Ukufuna Abazali: Iindlela ezi-7 ezingalunganga

Umxholo

• Izimvo zokuthintela iingxaki kwimfundo ngabazali abanolindelo oluphezulu.
• Ukufuna kakhulu: xa uqeqesho kunye nomzamo usiya kude
• Iimpazamo ezi-7 eziqhelekileyo ezivela kwiimfuno eziphezulu zabazali
• 1. Overextension ayonyusi intsebenzo
• 2. Ukunganyamezelani iimpazamo
• 3. Ukugqithisa kokugqibelela akulunganga
• 4. Kuyalindelwa izinto ezingenakulindeleka
• 5. Ukufuna kakhulu kunokubangela ukungazithembi kunye nokuzithemba okuphantsi
• 6. Ukugxila ekuthobeleni kunokubangela ukunqongophala kokuzixhasa
• 7. Inokubangela iingxaki kubudlelwane bomntu
• Iingcebiso zokuphepha ezi mpazamo
• Khapha okungcono kunokuyalela
• Xabisa umzamo wabo hayi impumelelo yabo

Izimvo zokuthintela iingxaki kwimfundo ngabazali abanolindelo oluphezulu.

Ukukhulisa nokufundisa umntwana kakuhle akukho lula. Nangona uninzi lwabazali lufuna okona kulungileyo kubantwana babo, ayizizo zonke izifundo ezisebenza ngendlela efanayo ngeendlela ezahlukeneyo zokufundisa. Ke, amaqhinga emfundo asetyenzisiweyo ayisoloko eyiyeyona nto ifanelekileyo yokufumana ukuzimela kunye nokukhula ngokuchanekileyo komntwana.

Ukuzikhusela ngokugqithisileyo, ubungqongqo, ubungqindilili… konke oku kungakhokelela ekubeni abantwana benze umbono wokwenyani onokuthi okanye ungakhange ulungiselele ukuziqhelanisa ngokuchanekileyo neemeko ezibalulekileyo abahlala kuzo. Kuzo zonke ezi mpawu zeentlobo ezahlukeneyo zemfundo sinokufumana ibango elibaxiweyo, ezinokubangela iingxaki ezahlukeneyo ebantwaneni. Ngesi sizathu, eli nqaku liza kugxila ekufuneni abazali kunye nezinto ezisixhenxe abaphosakeleyo ngazo.

Ukufuna kakhulu: xa uqeqesho kunye nomzamo usiya kude

Zininzi iindlela zokufundisa. Indlela yokuziphatha esiyisebenzisayo xa sifundisa abantwana bethu, indlela abanxibelelana ngayo abazali nabantwana, indlela abafundiswa ngayo, baqiniswe, bakhuthazwe kwaye bavakaliswa yile nto ibizwa ngokuba yindlela yabazali.

Kuqhelekile ukuba, kuluntu olwandayo nolunamandla, iintsapho ezininzi zikhetha ukuzama ukufaka uqeqesho kwinzala yazo, zizama ukubethelela inkcubeko yomzamo kunye nokukhuthaza abantwana babo ukuba bahlale benqwenela ubuninzi kwaye bafune ukufikelela kwimfezeko. Ezi ntlobo zabazali bavame ukufuna ukuba inzala yabo isebenze, yenza umzamo ongcono kakhulu kunye nokufezekisa zonke iinjongo ezicetywayo kubo ngokufanelekileyo kangangoko.

Abazali abafunwa ngokugqithiseleyo bathambekele ekubeni nesitayile sobuzali sobuzwilakhe, esibonakala ngokuba ngokungagungqiyo kwaye ayithethi kakhulu uhlobo lonxibelelwano, kunye nolawulo olucacileyo kunye nokubonelela ngemithetho ecacileyo nengqongqo, enika ukuzimela okuncinci emntwaneni kwaye ibonise inqanaba eliphezulu lolawulo kunye nolindelo olukhulu kubo. Nangona kunjalo, nangona uqeqesho kunye nomzamo zibalulekile, ukugqitha kwesidingo kunokubangela ubunzima ekukhuleni kwengqondo-neemvakalelo zabantwana, ezinje ngezo zinokubonakala ngezantsi.

Iimpazamo ezi-7 eziqhelekileyo ezivela kwiimfuno eziphezulu zabazali

Sebenzisa imfuno ngamanye amaxesha njengendlela yokwandisa intsebenzo kunokuba nokusebenza. Nangona kunjalo, ukuba yindlela yokuziphatha engaguquguqukiyo kwaye ayihambelani nonxibelelwano olusebenzayo kunye nokubonisa iimvakalelo ezihambelanayo, kwezinye izifundo le ndlela yokufundisa inokuba negalelo ekubangeleni iingxaki zokuziqhelanisa ezahlukeneyo.

Ezinye zeempazamo ezenziwa ngabazali abafuna ngenkani ngakumbi zibandakanya oku kulandelayo.

1. Overextension ayonyusi intsebenzo

Ngelixa ukukhuthaza iinzame kunye nokuphucula iziphumo kunokuba luncedo ekwandiseni ukusebenza kwangexesha, ukugcina inqanaba eliphezulu lemfuno ngokuhamba kwexesha kunokuba nefuthe elichaseneyo: ukusebenza kungancipha Ngokucinga ukuba ayonelanga, okanye ngenxa yokuzingisa kophando lweziphumo ezifunyenweyo.

2. Ukunganyamezelani iimpazamo

Kuqhelekile ukuba kufunwe abazali ukuba bangaqinisekisi ngokwaneleyo kwimizamo yabantwana babo, nangona kunjalo beqaphela ubukho bezinye iimpazamo. Ngesi sizathu, umbono odluliselwe ebantwaneni kukuba impazamo yinto embi, kwaye kufuneka ithintelwe. An ukunganyamezelani kwimpazamo yenziwa njalo, ezinokukhokelela kwinqanaba elilandelayo, ukuzalwa kokugqibelela.

3. Ukugqithisa kokugqibelela akulunganga

Ukufunwa okungaphezulu kobuntwana kunokubangela abantwana bazive ukuba into abayenzayo ayonelanga, bengaziva banelisekile zizinto abazenzayo ebomini babo bonke. Ke, aba bantu bakhulisa isidingo sokwenza konke okusemandleni abo, befuna ukugqibelela. Ekuqhubekeni, oku kuthetha ukuba abantu abayigqibi imisebenzi, kuba bayaziphinda-phinda ukuzenzela ukuphucula.

4. Kuyalindelwa izinto ezingenakulindeleka

Ukukholelwa kumakho akho nakwabanye kulungile. Nangona kunjalo, Olu lindelo kufuneka lube sengqiqweni. Amathemba aphezulu kakhulu kwaye angenakufezekiseka abangela unxunguphalo ngokungakwazi ukuhlangabezana nawo, nto leyo enokuthi ikhokelele ekuziboneni okungalunganga kobuchule bomntu.

5. Ukufuna kakhulu kunokubangela ukungazithembi kunye nokuzithemba okuphantsi

Ukuba ibango alilandelwa kukwamkelwa iinzame ezenziwe, umntwana ngekhe uzive ukuba iinzame zabo bezikulungele. Ekuhambeni kwexesha banokuphuhlisa iingxaki ezinzima zoxinzelelo kunye noxinzelelo, kunye nokungabikho koncedo olufundwe kukucinga ukuba iinzame zabo azizukutshintsha iziphumo.

6. Ukugxila ekuthobeleni kunokubangela ukunqongophala kokuzixhasa

Ukwenza umntwana agxile kakhulu kwinto anokuyenza kunokubangela ukuba angayihoyi into afuna ukuyenza. Ukuba le meko iyaqhubeka, uthe umntwana ebudaleni uya kuzisa iibhloko zovakalelo kwaye ukungakwazi okanye ubunzima bokuzikhuthaza, kuba abakagqibi ukuphuhlisa iimfuno zabo ebuntwaneni.

7. Inokubangela iingxaki kubudlelwane bomntu

Abantwana babazali abafuna ngenkani kakhulu baqhele ukufunda inqanaba lemfuno kubazali babo, kwaye bayivelise kwakhona kwixa elizayo. Ngale ndlela, kunokuba nzima ngakumbi kubo ekuhlaleni ngenxa ye- inqanaba eliphezulu leemfuno abanokuthi bazibonakalise bobabini kunye nabanye abantu kubudlelwane babo.

Iingcebiso zokuphepha ezi mpazamo

Izinto ezichaziweyo ukuza kuthi ga ngoku ikakhulu zibangelwa bubukho boxinzelelo oluphezulu kunye nokulindelweyo, ukunganyamezelani kweempazamo kunye nokusilela kokuqiniswa kokuziphatha komntu. Nangona kunjalo, inyani yokuba ngumzali onzima ayithethi ukuba ezi ngxaki ziyavela, kwaye ziyavela inokuthintelwa ngonxibelelwano olwaneleyo kunye nembonakalo yeemvakalelo. Ezinye iingcebiso okanye iingcebiso xa kuziwa ekuphepheni ukusilela okubonisiweyo kunokuba koku kulandelayo.

Khapha okungcono kunokuyalela

Uxinzelelo aba bantwana luziva luphezulu kakhulu, ngamanye amaxesha bengakwazi ukwenza into abanokuthanda ukuyenza kwinqanaba elifunwa ngabo babathandayo. Ukuthintela oku, kuyacetyiswa ukuba izinto ezilindelweyo zidluliselwe ebantwaneni ziyinyani kwaye zilungelelaniswe namandla aboniswe ngumntwana, ukunqanda ukubaxa izinto.

Ngokumalunga nokunganyamezelani kweempazamo, oku akwenzeki ukuba umntwana ochaphazelekayo ufundiswe ukuba ukwenza iimpazamo akukubi okanye akuthethi ukusilela, kodwa lithuba lokuphucula nokufunda. Kwaye nokuba kwimeko yokusilela, oku akuthethi ukuba bayeke ukubathanda.

Xabisa umzamo wabo hayi impumelelo yabo

Inxalenye enkulu yengxaki eveliswa lolu hlobo lwemfundo yile ukusilela ukuxabisa iinzame ezenziweyo. Isisombululo kukujonga ukubaluleka komzamo owenziwe ngabantwana, ngaphandle kweziphumo, kunye nokunceda lo mzamo ufikelele kwiziqhamo. Oku kubaluleke ngakumbi xa umntwana esenza into ngokuchanekileyo, apho ngamanye amaxesha angazincomi njengezinto eziqhelekileyo nezilindelweyo.

Ukuzithemba kubuchule babantwana kubalulekile ukuze ubakhuthaze kwaye wandise ukuzithemba kwabo. Ukuze ungazehlisi amandla abantwana, kuyacetyiswa ukuba kukho into ofuna ukuyilungisa, zama ukubonisa ngendlela elungileyo kwaye ungakhange ugxekwe, okanye konke konke, kugxile kwimisebenzi okanye kwinjongo .