Ukubulela Nasemva Kokulahleka

Kule veki izayo, umama ebezakuba neminyaka engama-95. Ebemdala kakhulu, emdala kuneminyaka engama-85 ayifumeneyo. Okwangoku, nabantu esibathandayo, abaluphele ngokwaneleyo ukuba singadlula, kwaye ngokuqinisekileyo alilixesha elililo nangona bebadala. Ndiyamkhumbula umama wam, kwaye, ekuhambeni kwakhe, ndaziva ngathi ndilahlekelwe ngutata kwakhona, kuba ndaziva ngathi ngequbuliso Andinabazali. Nangona kunjalo, ndandinobunewunewu nesipho sokuba nabazali bam kunye nam iminyaka emininzi. Umhlobo wam othandekayo uMarion usweleke eneminyaka engama-49, eshiya abantwana bakhe abathathu. Babengenalo ithuba lokuba umama wabo aguge kunye nabo, kwaye babengenako ukwabelana naye ngamanyathelo abo amaninzi, ke ndiyazi ukuba ndanikwa isipho sexesha labazali bam. Ndiyabulela ngale nto.

Ukusweleka kukamama, ndaphinda ndavakalelwa ngenye indlela. Yayikukuqonda ukuba kwakungekho sizukulwana singasentla kwam esindikhusela kwinto eyayiza kuba sisikhundla sam esitsha njengomdala wosapho kunye nolandelayo kumgca wobomi bendalo. Emehlweni am, ndandisemncinci noko, kodwa ndathatha indawo yamabhinqa amadala kusapho lwethu olusondeleyo. Ilahleko indenze ndangena ngaphakathi ukukhulisa kungekuphela nje ukuthandabuza kwam kunye nemiceli mngeni, kodwa kwanombulelo wam.

Umama usoloko ekunye nam, kwaye ngamanye amaxesha ukulahleka kwakhe kunzulu kangangokuba ndiziva ngathi imiphunga yam ayinamoya. Ndisaziva ilahleko yakhe xa ndibamba umnxeba ngentsimbi yesi-4: 00 emva kwemini, ixesha ebesiza kuncokola ngalo imihla ngemihla, kodwa ndikhumbule ukuba akazukuhlala kwelinye icala. Kwesahlulo sesibini xa ndifuna ukwabelana ngeendaba, ndilibale ukuba akasekho. Kukubona into kumabonwakude endaziyo ukuba angathanda ukuyibukela, kwaye ndilibale, ndiphinde ndithathe umnxeba wam ukuze ndimfowunele. Ndiziva ndilusizi xa ndibona umfazi osele ekhulile, eguqulwe kancinci, engalweni yentombi yakhe eneminyaka engama-50 xa behamba kwindawo yokuthenga kunye, bethetha kwaye besabelana kwilizwe labo lokuqonda-intombi . Isikhumbuzo ngasinye kunye nokufezekisa, ukuphulukana nomama kuya kuba ntsha kwaye iintlungu zokuhlaba zihlale zikhawuleze kwaye zibukhali.

Kuba ubudlelwane bam nomama babunzulu kakhulu kwaye bunzima kakhulu, amava am okuphulukana naye ngokulinganayo anzima kwaye anzima. Ngelixa ndandimthanda ngogonyamelo, ngaphezulu kwakhe nawuphi na umntu obhinqileyo ongumdala ebomini bam, wayengoyena mntu wayenokundenza ndizive ndingaphantsi kunesandla somzimba esilula okanye imbonakalo yobuso okanye ukuvalelisa okungahambi kakuhle emnxebeni. Andizange ndizisole ngokundishiya kwakhe, kuba ndamxelela ukuba ndiyamthanda, kodwa ndise ndibuhlungu kukuba ngekhe sibe nolwalamano endandilufuna kwaye ndilufuna. Kodwa, ndiyazi ukuba wenze konke okusemandleni akhe njengomama kwaye ndiyamthanda ngenxa yalonto. Ngobudlelwane bethu, ndafunda ukuba ndinokukhetha iinkumbulo zobuntwana kunye nokuba ngumdala endinokuzithwala ubomi bam bonke.

Njengomrhumo kumama ngayo yonke into anokundinika yona, uLuhlu lwam Lombulelo luye kuye:

Ndiyabulela:

1. Uthando lwakhe olungenamiqathango koonyana bam.
2. Iidyasi ezifudumeleyo zasebusika, inkampu yezifundo, kunye neeholide awazinika amakhwenkwe am xa sasingakwazi ukufikelela kuzo.
3. Ingqondo yam yesimbo, konke oko kungenxa kamama.
4. Uthando lwam lomculo, ubugcisa kunye nolwimi, kuba waqinisekisa ukuba ndifumana izifundo zepiyano, izifundo zobugcisa, izifundo zaseSpain, kunye nesihlalo eSan Francisco Ballet.
5. Uthando lwam lweNutcracker, esasiyibona kunye lonke ixesha leholide xa ndandikhula.
6. Ndlela le ahleke ngayo into ehlekisayo wade walila, ibindenza ndihleke nam ndilile.
7. Uthando lwam lokufunda, kuba ebesoloko enencwadi ecaleni kwebhedi yakhe.
8. Isakhono sam sokupheka, kuba bendihlala ndimbukela epheka xa sithetha ekhitshini.
9. Indlela awayebathanda ngayo abahlobo bakhe, endifundisa ukwenza okufanayo.
10. Indlela awayemthanda ngayo umolokazana wakhe (umolokazana wam kunye nomhlobo wam osenyongweni) njengokuba wayethanda eyakhe intombi.
11. Uthando lukamama olungenamiqathango kunye nokuzinikela kutata, ngakumbi emva kwesifo esibuhlungu.
12. Ubaxelele njani abanye ngekratshi lakhe ngam naxa engandixeleli ngqo.
13. Ukuhamba kwakhe kwisidanga sobugqirha nangona wayekwisitulo esinamavili kwaye engonwabanga.
14. Ukwamkela kwakhe okokugqibela ngaphandle kokungafani kwethu.