Ukwazi njani ukuba unguMphefumlo wesini

Ukuba neemvakalelo kunye nabantu abanovakalelo, isini sisihloko esibalulekileyo ukuze ucacelwe malunga nokuba awutshatanga, uyajola, okanye kubudlelwane bexesha elide.

Njengokuba ndixoxa kwi "Impath's Survival Guide," ngenxa yokuba iimpaths ziyabuthathaka, akukho nto kuthiwa "ngumntu ongathandani naye." Ngexesha lokwenza uthando, iimfesane zinokuthatha uxinzelelo kunye novuyo kwiqabane lethu lesini, kwaye zihlala zifumana ulwazelelelo malunga neengcinga kunye neemvakalelo zakhe. Ke ngoko, khetha amaqabane ngobulumko. Ngaphandle koko, ngexesha lokwenza uthando, unokufumana amandla anetyhefu, uxinzelelo, okanye uloyiko. Oku kuyinyani ngokukodwa ukuba ulwalamano ngokwesondo.

Yintoni uxinzelelo ngokwesondo? Umntu onobuchule bokuzimisela obuqinisa ngexesha lokudibana nenkanuko ukuze eve uxinzelelo ngakumbi okanye ukonwaba. Iimvakalelo zesondo zinobuthathaka kakhulu ngexesha lokwenza uthando (kunye nokudlala ngothando). Banokuthatha amandla eqabane labo nangaphezulu kwezinye iindlela zokwenza. Kuzo zonke iimvakalelo (ngakumbi uhlobo lwesondo) ukuze bazive begqibelele, kufuneka babelane ngokwasemzimbeni kunye nomntu ofanelekileyo onokubuyisela uthando nentlonipho.

Ngelishwa, ezinye zezigulana zam ziye zenze iimpazamo xa zingenalo iqabane ixesha elide. Ukuba kufike umntu ovelisa isini sabo, banomdla wokungena kubudlelwane, bayayityeshela imiqondiso yesilumkiso enomdla. Ke bazibandakanya kubudlelwane bezesondo kwangethuba kunye nomntu ongalunganga. Banoloyiko lokuba kuba kuthathe ixesha elide ukufumana umntu onomdla nokuba ukude, kungcono bazibandakanye ngaphandle kweeflegi ezibomvu.

Siyazivulela ukuba senzakaliswe kukuzibandakanya ngokugqithileyo nabantu abangafumanekiyo abangasithandiyo. Omnye umbhali wandixelela, “Khange ndithandane kangangeminyaka emihlanu, kodwa ndathi xa ndithandana namadoda endandikhawuleze kwaye ndinomsindo othandweni, ndajika ndangulomntu unothando. Khange ndizimamele iimpawu ezilumkisayo kwaye ndaphoxeka. Kodwa ngoku ndihamba kancinci ukuqinisekisa ukuba umntu uyafumaneka. ”

Isisombululo esinye sokulinda nje iqabane ukuba lize kukuya kumasifundisane we-tantra okanye ukuba neeseshoni zabucala notitshala we-tantric. I-Tantra yinto yakudala edibanisa isini kunye nokomoya ngokusebenzisa imithambo ejolise emzimbeni. Kwiimeko zabucala okanye zeqela, uya kufundiswa ukujula emzimbeni wakho, ucofe ubundlobongela bakho kunye nokomoya, kwaye usebenze ngokudakumba okudala, iipateni zobudlelwane ezonakalisayo, okanye ukuba ndindisholo okuyekise ukuba uzive. Ezi seshoni zonyusa isini sakho kwaye zigcine zihamba ukuze zikhulise amandla akho okutsala endaweni yokuvumela la mandla ukuba alele ngexesha lokulinda. Abanye banokungaziva ukuba u-sexy kangakanani xa oko kusenzeka.

Kwiminyaka embalwa edlulileyo, ndiye ndafumana iiseshoni ezixabisekileyo emva kokuba ndibandakanyeke nomntu ongalunganga ngokukhawuleza. Ndifuna ukulungisa naziphi na iibhloko ezinegalelo kwipateni yam yokukhetha amadoda angafumanekiyo okanye ixesha elide lokuba ndedwa. Kodwa bendidiniwe ukuthetha ngale nto ngengqondo yam. Ke endaweni yoko, ezi seshoni zongezelelekileyo zandinceda ukuba ndivule kwaye nditsale iqabane elifanelekileyo.

Nje ukuba ufumane iqabane elihambelana nawe, isiseko sobudlelwane kukudibanisa intliziyo yakho kunye nesini sakho. Impaths iyachuma ngale ndlela. Xa isondo, umoya kunye nentliziyo zidibene ekwenziweni kothando, kuyondla ngokwenkqubo yethu.

Inxalenye yokugcina isini esigxile entliziyweni kukufunda ukuseta imida kunye neqabane lakho ukuba kukho into malunga nokudibana kwakho. Umzekelo, ukuba iqabane lakho belinosuku olukhathazayo kwaye linomsindo, isenokungabi lelona xesha lilungileyo lokuba neentlobano zesini kuba imikhosi inokuwuthabatha lo msindo. Thetha phandle ngale nto. Isithandwa sakho kufuneka siqonde ukuba kutheni ukhetha ukungabinabuhlobo xa enomsindo okanye ephantsi koxinzelelo olukhulu.

Fundisa iqabane lakho malunga neemvakalelo zakho. Ngaphandle kokuba usebudlelwaneni ne-empath, kuyakufuneka uchaze ngothando indlela ophendula ngayo ukuze iqabane lakho likwazi ukuhlangabezana neemfuno zakho. Indalo iphela yahlukile kunaleyo ingeyiyo impathisi. Imfesane yakho kunye nomonde uya kuwenza wonke umahluko ekusondeleni kwakho.