Ukuqhawuka kwiipateni ezingazinzanga

"Singamaxhoba angenakuzinceda kwimeko yethu de sibe nolwazi." —UAjan Sumato

ULinda: Abanye bethu bangena emtshatweni benethemba kwaye abanye bethu bayazi ukuba singena nemithwalo enzima evela kwiintsapho zethu eziza kukhutshwa. Abo beza noloyiko olukhulu kunye neshishini elingagqitywanga elivela kwiintsapho zethu zemvelaphi bathambekele ekwenzeni iipateni ezingafezekanga kunye neqabane lethu de sazi ngakumbi ukuba zeziphi. Kuqhelekile ukuba sibambisane nemicimbi engatyhilwanga evela kusapho lwethu lwendalo, oluya kuthi lubangele ukuba sijonge iqabane lethu ngamehlo agxekayo, sisaphendula ngeendlela esone ngazo ebuntwaneni.

Xa ubunzima obungenakuphepheka busenzeka nakweyiphi na intsebenziswano, enye indlela eqhelekileyo kuye kukuzifaka kwindawo yexhoba elibuthathaka lomntu omkhulu owomeleleyo owenza iimpazamo eziphosakeleyo, okanye yena, ixhoba elingenakuzinceda legqwirha elikhohlakeleyo nelizingcayo. Enye indlela eqhelekileyo kukuzifumana siphulukene nemvakalelo yokungahoywa kunye nokungahoywa. Ukuba asiqapheli indlela ezinokuthi zinganiki amandla ngayo ezi ndlela zisebenzayo, ubudlelwane bunokuwohloka. Sicelwe umngeni ekwenzeni ukhuseleko olusivumela sobabini ukuba siphonononge ukuba zeziphi izinto ezindala ezenziwayo ukuze sijongane nazo ngokufanelekileyo.

Kungumsebenzi wokophula impendulo ezenzekelayo emadolweni yokugxeka xa izinto zingahambi kakuhle. Kodwa ngomzamo onyanisekileyo, sihlakulela imeko elungileyo. Ngelixa sifunda malunga neepateni zethu ezindala ezingazi nto, kunye nengxaki abayidalayo, sifumana inkuthazo yokwenza umsebenzi onamandla wokuzikhulula. Endaweni yokuzibona silixhoba, esithi siziphethe kakuhle.

Ukuzikhulula kwiipateni ezindala ezingenazakhono kufuna inqanaba eliphezulu loxanduva. Ngokwamkela ukuba sinamandla okuchaphazela ubomi bethu, siziva singaphantsi njengexhoba. Njengoko sithatha amanyathelo egameni lethu, siqinisekisa iimfuno zethu, kwaye samkela amandla ethu, siziqhelanisa nemfesane. Asixhomekeki kakhulu kwabanye abantu ukuba basikhathalele kwaye ngenxa yoko asisayi kuba sengozini yokurhoxa kunye nenzondo xa umhlaba ungasiphathi ngendlela esifuna ngayo.

Xa sinika ingqalelo kwixhoba lethu elikhalazayo langaphakathi, liyancipha, kunokuba lisilawule. Ixhoba alikho likhulu ekuthatheni inyathelo; kunokwenzeka ukuba kuthathwe amanyathelo ngawo. Xa uvuma ukuba ixhoba linenzondo kwaye libuhlungu malunga nantoni, amaxesha amaninzi kunokuthathwa amanyathelo okulungisa imeko.

Naxa singafuni ukuqhubeka nezithethe zakudala, sinokuthandabuza ukuba kunokwenzeka ukuzichitha. Ukuba asikayazi indlela yokwenza, kusenokwenzeka ukuba siyakudinga uncedo ngohlobo lomcebisi, iqela lenkxaso, iincwadi, kunye neeklasi ukuze sifunde ngakumbi iipateni zobuchule. Uncedo oluninzi luyafumaneka xa sikulungele ukuzifumana silufumana.

Zininzi iindlela apho iintsapho zifundisa abantwana. Abazali bazama ukwenza konke okusemandleni abo, kodwa banokunika kuphela inqanaba labo lokuqonda ebantwaneni babo. Kukho abaphambili kwimfuza ukongeza kwimodeli yokuziphatha kunye nokufunda. Kunokubakho utywala kusapho kwizizukulwana. Kunokubakho imbali yabantu basetyhini abagcina iimfihlo zamadoda malunga nemicimbi okanye umbulo. Kunokubakho ubushushu kunye nazo zonke iindlela zokukhohlisa. Kunokubakho ukurhoxa ngokweemvakalelo apho ilungu ngalinye lihlala kwilizwe labo, linqanyulwe kwamanye amakhaya apho banqwenela unxibelelwano lweemvakalelo kunye nenkxaso, njalo njalo.

Ukuhamba ngaphaya kweepateni ezonakalisayo kufuna ukuzimisela ukophula inkqubo yosapho. Kuya kufuneka siphule ukuthembeka okungabonakaliyo kusapho lwethu, kwaye senze indlela entsha. Le nkqubo iqala ngokuzisa iipateni ezingasebenzi kakuhle ukuya kulwazi olululo. Ukuzixelela inyani kuthi malunga nobukhulu beentlungu ezibangelwe zezi patheni kule minyaka idlulileyo iqala inkqubo yotshintsho. Kodwa lelo linyathelo lokuqala kuphela. Emva koko kuza umsebenzi onzima wamawaka wokuphindaphinda ezinye iindlela zokuziphatha kude kuqheleke into eqhelekileyo.

Umntu okhe wanengxaki yotywala iminyaka esiya kwiintlanganiso ezinamanyathelo alishumi elinambini kwaye uxelela ibali lakhe kaninzi-ninzi, ukugcina inyaniso ephezulu kwingqondo yakhe, kwaye suku ngalunye ukhetha ukuzola. Umsindo-holic uyakhetha, imihla ngemihla, ukubambelela kumsindo wakhe, kunye nokukhetha iindlela ezinobuchule zonxibelelwano. Xa abo bebesoloko begcina iimfihlelo zabanye, bebakhusela ngeendleko zabo, beqala ukuthetha inyani, inkqubo yokuphilisa iyaqhubeka.

Nje ukuba sikhululeke, siyazingca ngokuba siyekile iipateni ezingalunganga esizizuze njengelifa kusapho lwam. Xa ubungqina buqala ukungena, siyathemba ukuba asizukubuyela kubundlobongela bomlomo phantsi koxinzelelo. Siqala ukuthembela ekubeni asinakuze sibethe umntwana ukuba abaqeqeshe ngoku ekubeni sinokuzeyisa, kwaye siyazi ngakumbi indlela yokuyila yokugcina ucwangco endlwini. Ekugqibeleni sifunde indlela yokuthetha inyani, ngaphandle kwesityholo kunye nesigwebo esasidla ngokubonisa unxibelelwano lwethu xa sicaphukile. Asisatshayeli iingxaki phantsi kombhoxo kodwa sikhule ngokwaneleyo ukuba sikhulise izifundo ezinzima. Sifunda ukuthetha egameni lethu kwaye siziva sinengqondo enkulu yokufezekisa malunga neenguqu esizenzileyo zokukhula ngaphaya kwemeko yangaphambili.

Njengoko sifumanisa iipateni zethu ezindala ezingenabuchule kwaye sizidibanisa nazo, siziva sinamandla ngakumbi kwaye sinyaniseka ngakumbi kwaye sikhululekile. Njengoko sibona ubungqina buza malunga notshintsho lwethu, siqala ukuthembela ukuba abantu bayatshintsha ngokwenene. Asisoyiki ukuba sinamathele kwiipateni ezingenasakhono esizithathileyo kusapho lwam lwemvelaphi okanye kubudlelwane babantu abadala bangaphambili.

Singayivuyela imbono yokuba ngandlela thile, sihlawulela abantu basetyhini kunye namadoda kumnombo wookhokho bethu abaziva bengenamandla kubudlelwane babo, kwaye bephupha ngekamva xa abantwana babo nabazukulwana babo beya konwaba kukhuseleko kwaye bafumane ulonwabo kusapho. Singaba noxolo lwengqondo lokuba abantwana bethu abayi kuba nzima ukulwa neepateni ezindala ezibuhlungu; banako ukulwa neminye imingeni. Siyathemba ukuba senze umsebenzi owoyikekayo ekunikezeleni imeko-bume yabantwana bethu efanelekileyo kunaleyo besivela kuyo. Ukwazi ukuba iipateni ezingenabuchule ebezihleli kusapho kwizizukulwana ngoku sele zigqithile kusinika ulwaneliseko olumnandi.

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