Ukuba Olu Lusuku Lomama Wakho Wokuqala njengoMama

Umxholo

• Amanqaku aphambili
• Izinto eziqhelekileyo zematriki

Amanqaku aphambili

• I-Matrescence ibandakanya utshintsho olwenzeka emzimbeni nasengqondweni olwenzeka xa ungena ebuntombini.
• I-Matrescence inokuchaza iimvakalelo ezididayo zokuba ngumama omtsha njengokuziva unetyala kunye nembali.
• Njengomama omtsha, kuqhelekile ukuba uzive unqanyulwe kuhlobo lwangaphambili lwakho kwaye ukude emzimbeni wakho.
• Ukuba olu lusuku lwakho lokuqala loMama njengomama, yazi ukuba Kuthatha ixesha ukufaka indima kwaye udibanise ukutshintsha kwakho kunye nokutshintsha kwesazisi.

Ukuba olu lusuku lwakho lokuqala njengoMama njengomama, oko kuthetha ukuba wamkela umntwana kunyaka ophelileyo- owona nyaka udibene kakhulu kunye nokungaqiniseki kwimbali yakutshanje.

Unokuba uvela kwi-haze ye-postpartum ebukhali okanye usenzulu kuyo. Nokuba yeyiphi na indlela, ubungqingqwa benkqubo eyaziwa njenge matrescence . Ichazwe njengenkqubo yokuba ngumama, i-matrescence ibandakanya utshintsho olwenzeka emzimbeni nasengqondweni olwenzekayo xa ungena ebuncinaneni.

Ndicinga ukuba kubalulekile ukuba nolwazi malunga ne-matrescence njengombono-ukuze ukwazi ukubeka igama kwizinto ezinokungonwabi kwaye ziphazamise imeko yakho yangoku-kwaye ube nokuqonda malunga nenqanaba lakho ekuqwalaseleni nayo, kuba naphina ukwinkqubo, nantoni na ojamelana nayo ngoku inokwenzeka ngakumbi kwindalo iphela kunokuba ucinga.

Izinto eziqhelekileyo zematriki

I-Matrescence icingelwa ukuba ibandakanya ezi zinto zixhaphakileyo / imiceli mngeni, njengoko kubekiwe ngugqirha wezifo zengqondo u-Alexandra Sacks:

Ukutshintsha amandla oSapho

Umntwana omtsha uhlengahlengisa kwaye enze inkqubo entsha yosapho kwaye anokwenza imicimbi enxulumene nokukhula kwakho.

Ukutsala

Ukuba neemvakalelo ezinokubonakala ngathi ziyaphikisana malunga nokuba ngumama kunokuba kungonwabisi kwaye kudale ityala. Kulungile ukuba ungathandi yonke imizuzwana yayo.

Ubungqina ngokuchasene neNyaniso

Kulula ukwakha ulindelo malunga nokuba umntwana uza kuba njani. Sihlala siphulukene xa inyani yethu ingqubana noko kulindelweyo.

Ukuziva unetyala, Ihlazo kunye "noMama olungileyo ngokwaneleyo"
Siyakhawuleza ukuzithelekisa nabanye kwaye nento esiyenzayo ayikhe ive ngathi yanele. Singalahleka kwiinkqubo ezingqongqo, sikhuthazwe kukugqibelela kunye netyala.

Ndiwamkele umbono wokuba umbuzo wokuba ingaba umntu uza kulwa nokudakumba nasemva kokubeleka kunye / okanye unxunguphalo ayisiyiyo "ukuba," kodwa "kangakanani." Ewe kunjalo, kukho izinto ezibaxiweyo kula mava eziqinisekisa ukuba imeko yesifo sokukhathazeka kunye noxinzelelo kunye noxinzelelo olufanelekileyo kunye nonyango lunyanzelekile. Kodwa uxinzelelo oluqhelekileyo lomxholo kunye nokuzabalaza kwengqondo okuguqukayo koomama abatsha akunakuphepheka kwinqanaba elithile.

Ixesha emva kokuba umntwana ejoyine usapho lwakho lucelomngeni kakhulu, kwanaxa iimeko zintle. Zininzi izinto zangaphandle ezisebenza ngokuchasene noomama abatsha. Ngexesha apho into esiyifunayo ikucotha, indawo, impiliso, uluntu, ukwamkelwa, inkxaso, sihlala sihlangatyezwa ngokuchaseneyo-ukunqongophala kwekhefu lokuya kubeleka kunye neendawo zokusebenzela ezingasekelwanga, ukwahlulwa kuyilo loluntu, ukugcwala kolwazi, ukuthelekiswa kwezentlalo, ukungasebenzi koxinzelelo kunye nomthwalo wengqondo, imizabalazo yomzimba.

Ke yinto esemgangathweni, ayikhethekanga, ukuziva ungazinzanga, ukwahlukana, ilahleko, ukungxama kunye nokuthandabuza. Kuqhelekile ukuba uzive unqanyulwe kwinguqulelo yakho owaziyo-kude neenjongo zakho kunye nezobuchwephesha kunye nesazisi, ukude emzimbeni wakho. Ukuba uziva ngathi ubuwena buqhekekile kwaye ngoku kulindeleke ukuba wenze izinto ezizigidi ezahlukeneyo ngalo lonke ixesha, akukho nanye kuzo, awuphosisi. Ukutsala ngengqondo kunye noxinzelelo ziqhelekile.

Ukuba olu lusuku lwakho lokuqala njengoMama, yazi ukuba ngumama yinkqubo. Kuthatha ixesha ukufaka le ndima kunye nokudibanisa ukutshintsha kwakho kunye nokutshintsha kwesazisi ukuze ube nakho ukuzibamba. Akukho ndlela imiselweyo yokwenza. Ungachaza kwaye usebenze njengomama njengoko kusengqiqweni kuwe. Thatha ixesha lakho. Uba ngumntu omtsha. Uyaqhubeka.