Izizathu ezi-5 zokuba amaNarcissist athanda ukuHamba

Ukuba ubandakanyeka kwi-narcissist, amathuba okuba ukhe ufumene uluhlu lweemvakalelo ezingathandekiyo njengesiphumo. Uninzi lwabathengi bam abebesoloko befumana impatho gadalala benze iinzame zokuzihlukanisa nomxhaphazi wabo kodwa amaxesha ngamaxesha, baphinde babuyela kumjikelo we-narcissist. AbakwaNarcissist badinga abantu ababuyela kubo ngendlela engakholelekiyo, yokuxhatshazwa, okanye yokungaqondi kakuhle. Bafuna ukulawula abantu kunye nokwenzakalisa kunye neentlungu. AbakwaNarcissist bayaphumelela kwidrama kwaye banabantu bokubaxhoba okanye babonakalise njengomtshutshisi. Nokuba uphantsi kangakanani narcissist ebomini bakho unokukwenza uzive, ukuba uyazanelisa iimfuno zabo ngandlela thile, bafuna wena malunga nazo. Ukuba nezakhono eziphezulu ekusebenziseni, baya kwenza konke okusemandleni abo ukukuphindisela ngaphakathi, kubandakanya ukuntywila.

Ukutsala ngokutshutshisa kubhekisa kwiinzame ezenziwe ngumnxibelelanisi wokubuyisa ebomini babo - rhoqo emva kwexesha lomgama kwicala lakho. Ngokukodwa ukuba le yindlela entsha yokuziphatha kuwe, i-narcissist inokubamba ixesha elifutshane ukuze ibone ukuba uzimisele ngokwenene ngokwenza loo mgama. Ukuba kuvela ukuba ulapho, baya kuvula i-hoover.

Ukutsala kwintliziyo

Xa kufikwa kumba wokugcwala, ii-narcissists ziya kuzisebenzisa ngokupheleleyo iimvakalelo zakho. Baza kukuxelela ukuba bakuthanda kangakanani kwaye bakukhumbula kangakanani, ubudlelwane obuhle kakhulu ababenabo nawe, ukuba abanako ukuhlala ngaphandle kwakho. Banokudlala ixhoba elidinga ukuba ungene kwaye ulihlangule. Ngamafutshane, baya kukuxhaphaza ngokweemvakalelo kwinqanaba elinzulu. Kusenokwenzeka ukuba ubukhe wabandakanyeka kubudlelwane obungalinganiyo nomnxibelelanisi wexesha elidlulileyo kwaye uzive utsalelwa emva kwindima oqheleneyo nayo.

Sebenzisa isingxengxezo esingahleliwe ukuze unxibelelane

UTonya undixelele, “Mna nodadewethu besingathethisani kangangeminyaka, kulandela umlo omkhulu. Emva koko, ngokungacwangciswanga, wanditsalela umnxeba nge-7 kusasa ekuseni endixelela ukuba umzala wam ubhubhile. Ngelixa ndandizisola ngaye, andizange ndimbone ukusukela ndandineminyaka eyi-10. Izinto ezibaluleke ngakumbi ezenzekileyo kule minyaka idlulileyo, kubandakanya nomama waphelela esibhedlele kumlindo kadade wethu. Khange afowunele le micimbi. Ndive ngathi kukuziphatha okukhohlisayo ”. AbakwaNarcissists banokusebenzisa ngokupheleleyo imeko ezinokubakho kwiimvakalelo zokukuncancisa.

Ziyakwenza uzive ungalunganga

UMark wandixelela ukuba utata wakhe uzamile ukumkhohlisa ngokumxelela ukuba ubangele ingxaki engakanani kwaye ekuphela kwendlela yokulungisa le meko kukubuyela kusapho. “Utata wandixelela indlela endandimcaphukisa ngayo umama notata kwaye sawa ngenxa yokuziphatha kwakhe gadalala ngakumama. Ndityholwa ngalo lonke usapho olwahlukana nesisombululo ekuphela kwaso esacetyiswayo kukuba siphinde similisele unxibelelwano notata wam. Ndiyicacisile into yokuba andisafuni kunxibelelana nosapho lwam kwaye, ngoku bendikho, ndiziva ngathi kufuneka ndibuyele kuye ndiyokulungisa le ngxaki ".

Ziyakukhanyisa ngegesi

Ngelixa unokufumana kwisiphelo sokwamkelwa kwezipho, ukuncoma kunye nokubhengezwa kothando olungagungqiyo, unokuzibophelela ngokulinganayo ngokuziphatha okukhanyayo. I-narcissist inokuqhagamshelana nawe ngenjongo yokutshabalalisa ukuzithemba kwakho kunye nokwenza ukuba ubuze ingxelo yakho yeziganeko. Baya kuxoka ngokungathandabuzekiyo, bagqwethe iinyani, kwaye bakweyisele ekubeni ungumntu owoyikekayo onembono egwenxa. Usenokude uzive unombulelo kuba befuna ukuba nento yokwenza nawe.

Bayakuqinisekisa ukuba batshintshile

“Umntu endandithandana naye wandithumelela umyalezo omde esithi usebenze kuye kwaye utshintshile. Wandicenga ukuba ndibuye kwaye wathembisa ukuba izinto ziya kwahluka. Babengenjalo. Kwisithuba seeveki ezimbalwa wabe sele eqalile ukwenza ngendlela ezindala ezixhaphazayo ”, undixelele uDaniel. AbakwaNarcissist banokuncipha okuncinci xa kuziwa ekuxokeni kwaye baya kukuqinisekisa ngento nantoni na ukuba iyakubafumana le nto bayifunayo.

Inqaku lokubhabha kukufumana ubuye. Umnxibelelanisi we-narcissist uya kwazi ukuba athini na amanqaku akho obuthathaka kwaye nokuba uyakuxhaphaza, uyakucenga okanye udlale ixhoba yeyona ndlela isebenzayo yokukungenisa. Ungazifumana ukwimeko yokubhabha ngaphezulu kwesihlandlo esinye. Kwaye, kwabanye abantu, nokuba kukodwa kwanele ukukutsalela endaweni yengozi, umzekelo, apho kubandakanyeka ubundlobongela basekhaya. Ukuba ufuna uncedo lokwahlula ngokusisigxina kwi-narcissist, nceda ufune inkxaso oyifunayo.