5 “Imiqondiso exubileyo” ethi yona ibe ziiMpawu zeNyaniso

Kukho intetho eninzi "yeempawu ezixubileyo" ezivela kubantu abangatshatanga ngelixa bethandana. Ndithethile ngale nto nabahlobo kwaye ndithethile ngale nto kunye nabaxhasi. Uninzi lwee-single ziyazidla ngokuzama ukuqonda nokucacisa iingxelo kunye nezenzo ezingqubanayo (okanye ukungasebenzi) kweqabane eliza kuba liqabane. Ndibe netyala lale nto ngaphambili-kwaye kuyadinisa kwaye kuyinkcitha xesha namandla.

Kodwa nantsi into ekufuneka uyenzile njalo khumbula: Ayifanelanga ukuba njalo ke nzima. Akufuneki ukuba uhlale uqikelela okanye ukhathazeke malunga nokuba omnye umntu ucinga ntoni okanye uziva njani. Ewe, inxenye yokuthandana kunye nokulandela ubudlelwane obutsha kufuna ukuba ukhululeke ngokungaziwa kunye nokungaqiniseki, kodwa ngaxa lithile, kuya kufuneka uzibuze, "Ngaba lo mntu wenza umgudu okanye wenza izinto half-a * *?" Kwaye ukuba kukho ukunqongophala komgudu okanye ukungangqinelani okubonakalayo, kunokwenzeka, lo mntu akatyalwanga ngokwenyani okanye ubuncinci akakulungelanga ukutyala ubudlelwane kunye nawe.

Ingavakala ilukhuni, kodwa ulifanelwe liqabane elizinikeleyo lize lilandele. Ufanelwe kukuba nomntu akwenzele ixesha (kuba likho njalo ixesha). Ufanelwe ngumntu oza kuzama. Ufanelwe ngumntu oza kucacisa kwiimvakalelo zabo ngawe. Ufanele umntu ofuna ukuba kubudlelwane nawe okanye ukulandela ubudlelwane kunye nawe.

Nazi ezintlanu “iimpawu ezixubileyo” ekufuneka zikunike umqondiso wokuhamba.

1. Ubuncinci (kodwa ezinye) iinzame: Bayazibandakanya nawe kodwa hayi rhoqo. Bafikelela ngamanye amaxesha, kodwa kubonakala ngathi abanomdla wokuchitha ixesha kunye nawe (okanye ubuncinci hayi rhoqo). Ababuzi malunga nawe-ukuba uqhuba njani, ibinjani imini yakho, yintoni enomdla kuwe. Kwaye ukuba bayabuza ngawe, ababonakali bekhathala. Uziva ngathi wenza owona msebenzi.
2. Ukunqongophala kokulandela: Bathi baya kuphinda babuye okanye bafumane "kamva" kwaye bangenzi njalo. Okanye ukuba bayafikelela kamva, ziintsuku / iiveki / iinyanga kamva. Bahlala besenza izicwangciso kodwa emva koko bacime okanye babambe. Bathi banomdla okanye "bayakuthanda" (kwaye ingavakalelwa njalo) kodwa musa ukwenza ixesha lokwazi okanye lokuqhubela phambili ubudlelwane.
3. Kushushu kwaye kuyabanda: Ezinye iintsuku zibonakala ngathi "zingene kuyo" kwaye ezinye iintsuku azikho kangako. Unemihla emnandi kunye neencoko kwaye ke kukho amaxesha okunxibelelana okuncinci kunye nokutshintshana okufutshane kuphela. Unokuziva ngathi kukho "ikhemesti elungileyo" kwiintsuku ezithile kwaye kuncinci kwezinye.
4. Ukungaqiniseki ngento "abayifunayo": Banokuthi banomdla kwaye bavele (okanye benze) banomdla kodwa bayathandabuza ukuthetha ngekamva okanye ukuzibophelela kuyo nantoni na (izicwangciso, ububodwa). Banika izizathu zokuba kutheni bengenako ukuzibophelela okanye kufuneka kwenzeke ntoni ebomini babo ukuze bazibophelele okanye babe "balungile."
5. Thetha intetho: Abona bantu bathethayo kakhulu. Banokukuhlamba ngamazwi okuvuma kunye nokuqinisekiswa. Banxibelelana nawe rhoqo, kodwa ubona kuncinci kakhulu kubo. Bathetha ngento "enokuba" phakathi kwenu nobabini kwaye banenkathalo kangakanani okanye bafuna ukuthandana nani, kodwa akuhambelani nezenzo zabo. Kwakhona, akukho kulandela.

Ke, le miqondiso ixubeneyo, are eneneni "uphawu" -iiflegi ezimhlophe okanye ezibomvu, nkqu. Kwaye ngelixa isenokungabi ngawe (ndingacinga ukuba kukho ithuba elingama-99.9 leepesenti alinxulumene nawe), ezi ndlela zokuziphatha kunye nokungahambelani kundixelela ukuba umntu akakho kwindawo ebomini babo apho anakho ukuba Iqabane elilungileyo okanye bakulungele nokuba kubudlelwane obukhulu okanye obuzinikeleyo.

Ukuba "upholile" ngento ethile ikwicala eliqhelekileyo nelingaqikeleleki ( Hayi, mhlawumbi nawe ufumana ukuthandabuza okanye awukulungelanga ukungena nantoni na) , kwaye bekhululekile ukuqhubeka ngaphandle kokulindela, emva koko into enje inokukusebenzela. Kodwa ukuba le miqondiso ikubangela uxinzelelo kwaye uhlala uyikhathaza ingqondo yakho kwaye uzama ukufunda phakathi kwemigca-hamba uhambe. Ayinamsebenzi nesizathu (okt, ukoyika, ukuthintela, ukunqongophala kokuqonda, ukuzibophelela). Awunakuze uleqe okanye uqinisekise umntu ukuba akwenzele ixesha.

Ke, myeke kwaye uyazi ukuba umntu olungileyo uzakulunga kwaye ufuna ukuchitha ixesha nawe kwaye adibane nawe.

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