Indlela uAdam Weiner azihlambe ngayo "iimaski" zakhe

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• Amanqaku aphambili

Amanqaku aphambili

• Uninzi lwabantu lunamaxesha apho baziva bengabandakanywa, kwaye bayazibuza ukuba kufuneka batshintshe ukuze balunge okanye bazame ukunxibelelana nabanye ababamkelayo.
• Abantu abaninzi banxiba "iimaski" ezahlukeneyo ukuze bangene ngaphakathi, ezinokuphazamisa imeko yabo yokunyaniseka.
• UAdam Weiner wabelana ngendlela awazichitha ngayo iimaski zakhe kwaye waba yinguqulelo yokwenene kuye.

Ngamanye amaxesha siziva silityelwe. Njengokuba wonke umntu ehlabathini eyiqondile ngaphandle kwethu. Sonke sinamava aloo maxesha apho sibona khona abantu abasingqongileyo befanelekile, bedibanisa, beqhula nabanye - kodwa ngandlela thile asibandakanywanga. Siziva sodwa kwaye sishiyiwe, sizibuza ukuba yintoni na ingxaki kuthi. Ngelixa la mava anokuba mbalwa kwaye adlule ngokukhawuleza okanye amaninzi kwaye asasazeke, zihlala zibuhlungu kwaye zihlala nathi ubomi bethu bonke. Sivakalelwa ngokungathi singumntu ongaxabisekanga okanye ongafanelekanga ukuba aqwalaselwe okanye athandwe ngabanye. Kwaye sinokuphelelwa lithemba ngokungaze sikwazi ukuba zizinto zethu kwaye siqhubeke nokunxibelelana nabanye.

Ngenxa yoko, sinengxaki. Ngaba sizama ukutshintsha umntu esimfaneleyo? Okanye ngaba sihlala sinyanisekile kuthi kwaye sifuna ukunxibelelana nabantu bethu-abantu abasixabisileyo nabasithandayo njengathi?

U-Adam Weiner, ilungu elisekayo, imvumi kunye nombhali weengoma zeqela elisezantsi uLon Connie, wenze ukuba kube ngumsebenzi wobugcisa kunye nobugcisa ukusazisa ukuba asilityelwanga. Eyona ndlela yokunxibelelana nabanye ayikokutshintsha ukuba singobani kodwa ngokwamkela ukuba singobani. Kuwo wonke ubhubhane we-Covid-19, uWeiner kunye noConferensi oMncinci basasazwe ngqo Iicookies ezinzima , umboniso ojolise kwinxalenye yomzabalazo abantu abaninzi abaye babenawo kulo nyaka uphelileyo- beziva beqhawuliwe, bebodwa kwaye belityelwe. Njengenxalenye yomboniso wabo, u-Low Cut uConnie wenza iingoma ezininzi eziza kufakwa kwi-albhamu yabo entsha Iicookies eziQinisekileyo: Olona Sasazo luSasazekayo . Kwaye ngexesha lengxoxo yethu IHardcore Humanism Podcast , U-Weiner uthetha ngobani adibana naye kunye nendlela alwenza ngayo olo nxibelelwano ngelixa ehlala ethembekile kuye.

Ukusukela ebuntwaneni bakhe nakuyo yonke imisebenzi yakhe yobugcisa, u-Weiner wayenomdla kubantu avakalelwa kukuba bacalucalulwa. Uhlobo lwamehlo am luyelela kubantu abasemagqeni ... Ndihlala ndichukunyiswa yindlela abaphila ngayo. Kwaye njengokuba ndikhulile njengombhali, ndiye ndaqaphela ngaphezulu ukuba, ngakumbi kwishishini lomculo, kuncipha nokubhala kunye nokuzonwabisa kwabantu abasemagqeni, "wandixelela uWeiner. “Umculo uthanda ukuba, uyazi, ujonge kulutsha, uhlala ujolise kubantu abapholileyo okanye abafuna ukuziva upholile. Ityekele ekuzukiseni inkcubeko yosaziwayo, kunye nobutyebi. Lulwandiso nje olufana nolomdibaniso waseMelika ngeendlela ezininzi. Kwaye kule minyaka igqithileyo ndiye ndachopha ekubhaleni ndenzela abantu endicinga ukuba ungathi, bayalityalwa, abahoywa, ababonakali eludinini. ”

U-Weiner ngokwakhe waziva ekhulile. Kwaye ngelixa abantu abaninzi banokulila ngokuba semngciphekweni kwaye bafune ukutshintsha ukuba ngoobani abaza kulunga kubo, uWeiner wafuna ukuhlala ethembekile kuye kwaye afumane abanye awayecinga ukuba bangamamkela njengoko wayenjalo. “Zange ndaphola. Andikaze ndinqwenele ukuba ndipholile ... bendihlala ndinoluhlobo lweemvakalelo ezinzulu kunye novelwano kubantu ababephakathi kwesihlwele "esingaphandle", njengoko besitsho. Kwaye xa ndingena kwigumbi lokufundela kwaye bonke abantwana bayakuba luhlobo olunye kunye kwaye behlangana kunye kwaye kuyakubakho lowo ulilolo, ozolileyo, umntwana onqabileyo kwikona - inkwenkwe okanye intombazana okanye nantoni na - ndingathi izakuba yeyam umhlobo. Iya kuba ngulomntu ndithethe naye. Ndicinga ukuba, kubomi bam obudala, lonto ayitshintshanga, "ukhumbule uWeiner. “Kwaye nangona inxenye yomsebenzi wam ikukuqala iqela nokuba luhlobo lwenginginya yoluntu olukhulu. Inkuthazo yam kukuhlala ndizama ukuya ebantwini abalityelweyo, abangahoywanga, okanye abaphila ngaphandle kwesiqhelo ndibabambe ngandlela thile. ”

Njengomntu onqwenela ukuba yimvumi, uWeiner wathuthuzeleka kwinto yokuba uninzi lweemvumi zakhe azithandayo zikwangabantu abasemaphethelweni. “Andiqondi ukuba yinto nje engaqondakaliyo ukuba amanye amagcisa amakhulu, amagcisa omculo, abadlali beqonga - ndithetha ngoNkosana, uJames Brown, uBruce Springsteen, uPatti Smith, uElvis - uninzi lwabo babengabantwana abangenalo ithandwa xa babesebancinci, ababekhathazekile okanye bebandlululwa ... ”utshilo uWeiner. Ziye zahamba kade kwaye zajika zaba zezazo emva koko. ”

Injongo kaWeiner yayihlala iyimvumi yexesha elizeleyo. Kodwa iminyaka eliqela, ukuze aqhubeke nephupha lakhe, kwafuneka ukuba asebenze njengomfundisi-ntsapho. Wayeziva ukuba ukuze enze lo msebenzi, kwakufuneka ngamanye amaxesha azifihle - eyona nto ayibiza ngokuba ngathi unxibe "imaski". “Ndihlala kufuneka ndinxibe iimaski ezahlukeneyo imini yonke, ukuba uyazi ukuba ndithetha ukuthini. Ngoku ukuba ndinganguye ngalo lonke ixesha, kuyavakala, ”utshilo uWeiner. “Kodwa ndinovelwano nabantu abangenakuba ngabo lonke ixesha. Olu luhlobo lwendawo Ubomi babucala Umqondo uvela, kwi-albhamu yam yamva nje ... abantu abaninzi abangakwaziyo ukuhlala kamnandi kulusu lwabo ngalo lonke ixesha. Kwaye kufuneka babe nobomi esidlangalaleni nakwabucala. Bamele ukuba, uyazi, ukuba ngoobani nosapho lwabo, esitratweni, nomsebenzi wabo. Kwaye ndibenethamsanqa lokuba ndingaziphilela. Kodwa andiyithathi lula. ”

Ngokungafuneki ukuba unxibe iimaski ezahlukeneyo kwiindawo ezahlukeneyo zobomi bakhe, uWeiner unokuzinikezela ekuceliseni umngeni nakuphi na okulindelweyo luluntu kuye ukuze akwazi ukuzibonakalisa njengegcisa. "Xa ususa iileya, xa ususa okulindelweyo malunga nendlela ekufanele ukuba uziphathe ngayo kuluntu oluchubekileyo ngokwesini, uburharha, ukuhlonitshwa, ubudala, ubuhlanga, zonke ezi zinto ...," utshilo. “Ndisusa la maleko, zonke ezo zimvo malunga nendlela omele ukuba yiyo. Ndiza kubachitha kwaye ndinyaniseke ngakumbi kwinqanaba lam, kwikhamera, kwisitudiyo sokurekhoda, ndithetha nabantu abafana nam. Kwaye ke oko kwathatha ixesha, ngendlela, kuba yinto enzima ukuyenza. Kodwa inyani yokuba ndinokuhlela ukubaleka ujikeleze iimpahla zam zangaphantsi, ndikhwaze intloko yam, ndiwola abantu ukuze ndiziphilise phambi kwawo wonke umntu endimaziyo. Akukho mfihlo. Ukufika kuloo ndawo kwathatha ixesha elide. ”

Into ebangela umdla kukuba, enye yeendlela u-Weiner awafumanisa ngayo njengemvumi kunye nomdlali weqonga yayikukufumana iimeko apho waphinda wabekelwa bucala. Ndithathe isigqibo sokuba kufuneka ndiyenzele abaphulaphuli abanobutshaba. Kwakufana nezohlwayo kodwa kwanokufunda. Ngaba kufuneka uqhushumbe izihlandlo ezingama-50 ngaphambi kokuba ubethe kube kanye, akunjalo? Kwaye kuyinyani kumhlekisi okanye imvumi okanye umdanisi ... Ngokuphindaphindiweyo phakathi kwemisebenzi yam yosuku, bendiya kukhenketha iYurophu, Canada, ngaphesheya kwe-USA, kwaye ndenze eyona nto iphambili indawo naphi na apho ndinokufumana khona - isidlo sangokuhlwa, indlu ye-anarchist, ibar yesitabane, uyazi, kwikhaya labadala. Ndifuna nje ukuba ngumlenze wamehlo kunye nesihlwele kwaye ndibone ukuba ndingakwazi ukudibanisa kwaye ndibenze bazive oko ndifuna ukuba bazive. Kwaye kwathatha iminyaka- kuyo yonke i-20s yesiqingatha sexesha lokuqhushumisa kunye nesiqingatha sexesha lokudibanisa ukuya kuthi ga kubudala beminyaka engama-30 ... bendikwi-oveni ixesha elide ngokwaneleyo, ndikulungele ukuzithemba ukuya eqongeni ndize ndifike kwimakrofoni ukuya nje Ndingumnikazi wale ndawo kwaye ndithathe isihlwele nokuba siyaphi na. ”

U-Weiner ubona ukungavisisani phakathi koluntu lokwamkela nokucinezela abantu njengongquzulwano oluqhubekayo olungasayi kusonjululwa ngokupheleleyo. "Ndicinga ukuba kuya kuhlala kukho olo xinzelelo ngokwemiqathango, sihlala ngaxeshanye sikhululeka ngakumbi kwaye siqinisa. Kwaye ayisiyiyo iMelika kuphela, ngendlela. Njengokuba sinemicimbi eyahlukileyo nolo xinzelelo. Kwaye bayagqabhuka ngoku. Kodwa oko kuyinyani kulo lonke uluntu, izinto zihamba phambili kwaye izinto zihlehla. Izinto ziyavuleka kwaye ziyavalwa ngaxeshanye ..., ”utshilo uWeiner. Kwaye kukho izinto ezithile eziza kuhlala ziyinyani.

"Kwaye loo ngxabano ndiya kucinga ukuba iya kuhlala iyinxalenye yobukho bethu."