Nciphisa ubunzima obunzima

Umxholo

• Ukuziqhelanisa:
• Ngoba?
• Njani?

• Ezinye iimvakalelo ezibuhlungu zinokusebenzela injongo, njengokulumkisa abantu kwizisongelo okanye ukubathintela ekuphindaphindeni impazamo ebiza kakhulu.
• Ukuqhubeka kokubandezeleka, nangona kunjalo, kunokuba noluhlu lweziphumo ezibi zomzimba kunye neemvakalelo.
• Ukuyeka amava abuhlungu, hlakulela ulwazi, ujonge inkuthazo engeyiyo, thintela "ukungabikho koncedo olufundileyo," kwaye uqaphele ukungakhathali kubudlelwane.

Ngaba uziva iintlungu ezingafunekiyo?

Ukuziqhelanisa:

Nciphisa ubunzima obunzima .

Ngoba?

Amava abuhlungu aqala kukungonwabi okufihlakeleyo ukuya kwintlungu engathethekiyo-kwaye kukho indawo yabo. Usizi lunokuyivula intliziyo, umsindo unokuqaqambisa ukungabikho kokusesikweni, uloyiko lunokukwazisa ngezisongelo zokwenyani, kwaye ukuzisola kunokukunceda uthathe indlela ephezulu ngexesha elizayo.

Kodwa ngaba ngokwenene kukho ukunqongophala kokubandezeleka kweli hlabathi? Jonga ubuso babanye-kubandakanya obam okanye obakho esipilini-kwaye ubone iimpawu zokudinwa, ukucaphuka, uxinzelelo, ukuphoxeka, ukulangazelela kunye nokukhathazeka. Kukho imiceli mngeni emininzi ebomini-kubandakanya ukugula okungenakuphepheka, ukuphulukana nabantu obathandayo, ukwaluphala, kunye nokufa-ngaphandle kokufuna icala kwingqondo yakho ukukunika idosi eyongezelelweyo yeentlungu suku ngalunye.

Nangona kunjalo, njengoko bekuphononongwa kwangaphambili, ingqondo yakho yavela kanye "nokuthambeka okungathandekiyo" ukuze uncede ookhokho bakho badlulise imfuza yabo -ukukhetha okuvelisa umonakalo omkhulu namhlanje.

Amava abuhlungu angaphaya kokungonwabisi. Zivelisa ingozi ehlala ihleli kwimpilo yakho yasemzimbeni nasengqondweni. Xa uziva utyhafile, ucinezelwe, uphantsi, kunzima kuwe, okanye ukhathazekile, ukuba:

• Yenza buthathaka amajoni akho omzimba
• Ukuphazamisa ukufunxwa kwezondlo kwinkqubo yakho yesisu
• Yandisa ukuba semngciphekweni kwinkqubo yentliziyo yakho
• Ukunciphisa iihomoni zakho zokuzala kunye nokunyusa iPMS
• Ukuphazamisa inkqubo yakho yeemvakalelo

Khawuqwalasele isaci esidumileyo esithi: “IiNeurons ezidubula kunye, zibambane ngocingo.” Oku kuthetha ukuba amava abuhlungu aphindaphindwayo-nditsho nawobumnene — athambekele eku:

• Yandisa ukungabi nathemba, unxunguphalo kunye nokucaphuka
• Yehlisa imood yakho
• Ukunciphisa amabhongo kunye nokuthatha umngcipheko

Kwisibini, amava akhathazayo akhuthaza ukungathembani, ukukhulisa ubuntununtunu kwimicimbi emincinci, umgama kunye nemijikelezo ekhohlakeleyo. Kwizikali ezinkulu kakhulu — phakathi kwamaqela okanye izizwe — zenza ngokufanayo.

Ke, musa ukuwathatha kancinci amava abuhlungu, nokuba ngawakho okanye, ngokunyaniseka, lawo ubanika wona.Bathintele xa unakho kwaye ubancede badlule xa ungakwazi.

Njani?

Kule veki, yima ngokwakho, ukuze uzive ulunge kangangoko unako. Ukuma ngokuthwala amava abuhlungu xa behamba ngomnyango-kwaye ubakhuthaze ukuba baqhubeke nokuhamba, yonke indlela ephuma ezingqondweni zakho.

Oku ayikokulwa nokungonwabi okanye uxinzelelo, olunokongeza ukungakhathali, njengokuzama ukucima umlilo ngepetroli. Endaweni yoko, bububele kuwe, ulumkile, kwaye unyanisekile malunga nefuthe eliyingozi lamava abuhlungu.

Ngapha koko, uthetha ngokwakho into oza kuyithetha kumhlobo wakho osenyongweni xa usentlungwini: Ndifuna uzive ungcono, kwaye ndiza kukunceda. Zama ukuthi kuwe engqondweni yakho ngoku. Uziva njani?

Xa iintlungu zemvakalelo zisiza, nokuba zithambile, zama ukuzibamba kwindawo enkulu yokwazisa. Kwisikweko sendabuko, cinga ukuvuselela icephe elikhulu letyuwa kwikomityi yamanzi emva koko uyisele: yuck. Kodwa khawufane ucinge ukugalela elicephe kwibhakethi elinamanzi acocekileyo ze uphinde usele ikomityi: Ikwayile nto ityuwa-elinganayo ixhala okanye unxunguphalo, ukuziva ungonelanga okanye uluhlaza-kodwa ubambe kwimeko enkulu. Qaphela ukuba ulwazi ngaphandle kwemiphetho, alunamda njengesibhakabhaka, kunye neengcinga kunye neemvakalelo ezidlulayo.

Engqondweni yakho, jonga indlela ulwazi olubi, iminyhadala, okanye amava anokubonakala ngathi angaphaya kwamandla ezinto ezilungileyo. Umzekelo, abaphandi bafumanise ukuba abantu ngokwesiqhelo baya kusebenza nzima okanye babekezelele i-crud ngakumbi ukunqanda ukulahlekelwa yinto kunokufumana into efanayo. Kwaye baziva bengcoliswe sisiphoso esinye kunokuba baziva behlanjululwe okanye baphakanyiswa zizinto ezintle ezininzi. Zama ukutshintsha oku; Umzekelo, khetha ezinye zeempawu zakho ezintle kwaye uqhubeke nokubona indlela ezibonakala ngayo ebomini bakho kule veki.

Lumka nanini na xa uziva unesitayile, ukhathazekile, okanye uphoxekile. Abantu (kunye nezinye izilwanyana ezincancisayo) basemngciphekweni wento ekuthiwa “kukungancedi okufundileyo” -ukukhulisa imvakalelo yokungenamsebenzi, yokungakwazi ukusebenza, kunye nokungakhathali. Gxila kwindawo okhoyo kuyo unako yenza umohluko, apho unamandla khona; inokuba ngaphakathi kwengqondo yakho kuphela, kodwa kungcono kunokuba ungabinanto kwaphela.

Kubudlelwane bakho, khumbula ukuba usabele ngamandla kwisiganeko esinye esibi kunokuba uye kwiqela lezinto ezintle. Umzekelo, uphononongo lubonakalisile ukuba ihlala ithatha unxibelelwano oluqinisekileyo ukwenza ukudibana okungalunganga. Khetha ubudlelwane obubalulekileyo, emva koko unikele ingqalelo kwinto esebenzayo kuyo; zivumele ukuba uzive kamnandi ngezi zinto. Jongana neengxaki kolu lwalamano, ngokuqinisekileyo, kodwa zigcine ngendlela efanelekileyo.

Ngokubanzi, nanini na ukhumbula, thambekela ngabom kwizinto ezintle engqondweni yakho. Oko akujongi kwihlabathi ngeglasi enombala ophakamileyo. Ngokunikezela ngokungakhathali kwingqondo, ulungelelanisa kuphela indawo yokudlala.