Imvumelwano engavunyelwanga ngumgaqo: Ukujonga imida enzima

Kwiminyaka yakutshanje, ingxoxo "yokungavumi ngokuvumelana," okanye "i-CNC," iye yaxhaphaka kwihlabathi le-kink kunye ne-sadomasochism (BDSM). Izimvo ze-CNC kukuphononongwa kwamandla, kunye nokususa amandla ngokupheleleyo, kwaye uzibeke ngokupheleleyo ezandleni zomnye. Ngelixa olu luvo loyikisayo kwabanye, kwabanye olo loyiko luguqulela ekubeni kukubaleka okunamandla.

I-Sadism kunye ne-masochism ichaza abantu abazibandakanya ekunikezeleni okanye ekufumaneni iintlungu, njengenxalenye yerepertoire yabo yesondo. Uphando lwangoku lucebisa ukuba iimpawu zokufuna ulonwabo, ukongeza, kunye nokuvuleleka kumava zizinto eziphambili ezitsala abantu ukuba bazibandakanye ekuziphatheni ngokwesini njengeBDSM (IBrown, iBarker kunye neRahman, i-2019; i-Wismeijer kunye ne-van Assen, i-2013). Njengokuba abanye abantu bexhuzula besiya “kwiadrenaline” - uhlobo lokuzonwabisa olufana nokubaleka esibhakabhakeni ngelixa abanye bekhetha ukunitha, abanye abantu bathambekele ekuziphatheni okuvuselela inkanuko yesini, ngelixa abanye bekhetha ukwenza uthando.

Ukuziphatha ngokwesondo kubandakanya ukubetha kunye nezinto ezinamandla, ubundlongondlongo, okanye ukongamela ziqheleke kakhulu kwaye azidibani nezifo okanye ukuphazamiseka ngokweemvakalelo (umzekelo, Joyal, 2015). Ngokwesiqhelo, kwiindlela zokuziphatha ze-BDSM, kukho abantu abazibandakanya nokuziphatha okubalaseleyo, okuqinisekileyo, okuba ndlongondlongo, okanye okuziphatha. Kwabanye, ukulawula kwengqondo okanye "imidlalo ephambili" yinto ephambili yamava, apho umntu othobelayo enyanzeliswa ukuba abe namava anamandla, anamandla, oyikisayo, kunye nokuzondeka, ngelixa kwimeko yokuthembela, ukuxoxisana kunye nokuvumelana.Ngelixa i-BDSM kunye ne-CNC zihlala zizokwabelana ngesondo, ezi ndlela zokuziphatha ngamanye amaxesha zibandakanya ukuphononongwa kwamandla kuphela, ngaphandle konxibelelwano olugqithisileyo.

Imvume yokuziphatha kwe-sadomasochistic ifumana uphando lwangoku (umzekelo, Carvalho, Freitas & Rosa, 2019), kwaye kukho iimodeli ezahlukeneyo okanye imigaqo-nkqubo yemvume esetyenziswe kwi-BDSM, kubandakanya: "Safe, Sane and Consensual," "Risk Aware Consensual Kink , ”“ Ukukhathalela, ukunxibelelana, ukuvuma kunye nononophelo, ”kunye“ nemvume eqhubekayo ”(Santa Lucia, 2005; Williams, Thomas, Prior & Christensen, 2014). Abantu abathatha inxaxheba kulungelelwaniso lwe-BDSM bahlala benolwazi ngakumbi ngemiba engavumelaniyo yemvume, kwaye banobuchule ekuthetheni ngemvume (Umz.Dunkley kunye neBrotto, 2019), nangona ukwaphulwa kwemvume kunye nokuhlaselwa ngokwesondo kusenzeka kula maqela. "I-Safewords" yinxalenye yothethathethwano lomsebenzi we-BDSM, apho abantu bachonga indlela (igama okanye isenzo esingacacisanga) apho baya kuphelisa khona umsebenzi ukuba banxunguphele, kwaye ibavumela ukuba bathi "hayi" kwaye bamelane okanye bazabalaze. , ngaphandle kokugqiba umsebenzi.

"Ukungavumi kwemvumelwano" kuchaza ukuzibandakanya kwiindlela zokuziphatha ezinokubandakanya ukudlala indima ekuziphatheni okungahambelaniyo nokuziphatha, okanye kunokubandakanya uthethathethwano lokuziphatha ngokwesondo apho elinye iqabane livuma ukunikezela ngemvume ngexesha lokuziphatha okuthile okanye ubudlelwane. Umzekelo, oku kunokubandakanya abantu abachazela amaqabane abo okanye abo banokuba liqabane labo ukuba bacinge ngokuxhwilwa badlwengulwe kwaye amaqabane ayavuma ukuyenza le nto njengendawo yokudlala indima "ebomini bokwenyani, ukuze kuzalisekiswe iphupha elifunekayo. “I-CNC” ichaza indlela apho abantu bavumelana ngokuvisisanayo kwangethuba ukuba ziziphathamandla ezinje ngokuziphatha kunye nokudlala indima. Ukungavumi kwemvumelwano kubonisa uhlobo lwabantu ababeka uxanduva nolawulo ezandleni zomnye umntu kwaye ebamema ukuba batyhale umntu ngaphaya kwemida yabo okanye bathathe uxanduva lokoyisa imiqobo yangaphakathi yokuthobela ukubandakanyeka kwiindlela zokuziphatha ezinqwenelekayo. Imvumelwano engavumelaniyo, ubukhulu becala, ibonisa uhlobo olugqithisileyo lokuchaphazela ukungabi namandla.

Kukho ingxoxo encinci ye-CNC kuphando kunye noncwadi lweklinikhi. Umxholo ohambelana noko "wokudlala ngokudlwengulwa" uye waphandwa kakhulu, uphando lubonisa ukuba yinto exhaphakileyo leyo. Izifundo ezahlukeneyo zibonisa ukuba phakathi kwama-30-60% abantu ababhinqileyo baxela iminqweno yesini yokudlwengulwa, ukurhwaphilizelwa, okanye ukuthathwa ngokwesondo ngokuchasene nentando yabo, malunga nesiqingatha sokuxela ukuba iingcinga ezinjalo zivusa umdla kubo (umzekelo, iBivona kunye neCritelli, 2009) . Kukho ulwazi oluncinci malunga nokuba bangaphi abantu ababhinqileyo abazibandakanya ezo zinto zinjalo kwimikhwa yabo yokuziphatha ngokwesondo njengendima yokudlala. Abasetyhini abaninzi banoloyiko lokuba ukwabelana ngezo ngcinga kungakhokelela ekubeni badlwengulwe, okanye abantu bakholelwe ukuba bafuna ukubethwa, nto leyo abangayifuniyo (iBivona kunye neCritelli, 2009). Xa izibini zizama ukufaka indima yokudlala indima kumdlalo wokuziphatha ngokwesini, kunokuba yinto enzima, eqaqambileyo, kodwa ihlala inomvuzo kwaye inomdla. (UJohnson, uStewart kunye noFarrow, 2019)

Umanyano lukaZwelonke lweNkululeko yezeSondo lwenze uphando kubantu ababandakanyeka kwi-BDSM ukuphanda ubungakanani kunye nohlobo lokuphulwa kwemvume kwabo benza i-BDSM. Phakathi kwabaphenduli abangaphezu kwamawaka amane, i-29% ixele ngembali yokwaphulwa kwemvume, ukusukela ekuphathaphathaneni nasekuchukumiseni ukungena kumzimba ongathandabuzekiyo. Amashumi amane eepesenti axele ukuba bazibandakanye ngokuzithandela kwimidlalo ye-CNC kunye nokuziphatha, apho "umntu omnye okanye abantu abaninzi banikezela ngelungelo lokurhoxisa imvume ngalo lonke eli thuba." Kulabo babekhe babandakanyeka kwi-CNC, yi-14% kuphela eyabika ukuba umda wabo obekuxoxiswene ngawo waphulwe kwindawo ye-CNC okanye kubudlelwane, okwisiqingatha sezinga lokuphulwa kwemvume okuxelwe kwisampulu ngokubanzi. Kuphela yi-22% yabantu ababandakanyeka ekuziphatheni kwe-CNC baxela ukuba banamava okwephula umthetho nanini na, xa kuthelekiswa ne-29% yesampulu ngokubanzi. Ababhali bacebisa ukuba "ingxoxo eyongeziweyo kunye nothethathethwano oluthatha inxaxheba kwi-CNC sesinye sezitshixo zokufumana imvume enolwazi ngokupheleleyo." (Wright, Stambaugh kunye neCox, 2015., iphe. 20)

Ubudlelwane "bekhoboka-likhoboka" luhlobo oluqhelekileyo lobudlelwane be-BDSM obungavumelaniyo, apho abantu bathetha-thethana ngobudlelwane obufanayo apho elinye iqabane livumela elinye ukuba lilawule yonke imiba yobomi bakhe. Ubudlelwane bobukhoboka nobenkosi bunqabile, kodwa bukhona, kwaye bafundwa ngo-2013 nguDancer, uKleinplatz, noMoser. Bafumanise ukuba ngokudibanisa imicimbi yobomi bemihla ngemihla enje ngemisebenzi yasekhaya kunye neendlela zemihla ngemihla kumandla okwahlulahlula amandla ebomini babo, abathathi-nxaxheba bandise imida yomdla wabo we-BDSM ngaphaya kwemisebenzi yesondo. Nangona bekukho umbono kunye nomgaqo "wokuzithoba okupheleleyo," "amakhoboka" athe athethathethana ngokungavumelani ngokuvumayo ayesebenzisa inkululeko yokuzikhethela xa efuna ukwenza okusemandleni abo. Phantse isiqingatha "samakhoboka" kolu phando sichaze ukuba babekhe babona ukuba bayakwazi ukwala imiyalelo evela kwinkosi yabo, bakuba nje bengene kubudlelwane babo. Amashumi asixhenxe anesine eepesenti "amakhoboka" axele ukuba babekhe baziphatha ngendlela ebebonakala ngathi ayinakwenzeka kubo, nanjengoko bebe "tyhalwa ngaphaya kwemida yabo" yinkosi yabo.

Imvumelwano engavumelaniyo, ubudlelwane phakathi kwamakhoboka, ukuthanda ukudlala, kunye ne-BDSM ngokubanzi zizinto zeengxoxo ezaziwa kakhulu kwi-Intanethi kwimidiya yoluntu. Ngelishwa, njengayo yonke into ekwi-Intanethi, ezi ngxoxo zinokubandakanya ulwazi olubi okanye olungalunganga njengoko zisenza izimvo ezisempilweni okanye ezilungileyo kunye nezinto eziphathekayo. Abanyangi ngokwesondo kunye neeklinikhi ezinje ngam rhoqo ndidibana nabantu abanolwazi malunga nokwenza i-BDSM, i-CNC, okanye ezinye iindlela zokuziphatha ngokwesondo zivela ngokupheleleyo kwimithombo ye-Intanethi, kwaye iqulethe ulwazi oluninzi lokurhanela kunye nolungenampilo.

Ukuqondwa kweklinikhi kunye nesayensi malunga nokuxhaphaka, indalo, kunye ne-etiology yokuzibandakanya ngokwesini ngaphandle kwemvume kwizenzo zesondo kusebusaneni. Uphando kunye nomsebenzi weklinikhi ojikeleze le micimbi uyaqhubeka, kodwa le ndawo yokuziphatha ngokwesondo nayo iya ikhula njengoko ikhula, isenza ukuba kube ngumngeni ekucingeni ngokupheleleyo okanye kwisakhelo. Kucacile ukuba abantu abaninzi bacinga ngokuba kwiimeko zesondo apho bangakwazi ukubaleka okanye ukugqiba amava. Bambalwa abantu abenza ezo zinto kubomi bokwenyani ngokudlala indima, xa kuthelekiswa nefantasy, nangona kubonakala ngathi kunqabile ukwenza njalo. Yenziwe ngemvume, ukuzazisa, uthethathethwano kunye nonxibelelwano, kubonakala ngathi ukudibanisa izinto ezingavumelaniyo kwimikhwa yokuziphatha ngokwesondo kunokuba yinto esempilweni kunye nokuzalisekisa isini kwabanye abantu, ebavumela ukuba bandise imida yabo yesini.

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