Ngaba Siphazamiseka?

Emva kokuba ndiphile phantse bonke ubomi bam ndinengxaki yokuphazamiseka kwengqondo okuguquguqukayo, ndiyazazi izinto ezininzi eziphambeneyo. Ndiyakwazi ukukuxelela konke malunga nangaphakathi kweewadi ezitshixwayo kunye neephedi zengqondo, umphumo wokuzama ukuzibulala, imiphetho engaphandle yempambano. Kodwa kubuhlungu njengamava am kulo Mhlaba, ndicinga ukuba unyaka we-2020 kufuneka ubekwe njengowona nyaka wonke we-craziest unyaka endakha ndawazi.

Ayibobhubhane nje kuphela nezopolitiko; yindlela eyiyo ngokwenyani ibonakala ngathi ithathe inqanaba lokutshintsha kwemilo. Kumntu onesifo sengqondo njengam, ofuna ngokwenene ukuba nexhala lokuphulukana nokunxibelelana nento eyiyo kunye nenganyaniyo, oku kuyaphazamisa ngokumangalisayo. Kodwa kufanele ukuba kubacaphukise nangakumbi abantu abangasetyenziswanga kukungaziphathi kakuhle kwe-bipolar disorder, abalindele ukuvuka kusasa kwaye namhlanje babe ngokufanayo izolo.

Ndiva kunyanzelekile ukuba ndithethe into kuba ndinexhala kakhulu ngento endiyibonayo isenzeka ebantwini ngoku, nakum. Senza oko sele kukubi ngakumbi.

Ndicinga ukuba ndinokuthenjwa ukukhala le alarm. Andizazi nje mna ngokwam ngokugula ngengqondo; Ndibhale iincwadi ezintathu ngayo. Njengommeli wempilo yengqondo kunye negqwetha, ndithetha ngalo mbandela kuzwelonke nakwamanye amazwe. Okwangoku, ndiyakwazi ukuzibona iimpawu zeengxaki kwabanye — kwaye ngokoluvo lwam, asikho emngciphekweni wokuphulukana nokulingana; sisesichengeni sokuphulukana nengqiqo.

Into endiyibonayo kukusasazeka okugwenxa kwengqondo: iindlela ezingekho ngqiqweni, ezingekho ngqiqweni zokucinga ngathi kunye nehlabathi elisingqongileyo, nto leyo ekhokelela kuloyiko, unxunguphalo, uxinzelelo, ingqumbo kunye nembambano phakathi kwabantu. Nje ugoogle ibinzana elithi “ubugqwetha bokuqonda,” kwaye uyakufumana uluhlu lwezona zixhaphakileyo zili-10, ezibonakala ngathi ziyindalo yesibini kuninzi lwethu kwezi ntsuku. Umzekelo:

• Ukucinga okumnyama nomhlophe, apho wonke umba kunye nomntu wonke elungile okanye engalunganga, elungileyo okanye embi
• Ukutshabalalisa, apho ikamva liza kutshabalala ngonaphakade
• Ukufunda ngengqondo, apho sithatha ukuba sele sazi ukuba abanye bacinga ntoni, ngaphandle kwesidingo sokubuza
• Umhlaba jikelele, phi yonke into yoyikeka, kwaye akhonto Yenza ingqondo

Isandi esiqhelekileyo? Ngethamsanqa, kuninzi esinokuyenza malunga nayo. Ukugqwethwa kwengqondo leliphondo lonyango lokuziphatha-ngokuziphatha ("CBT"), ethi uninzi lwezifundo zibonise njengeyona ndlela isebenzayo yonyango lwentetho oluqhutywa namhlanje. Ngelixa kufanelekileyo ukuba nesikhokelo sobuchwephesha kule nkqubo, kuninzi esinokukwenza ngokwethu ukulwa neengcinga zethu eziphosakeleyo.

Ukwazi nje ukuba ukucinga kwakho kunokubanjiswa sisiqalo esihle. Ngapha koko, isicwangciso esiliqili se-CBT kukuchonga ubugqwetha kunye nokucela umngeni kwingcinga. Umzekelo, ukuba uyaqonda ukuba ubandakanyeke ekucingeni okumnyama nomhlophe, zenzele ingxelo kunye nomthunzi ongwevu. Okanye ukuba uyintlekele, ziphoqelele ukuba ucinge ngento enye ephikisayo ephikisana nokungakhathali.

Sukucinga nje ukuba into oziva ukuba iyinyani: Khangela ubungqina obuqinisekileyo. Kunzima ekuqaleni, kodwa kuye kube lula ngokuziqhelanisa. Kwaye kubalulekile ukuba sifuna ukuqala ukucinga ngokucacileyo kwakhona-njengelizwe, kwaye njengabantu ngabanye.

Emva koko zisike kancinci. Akukho mntu ukhetha ukucinga ngokungenangqondo. Ukugqwetha kwengqondo kuvela njengempendulo yoxinzelelo; bayindlela ephosakeleyo yokumelana neziganeko ezimbi, kwaye iNkosi iyazi, sinesabelo sethu esihle kulo nyaka. Kodwa azisebenzi, zisishiya siziva silusizi, kwaye kuhlalutyo lweendleko-zoncedo, abafanelekanga ngumzamo okanye indawo abayithathayo kwiintloko zethu nakwincoko yethu yesizwe.

Kufuneka sifundiswe kwakhona indlela yokucinga. Yinto elula nje leyo. Asinakho ukutshintsha iimeko okhe sajongana nazo ngo-2020. Kodwa singatshintsha indlela esibajonga ngayo ngo-2021.