Imicimbi ephambili ye-5 kubuDlelwane obuDala babantu abadala

Ixesha endilichithe ndisebenza nabantu abadala abanobudlelwane obunzima nabantakwabo baqinisekisile ukuba iingcali zonyango kufuneka zazi imiba emi-5 ephambili.

1. Ubudlelwane babantakwenu bubudlelwane bexesha elide.

Ubudlelwane phakathi kwabantakwenu, obunikwa ikhondo eliqhelekileyo lexesha lokuphila, buhlala ixesha elide kunabo nabuphi na ubuhlobo umntu anokuba nabo-bude ngaphezu kobudlelwane nabazali, amaqabane, abantwana, kwaye, ngokunokwenzeka, nabahlobo. Ke, ukucacisa okanye ukusombulula ubudlelwane bomntakwenu kubaluleke kakhulu kwimpilo-ntle yomntu kuba intsebenziswano phakathi kwabantakwenu ihlala ifuneka xa kukhathalelwa abazali abalupheleyo, kunye nokukhathalelana.

2. Iingcali zonyango zihlala zingaqeqeshelwanga ukucinga ngobudlelwane babantakwabo abadala, kwaye musa ukubuza ngazo kunyango.

Njengoko mna noMichael Woolley sabhala kolu luvo lutshanje lwejenali Umsebenzi weNtlalontle , Abantu abadala abalwa nengxaki yokusetyenziswa kweziyobisi banokuchaphazela, kwaye bachaphazeleke, kubudlelwane obunzima kunye nabantakwabo. Ngaphandle kokuba oochwephesha bacinge ngobu budlelwane, amathuba okunceda inkqubo yosapho (ebandakanya abantakwenu) aya kuphoswa. Abantakwenu kufuneka babandakanywe xa kuzotywa imephu yomntu omdala okanye igenogram.

3. Oku kuhlala kulwalamano olubi.

Ngelixa isibini kwisithathu sabantu abangama-262 ekwenziwe udliwanondlebe nencwadi yethu, Ubudlelwane phakathi kwabantu abadala , Chaza abanye okanye bonke abantwana bakowabo abangama-700 ngothando, abanye bachazwe ngokungafaniyo. Ngapha koko, uncwadi luthetha ngokungahambelani okukhoyo kulwalamano lwabantu abadala abadala. .

4. Ubudlelwane phakathi kwabantakwenu abuhambelani kwaye abunambono.

Abantakwenu bahlala beziva ngathi abayiqondi indlela yokuziphatha yomnye umntakwabo. Kwelinye icala, abaziva beqondwa ngumntakwabo. "Undiphatha ngokungathi bendineminyaka eyi-16 kwaye andimqondi umntu endimnguye," yinto eqhelekileyo leyo. Ukuziva udidekile kukuziphatha komnye umntakwenu okanye ukuziva ungaqondwa kungakhokelela ekuthandeni ngakumbi.

5. Ithiyori yonyango yosapho inokunceda ekwaziseni ngendlela yokujongana nemicimbi yabantakwenu.

Umsebenzi kaMurray Bowen uyasikhuthaza ukuba sijonge phakathi kwezizukulwana kubudlelwane babantakwabo. Ngapha koko, safumanisa ukuba ukuba utata uthathwa ngokuba usondele kubantakwabo, abantwana bakhe kunokwenzeka ukuba basondelelane. (Qaphela, ootata, kwaye nisebenze kubudlelwane babantakwenu!) Umzekelo owahlukileyo obonisa ukufunda kubadala bakamama ubandakanya umama oyekile ukunxibelelana nomntakwabo emva kokuba bemkile kwindlu ababehlala kuyo. Kwiminyaka embalwa kamva, ababini babantwana bakamama bawa ngaphandle kokunxibelelana. Ngokuzenzisa, babefundile ukuba le yayiyindlela eyamkelekileyo yokuziphatha kumama wabo.

Ulwakhiwo lonyango losapho (i-SFT) lukhuthaza abanyangi ukuba baqwalasele imida yomntakwabo. Ngaba abazali baxatyelwe kubudlelwane babantwana abadala? Ngaba abazali bayaphazamisa ukuwela kunye kwaye abavumeli abantakwabo ukuba basebenze ngemicimbi yabo? Ngaba abantakwenu abalwa imfazwe bazobe abazali abalupheleyo? Ukuba kunjalo, abazali banokuthintelwa kolu hlobo lokungena kwaye abantwana bakowenu banokukhuthazwa ukuba basebenze kunye. Xa umzali egula okanye esifa, oku kubaluleke ngakumbi.

Ngokuzisa abantakwenu kwigumbi lokunyanga, oochwephesha banokunceda abathengi ukuba bahambe kwimicimbi enzima ngakumbi enokubasokolisa ebomini.