Iingcebiso ezintlanu kulutsha lokuba ngumzali

Umxholo

• Amanqaku aphambili
• 1. "Mikhulu ngokwaneleyo ukuba isilele."
• 2. Hlala kunxibelelwano, nokuba kubonakala ngathi usisiqhwala.
• 3. Ulutsha "olunomsindo" lunokuba lusizi, ludandatheke, kwaye lusentlungwini.
• 4. Ungangqinelani okanye ungqine ukungabi nantlonelo, intetho etshabhisayo okanye isenzo.
• 5. Babambe benza izinto ezintle.

Amanqaku aphambili

• Abakwishumi elivisayo badala ngokwaneleyo ukuba bangazenza iimpazamo kwaye bafunde kubo.
• Asinakukulawula oko kuthethwa okanye kwenziwa ngabakwishumi elivisayo, kodwa sinezwi kwinto esiyithethayo okanye esiyenzayo ukubaphendula.
• Ukuwasebenzisa ngocoselelo loo mandla kunokwenza imimangaliso ekukhuliseni ulutsha.

Ukuba ngumzali kulutsha kunokuba yinkohliso. Bafuna ukukhula ngoku ngoku, kodwa basadinga inkxaso yabazali njengoko behamba nemiceli mngeni yobomi kunye nemingxunya. Nazi ezinye iingcebiso kubazali abakwishumi elivisayo ukuba bazigcine engqondweni:

1. "Mikhulu ngokwaneleyo ukuba isilele."

I-riff kwi-catchphrase "inkulu kakhulu ukuba ingaphumeleli," eli phupha lithetha ngokuvumela abantwana ithuba lokwenza izigqibo zabo kunye nokufumana iziphumo zendalo. Badala ngokwaneleyo kwi-13, 15, okanye i-19 iminyaka ubudala ukuba bangcolise kwaye bafunde okuthile kuyo. Ukuba abazali babahlangula ngalo lonke ixesha, ulutsha lufunda ukuba akukho ziphumo kumashishini ayingozi okanye angakhathaliyo. Ukuze bafunde ukuzimela ngokuthe ngcembe, kufuneka sikwazi ukuma emva sibakhuthaze ukuba baziphendulele.

2. Hlala kunxibelelwano, nokuba kubonakala ngathi usisiqhwala.

Wonke ugqirha uyalazi ixabiso lokubuza imibuzo evulekileyo. Kodwa naxa abazali besamkela esi sicwangciso kwaye bexubusha abancokolayo, ulutsha lunokuba ziiminimalists ezimangalisayo. Umbuzo oqinileyo, onje ngokuthi "Bekunjani esikolweni namhlanje?" inokufumana impendulo "Kulungile" kwaye akukho nto iyenye.

Oku kunokuba yinto enxunguphalisayo okanye icace tedious emva kweenyanga (okanye iminyaka), kodwa icebiso lam lelokuba qhubeka kuyo . Ukuyeka ngokupheleleyo kunokubonwa njengokunqongophala komdla okanye ukukhathalela okanye, okubi nangakumbi, luphawu lokuba umntu uphazamiseke kakhulu okanye uxakekile ukuba angalichitheli ixesha okanye amandla kwimisebenzi yokuphatha yokuba ngumzali. Ke, ukubhengeza amaza avulekileyo kuvulekile!

3. Ulutsha "olunomsindo" lunokuba lusizi, ludandatheke, kwaye lusentlungwini.

Abakwishumi elivisayo badume ngokuba ngabavukeli okanye ngaphandle kwesizathu kwaye banokuqhuma malunga nayo nantoni na. Kodwa ngaphambi kokufumanisa ukuba ulutsha lunomsindo okanye luyaphikisana, cinga ngeziganeko zamva nje ezinokuba negalelo kuxinzelelo lweemvakalelo okanye kwimo yokuphazamiseka. Ngaba ilungu losapho okanye umhlobo ugule, okanye udlulile, kwiinyanga ezidlulileyo? Ngaba umhlobo obalulekileyo okanye umdla wothando usukile okanye waqhubela phambili? Ngaba ukuzithemba okuphantsi okanye ukuzithemba okuphantsi kugqunywe yingxolo enobukrelekrele?

Cinga ukuba umntwana wakho usenokucaphuka ngenxa yento angakulungelanga ukuthetha ngayo okanye angazi nokuba iyabacaphukisa. Yiba khona ngamathuba okuphonononga kwaye ucamngce ngemithombo yokuphazamiseka, ukudana, okanye usizi.

4. Ungangqinelani okanye ungqine ukungabi nantlonelo, intetho etshabhisayo okanye isenzo.

Abakwishumi elivisayo bathetha izinto esingazange sazithetha kubazali bethu. Kodwa sasihamba nakwikhephu ukuya kuthi ga esinqeni ukunyuka zombini iindlela ukusuka esikolweni yonke imihla (okanye ubuncinci yindlela esikhumbula ngayo). Nokuba ngekhe ndiphuphe Ukuthetha ngokuvakalayo izinto ezikwishumi elivisayo kuthi kule mihla, kwaye kukungahloniphi, khumbula la magama mabini: Sukoyika!

Uninzi lweempazamo zobuzali luphuma kwindawo yokoyika ukuba abantwana bethu abafumani `` ulwaphulo-mthetho '' ngokuchasene nookhokho babo, kwaye oku "kufuneka kuchithwe kwaye kuchithwe ngandlela zonke." Kodwa ukunyuka okulinganayo yintlekele yokwenene elindele ukuba yenzeke. Sifanele ukuba ngabantu abadala apha kwaye kufuneka sizame ukwenza njengaye, ukumisela imimiselo yeemvakalelo kunye nokuzola nokupholisa phantsi koxinzelelo, nokuba umntwana wakho okwishumi elivisayo ukubiza nje ngokuba sisidenge esityebileyo. Nokuba awutyebanga okanye awusosidenge, inxalenye yethu ayicingi ukuba banokwazi "ukubaleka" ngokuthetha izinto ezinjalo.

Nangona kunjalo, sukukhwaza, uqalekise, okanye unyuse imeko ngokomzimba. Emva kwentetho okanye indlela yokuziphatha ehlekisayo, thetha ngokuzolileyo ukuba oko bekungathandeki kwaye ubuze ngezinye, iindlela ezingcono zokujongana noxinzelelo okanye unxunguphalo. Emva koko jonga umhlobo wethu wakudala, iziphumo zendalo.

5. Babambe benza izinto ezintle.

Kulula ukuba ngumgxeki wezitulo, ulungele ukuba no "gotcha" xa umntu emoshakele. Xa kufikwa kulungelelwaniso kunye nococeko kumagumbi abo, amakhwenkwe am awanayo kunye, kodwa andibaxeleli ukuba zizinto ezipheleleyo. Sele beyazi ukuba zii-slobs, kwaye ukukhalaza okungapheliyo malunga noku akuzukundisa mna okanye zona naphina.

Endaweni yokuba abazali babo bagcine yabo Igumbi lokuhlambela licocekile kwaye licwangcisiwe, kwaye senza ibhedi yethu, kwaye kanye kwithuba elikhulu, enye yamakhwenkwe yenza ibhedi yabo, nayo. Eyona nto inzima kunokuhlala ugxeka uhlala ushiyekile ulindelwe kwizinto zethu ulutsha olulungileyo kuzo, kwaye xa ubuncinci benza umgudu.

Owona msebenzi wam uphambili kukuthatha inkunkuma kunye nokurisayikilisha kwakhona veki nganye. Yayingumsebenzi we thina ukumkhumbuza amaxesha ngamaxesha kunye neminyaka ukuba ayenze, kodwa ngoku uyenza ngaphandle kokuqhutywa, kwaye le yinto ekufuneka iqatshelwe. Ukuyijonga, kunye nokuyijonga ngokuvakalayo, khonza ukuqinisa izinto ongathanda ukuzibona kwixesha elizayo.

Asikwazi ukulawula ukuba abanye bathini okanye benza ntoni (okt., Ulutsha), kodwa sinelizwi elikhulu kwinto thina thetha okanye wenze. Ukusebenzisa loo mandla kunokwenza imimangaliso ekukhuliseni ulutsha.