Ukwakha isimilo kwiMidlalo yoLutsha

Kutshanje, bendifunda iposti yomhlobo kwimidiya yoluntu malunga neqela lebhola ekhatywayo yonyana wakhe uPop Warner. Bendilandele izithuba ukubona ukuba amakhwenkwe aqhuba njani na ekupheleni kokhuphiswano lwesizini. Umhlobo wam ebetshilo ukuba bangene kwixesha elongezelelweyo kathathu ukuze baphumelele umdlalo. Ndacinga ngaphakathi, Wowu, oko kuthatha unyamezelo kunye noqeqesho olunomonde . Ukongeza, ndacinga kum, Ngaba lo mqeqeshi unalo uqeqesho olwaneleyo lokuba akwazi ukumisela iimpawu zobuntu eziza kuchaphazela iimbaleki zakhe kwezi meko? Ngaba uyamazi umdlali ngamnye ngokwahlukeneyo ngokwaneleyo ukuba azi ukuba ngubani oza kunyuka anyukele kulo msitho? Kule minyaka, ngaba iimeko zichonga isimilo esithile?

Njengomqeqeshi ngokwam, kunye nomcebisi ngezemidlalo kwezengqondo, inkolelo yeyokuba iziganeko ezinje ngezi ziqala ukubumba ubuntu. Ubuntu buchazwa "njengesibalo seempawu ezenza umntu ukuba ahluke" (Weinberg noGould, 2015, iphe. 27). Abantu baziphatha ngokuguquguqukayo okubachaphazelayo kwindalo yabo. Kolu luhlu oluthile lwemidlalo, abaqeqeshi baqala ukubona iinkokeli ezisencinci ezinyukayo kwaye abanye abadlali bequbuda ngenxa yoxinzelelo lomdlalo. Ngamanye amaxesha akukho ndlela yokufumanisa ukuba abadlali abancinci bazakuphendula njani xa bejamelene nobunzima kunye noxinzelelo. Into elungileyo ngolu hlobo lokhuphiswano kukuba aba badlali basebancinci kwaye bayakwazi ukufunda ukuba bangobani kwaye bazakuphendula njani. Abadlali abanakusoloko bechonga ukuba bazakuphendula njani kwixesha elizayo. Banokukhetha ukuzama ukutshintsha isenzo sabo, kodwa basengadilika xa bejamelene nobunzima. Yile nto yakha isimilo kwaye ifundise izifundo ezingaphaya kweminyaka yabo. Ibuyela umva ukuya kulwa okanye ukubhabha.

Kukho into enokuthethwa ngokwakha isimilo nabantwana abajongana nemidlalo edala uxinzelelo olungaka. Xa aba badlali kwakufuneka badlale kathathu ngokusebenza ixesha elongezelelweyo, babedlala nje. Aba baqeqeshi kufuneka ukuba babenolwazi lokuzinza kunye nokuziphatha okukhuthaze ezi mbaleki zincinci ukuba ziphume kwaye zidlale ukuze ziphumelele.

Ngelixa kukho iimpawu ezisisiseko ezifakwe kubuntu, zininzi izinto eziya kuthi zibe negalelo kunyamezelo kunye nokuziphatha okungaguquguqukiyo ngexesha lokudlala. Ndinebhongo ngelithi iqela endithetha ngalo lisuka kwingingqi yam (Abington). La makhwenkwe afanelwe yiyo yonke into ayenzileyo kulo nyaka. Izifundo abazifundileyo kweli xesha lonyaka ziya kubathwala ubomi babo bonke. OoKudos kubaqeqeshi ngokungabatyhaleli abadlali abebemi ngasemva kancinci ngenxa yoxinzelelo, nanjengoko abanye abaqeqeshi bebeya kubaphosa abadlali ezingonyameni.

Xa siqeqesha abantwana, kufuneka sikhumbule ukuba baya kukhula ngeendlela ezahlukeneyo ngamaxesha ahlukeneyo nakwiimeko ezahlukeneyo. Ukubavumela ukuba bakhule njengoko aba baqeqeshi besenza, kolu luhlu luxinzelelo lwemidlalo lubonisa inkxalabo yokwenyani kubo bobabini abadlali nakwintlalontle yengqondo yabo. Ukuvumela la makhwenkwe ukuba ahlale phandle kusenokubakhuthaza ukuba baqhubele phambili okanye babancede ekuqondeni ukuba ukudlala ibhola akunakuba yinto abayifunayo. Akukho nokuba kungaphantsi, oku kube ngamava axabisekileyo okufunda kula makhwenkwe aya kuthi akhule kuwo njengeembaleki kunye nabantu. Kwakhona, Siyavuyisana ne-Abington Raiders kunye nabaqeqeshi babo.