Ngaba ungakuvumela ukuba uye phambili ukuze ukhokele ngcono?

Njengokuphazamiseka notshintsho olukhawulezileyo luqhubekeka nefuthe kwiindawo zokusebenzela kwihlabathi liphela, kuye kwacaca ngakumbi ukuba akusekho nyani ukuthembela kwiinkokheli zihlala zineempendulo, zithathe uxanduva lokufundisa, kwaye zikhokele abanye ukuba benze izinto. Kodwa iinkokeli zinokubakhokelela njani ngokufanelekileyo abanye xa ukungaqiniseki, ubunzima, kunye nokuphazamiseka sele kuyinto eqhelekileyo kwiindawo ezininzi zomsebenzi?

Indlela yokulawula nokulawula yobunkokeli icotha kakhulu, ayinamsebenzi, kwaye ayisasebenzi, ixesha elininzi, ”ucacisile u-Anne Scoular, ingcali eyaziwayo kwihlabathi lonke kwezokuqeqesha ishishini xa besisenza udliwanondlebe naye kutshanje. "Ngokwahlukileyo, indlela yokuqeqesha yobunkokeli ebuza imibuzo ukuze ikhuphe ezona zinto zilungileyo ebantwini bakho, emva koko ibathembe ukuba baqhubeke nazo, ingqina ukuba iyasebenza kakhulu, inikwa isantya esimangalisayo senguqu namhlanje."

Xa iinkokeli zithatha indlela yokuqeqesha, ziyaqonda ukuba ukuba zifuna ukuthotyelwa kwexesha elifutshane, ukuzama "ukuyalela" abantu babo ukuba batshintshe kuhlala kuyinkcitha xesha namandla abo. Endaweni yoko, bayaqonda ukuba ukuzibophelela kwexesha elide kufunyanwa ngokuthi "baqeqeshe" abantu ukuba baziqhelanise nokutshintsha kwemeko ngeendlela eziveza umdla, ubuchule, unxibelelwano, ukuzithemba kunye noxanduva lokuphendula.

"Ukucebisa ngokwesiko, ukubonisana, okanye ukucebisa 'kufaka ngaphakathi' umxholo ngendlela yolwazi kunye nokukhokelwa, ngelixa uqeqesho 'lukhupha' amandla esinawo ngaphakathi, utshilo u-Anne. "Kwaye wonke umntu udinga zombini - ukufakwa kunye nokukhutshwa."

Iinkokheli ezifundiswe ukuba zithathe indlela yokuqeqesha ziyakwazi ukukhusela ngokukhuselekileyo nangokufanelekileyo amandla emithambo-luvo, ezengqondo kunye nawentlalo yabantu babo ukwenza utshintsho kunye nokwenza inkqubela phambili. Uphando olwenziwe liLebhu yeeNkokeli lufumanise ukuba xa iinkokeli zithatha le ndlela, azipheleli nje ekufumaneni abantu bazo kwaye zinike utshintsho ngempumelelo, kodwa amaqela abo nawo anakho ukubika amanqanaba aphezulu okuphila.

Ukunceda iinkokeli zamkele isitayile sokuqeqesha kubunkokeli, u-Anne ucebisa oku kulandelayo:

• Thatha ixesha loqeqesho oluncinci- Khangela amathuba kutshintshiselwano oluncinci olukhawulezileyo onalo nabanye kwindawo yokubanda yamanzi okanye kwi-Zoom, ethatha ngaphantsi kwemizuzwana engama-30. Umzekelo, ukuba umntu uthi, "ndinokuninzi ngalo mzuzu," ungathatha indlela yoqeqesho ngokubuza nje, "Sele ucinga ntoni, okanye uza kwenza ntoni?" Ngale ndlela, unokufaka amandla kunye nobunini ubuyele emntwini. Kwaye ukuba uyakhawuleza kwaye uyinyani, ke amathuba awuyi kuqaphela ukuba kwenzeke ntoni kodwa baya kuziva benamandla. Njengomqeqeshi wenkokeli, unokuba namakhulu ala maxesha amancinci okuqeqesha kuyo yonke imihla yakho.
• Mamela ngokunzulu- Mamela, kungekuphela nje ngokungakhathali, kodwa ngokungathi ubomi bakho buxhomekeke kuyo. Ukumamela ngokwenyani kunokukhulisa ukuqonda kwakho kwaye kukunike iimbono ezahlukeneyo. Umzekelo, omnye umbutho u-Anne asebenze nawo uzibophelele ekulweni ukungabikho kokwahlukahlukana kunye nabasetyhini kwizikhundla eziphezulu zobunkokeli. Endaweni yokugxila kukhetho olungazi nto okanye uqeqesho lokwahluka, iinkokheli zanikwa izakhono kunye nemvume yokuphulaphula abanye ngokwenene. Njengokuba babemamele ngokunzulu ngeentliziyo zabo kubafazi babo abancinci nakubantu babo bebala, bothuswa yinto abayivileyo. Oku kubanike imbono entsha ngendlela elinokubakho ngayo ihlabathi, ngeendlela ekungekho zinxaxhi okanye uqeqesho lokungazi nto olunokuthi lubonelele, kwaye iziphumo ebezingalunganga zibe lutshintsho olwahlukileyo kwimibutho yabo.
• Cacisa kwiinjongo - Ngelixa kufuneka ubenakho ukungangqinelani nomxholo-Oko kukuthi, oko abanye bakhetha ukuthetha ngako-kuya kufuneka ukhokele kwaye ucace kwinkqubo, ngakumbi ezintlanganisweni. Amathuba kukuba, ubukhe kwiintlanganiso ezininzi ezaziziva ngathi kukuchitha ixesha ngenxa yokuba ungazi ukuba kutheni ulapho okanye ukuba wenzelwe ntoni. Ukubeka iinjongo zeentlanganiso zakho kunokwakha amandla akho embutho. Yenza iinjongo zakho zicace ngokuchaza ekuqaleni kwentlanganiso ukuba ulapha ngokukhethekileyo ukwenza iX, ngexesha leY, kwaye iZ sisiphumo osifunayo.

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