakho, unokumangaliswa.

Ukuba uyonwabele le posi, unokuba nomdla kwincwadi yam entsha: Fikelela: Isicwangciso esitsha sokukunceda ukuba unyathele ngaphandle kwendawo yakho yokuthuthuzela, phakama uye kuMngeni, kwaye wakhe ukuzithemba (IPenguin Random House, eyoMqungu 2017). Ngolwazi oluthe kratya ndwendwela kunye neymolinsky .com.

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