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Izimvo ezibalulekileyo ngoncumo olukhulu.

Cwaka xa yazi bayakuva.

“Kodwa khange undixelele ukuba ndiyenzile lonto indlela. ”

Abantu abangxunguphalayo bayayazi indlela yokungena phantsi kolusu lwakho, kwaye ukwenza "i-LOL" emva koko ayizenzi ngcono izinto.

Ke ukuba udiniwe yimibhalo yokuthuka elandelwa ngo "jk!" okanye ugule kukufumana ngokucacileyo uchubekile kodwa amanqaku ngokucacileyo anomsindo ovela kumntu ohlala naye, ezi ngcebiso zezakho ... ngokungafaniyo ezinye abantu esibaziyo (ha! bona into endiyenzileyo apho?).

Ubundlongondlongo bodwa, ngokwenkcazo, bubugcisa obulungileyo bokuba nomsindo ngaphandle kokubonakala unomsindo.

Yikofu kunye nekrimu engenakuhlulwahlulwa yezithako ezibini: umsindo kunye nokuthintela.

Eyokuqala, ingqumbo-okanye inzala yayo iyacaphukisa, unxunguphalo kunye nokucaphuka-ihlala igcwele phantsi. Kodwa ukuzama ukuwubamba umsindo kufana nokuzama ukugcina isiciko sakho simbiza sinamanzi abilayo. Ekugqibeleni, umphunga womoya uya kuphuma.

Ukongeza kwintiyo efihliweyo, isithako sesibini kubundlongondlongo kukuthintela. Yindlela yokuphelisa ungquzulwano, ungaziva unomsindo wokwenene, kwaye uphephe ukungqala ngqo kwimeko apho umntu eziva engakwazi-ukuphumelela kathathu okuqinisa ngamandla umkhwa wobundlongondlongo.

Endleleni, uninzi lwabantu abangakhathaliyo bafundile ukuba akulungile ukuba nomsindo okanye ukucaphuka. Mhlawumbi bafundiswe ukuba ungquzulwano luyasongela kwaye kufuneka luthintelwe ngazo zonke iindleko. Mhlawumbi bafundiswe ukuba "kuhle" kwaye ungasigungqisi isikhephe kuphela kwendlela. Okanye mhlawumbi yindlela yabo yokubonisa ukungoneliseki ngaphandle kokuvukela.

Ke kufuneka wenze ntoni xa iqabane lakho linyanzelisa ngamazinyo adibeneyo, "Andiphambani." Okanye umntwana wakho okwishumi elivisayo uthi ngerola, “Geez, khange undixelele ukuba ufuna ndicule ingca namhlanje . ” Okanye umntu ohlala naye upela athi "Andikhuphi dreyini" kwiinwele zebhafu ezikhangeleka ngathi zirhanela njengezakho? Nazi iingcebiso ezi-5 zokuzama.

1. Jonga ukuba kukho ipateni. Inyani yile yokuba sonke singabantu, kwaye sonke sinemihla yethu. Ngamanye amaxesha amagqabantshintshi okanye umqulu wamehlo uya kuvuza ngokungathi kukugqabhuka okungahambi kakuhle.

Kodwa ukuba yipateni, okanye impendulo emiselweyo xa izinto zifumana uxinzelelo, ubundlongondlongo kufuneka kujongwane nabo.

Oko kwathethi, ukujongana nayo ngqo yile nto kanye umntu onobukrwada azama ukuyiphepha. Abantu abangakhathaliyo bayayiphepha ingxabano enjengee-turds ecaleni kwendlela. Kodwa ke inzondo iyakha kwaye umsindo wabo uyavuza ngaphezulu kwengubo yencanda. Oko kusizisa ...

2. Yenze icace into yokuba kukhuselekile ukuthetha ngayo. Abantu abangxungupheleyo benza ngendlela abayenza ngayo kuba boyika indlela oza kusabela ngayo. Banoloyiko lokuba uza kubangxolisa, ubalahle, uyeke ukubathanda, okanye ngenye indlela usabele ngendlela eyomelele ngakumbi kunokuba ungathanda.

Kubaluleke ngakumbi ukubiza ukungaziphathi kakuhle emsebenzini. Abalingane abasebenza ngokungakhathali bahlala bengonwabanga okanye bengakhuselekanga kwimisebenzi yabo. Kodwa endaweni yokucacisa ngokucacileyo umba njengento efuna ukusonjululwa, abo basebenzisana nabo abanoburhalarhume endaweni yoko baveza ukungoneliseki kwabo ngokudala imiqobo, ukuchitha ixesha, kwaye ngokubanzi ukwenza ukuba umsebenzi womntu wonke ube nzima ngakumbi, ungasathethi ke ngokuba mnandi.

Ke ngoko, nokuba usemsebenzini okanye usekhaya, yenze icace ukuba ungathanda ukuba umntu azise ingxaki ekukhanyeni kunokuba ayishiye ihamba-hamba phantsi kwesongelo. Ngokugxekayo, qinisa oku ngokungasabeli kwinto aboyikayo. Ukuba uvuthulula umphezulu wakho, ubathobe isidima, okanye kungenjalo uthulise umsindo wabo, baya kubuyela kwangoko kwigobolondo labo, njengononkala owaziwa yedwa onamazipho axhonywe ngaphandle.

Ngoku, ukuba uzama ukuyithetha kodwa basala ingqumbo okanye ukungoneliseki ("Mna? Ndiyaphila. Yonke into ilungile. Okanye ngequbuliso uye kwinqanaba elihluke ngokupheleleyo.

3. Kwimeko ezinganyangekiyo, ziqinisekise ... Ngamanye amaxesha, ubundlongondlongo bumiliselwe ngaphakathi buba yindlela emiselweyo yokujongana nehlabathi. Ngabantu abangafuniyo ukuba ndlongondlongo, ukongeza kuthintelo umsindo, bayaluphepha uxanduva.

Abantu abangakhathaliyo benza oku ukunqanda ukubhencwa njengokusilela (emva kwayo yonke loo nto, ukuba inja itya umsebenzi wabo wasekhaya, ngekhe ubanike i-F kuyo) okanye ukunqanda umsebenzi abacinga ukuba ulunge kakhulu kuwo (Ngubani ingaba utata ucinga ukuba unguye, esithi mandikhuphe ifosholo yokuhamba?)

Nangona kunjalo kuyabonakala, xa umntu ongenamdla esenza into yokuzikhusela, bazenza ixhoba. Oku kukubeka kwindawo enzima, kuba nokuba ungayibeka njani na, baya kubona iinzame zakho zokunxibelelana kwaye bakunyuse ukuphambuka kunye nesizathu. "Intoni? Ndikhuphe iitawuli kwisomisi njengokuba ubuzile-khange undixelele ukuba kufuneka ndenze njalo Songa kubo kwaye zisuse. ”

Ke ngoko, qala ngovelwano. Vuma ukuzithethelela kwabo, nokuba ujikeleze amehlo ngaphakathi. Ngoba? Kubalulekile ukuba uzilungelelanise nabo, kuba ukusebenza ngokuchasene nabo kuyatyibilika, kokona kulwa nabo. "Ndiyayifumana." "Ndiyaqonda." "Ndiyakuva." Yenze icace into yokuba niyasebenza kunye njengeqela. Kodwa ke ...

4. Benze baphendule. Abantu abangakhathaliyo baziphatha ngendlela abenza ngayo kuba babaleka. Ukuba bafumana ukupasa simahla ngenxa yokuba inja iwutye umsebenzi wabo wesikolo, ungabheja ukuba bayakuthi bawuthi nkxu umsebenzi wasekhaya wangokuhlwa kwi-gravy kwaye bayenze iphinde yenzeke.

Yamkele imeko yabo, zilungelelanise nabo, kodwa ke ubabambelele kuxanduva lwabo, nokuba (ngakumbi ukuba!) Kungalula ukubakhupha okanye wenze umsebenzi wakho ngokwakho.

Umzekelo, “Inja iwutye umsebenzi wakho wesikolo? Ndiyaxolisa ukuba kwenzeke kuwe. Oko kwenzeka kum amaxesha ambalwa-iyanuka. Nantsi enye ikopi — ungayihambisa ngomso kunye nomsebenzi wasekhaya wangokuhlwa. ”

Ngamafutshane, kukho ukuvuma kunye novelwano ngendlela yabo "yeha-mna-mna", kodwa imigangatho ayitshintshi. Kufanelekile ukuba kubekho inkxalabo kwicala lakho ukuze uyikhuphe kwi-bud. “Ndiyayiqonda ukuba awuyanga evenkileni kuba awukhumbuli ndikucela ukuba uthenge. Kodwa asikabikho kwisepha nakwintlama yamazinyo, ke siyabulela ngoku. ”

5. Kwaye ubabuyekeze xa bezimisele ngokufanelekileyo. Ukuba umntu ongapheliyo onobukrakra emva kwexesha uyakwazi ukubonisa ixesha, bonisa ulonwabo lokwenyani lokuba babekhona. Hayi ngokuhlekisa "Ndiyavuya ukukubona ngexesha elinye," kodwa ngoncumo olukhulu kunye nokubuza ngokunyanisekileyo malunga nezinto abakuzo kule mpelaveki.

Ngokukwanjalo, ukuba umntu ohleli ngokukhawuleza ukugqiba umsebenzi ngexesha, mnike indumiso abayifunayo ngokufihlakeleyo. “Heyi, ulapha kanye ichaphaza. Ndiyayixabisa ngokwenene loo nto. ”

Emva kwayo yonke loo nto, abantu abanesidima, abanxunguphalisayo, njengabo bonke abantu. Kwinqanaba labo, bafuna uthando kunye nokwamkelwa. Kwaye ngelixa beqinisekile ukuba kwenza kube nzima ukudlula kubunzima babo, ngeendlela ezithile ezilula, ungabanceda baziphathe kakuhle xa bekujikelezile, nto leyo ekufaneleyo ukuba iphoswe zii-imeyile ezikhumbuza ii-imeyile ezithunyelwa kubo bonke abasebenzi .

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