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Esi sithuba seendwendwe sanikelwa nguYana Ryjova, umfundi ophumelele kwiNkqubo yezeNzululwazi yezeMpilo yase-USC.

Wonke umntu unamaxhala, kwaye ulutsha alunakukhuseleka.

Xa ulutsha luxinezelekile, luxhalabile, okanye ludimazekile, kuqhelekile ukuba kuthintelwe nantoni na ebangela iimvakalelo ezingathandekiyo. Ngelishwa, ngelixa ukuphepha kubanceda bakwazi ukumelana nexesha elifutshane, kunokubangela iingxaki ngakumbi kunye neemvakalelo ezimbi ngakumbi ekuhambeni kwexesha. Njengomzali, unokunceda umntwana wakho ukuba aphephe lo mgibe aze abuyele kwi-TRAC!

Ezi ndlela zilandelayo kunye nezimvo zisekwe kunyango olusekwe kubungqina obaziwa ngokuba yi-Behaeveal Activation (Chambless & Hollon, 1998). Uphando lupapashwe kwiimagazini ezaziwayo zesayensi, ezinje Uvavanyo lweklinikhi yezeMpilo , Ndifumanise ukuba le ndlela yonyango olusebenzayo kuxinzelelo (Cuijpers et al., 2007; Ekers et al., 2008). Umgaqo osisiseko wokuSebenza ngokuziphatha kukuba into esiyenzayo (okanye esingayenziyo) inxulumene nendlela esivakalelwa ngayo. Ukubeka ngokulula, ukusebenza kwendlela yokuziphatha kukunciphisa ukuthintela kunye nokwandisa ukuzibandakanya kwimisebenzi emnandi yokunceda abantu bazive bebhetele. (Ukuba ufuna ukufunda okungakumbi malunga nendlela onokuthi uzincede ngayo okanye ulutsha lwakho lusebenzise iNkqubo yokuziPhatha, nceda undwendwele le ndawo okanye uthathele ingqalelo ukuthenga "Ukuvuselela ulonwabo: Isikhokelo sokuQala sokuNqoba ukuKhuthazeka okuPhucukileyo, uxinzelelo, okanye ukuziva nje usamile," -Incwadi ebhalwe nguGqr. Hershenberg noGoldfried.)

Uthini UMGIBE?

UMGIBEZO umele:
T: Qalisa
R: Impendulo
AP: Iphepha lokuthintela

Xa umntwana wakho ephantsi koxinzelelo oluninzi, unokubaqaphela ukuba baqala ukuthintela imisebenzi ethile ebangela la manqanaba aphezulu oxinzelelo. Umzekelo, mhlawumbi ubaqaphele ukuba bayabhabha iNetflix, ukuthumela imiyalezo ngabahlobo, nokucoca igumbi labo ukuze babalekele ukufundela uvavanyo lwezibalo. Mhlawumbi ukrokrela ukuba bazenza ngathi bayagula ukuze baphume baye kumnyhadala okanye ipati. Inyani yokuba ulutsha luyaziphepha ezi "zinto zibangela" yenza ingqiqo enkulu. Ukuphepha iimvakalelo zoxinzelelo kunye noxinzelelo uziva ulunge ngakumbi kunokujongana ngqo noxinzelelo! Xa ulutsha luphepha isimilo, akufuneki lube namava amabi aza nabo. Kuba kuvakala kulungile ukuyeka ukufunda kunye noxinzelelo kumatheko, unokufumanisa ukuba ukunqanda into enye okanye ezimbini kukhokelela kulutsha lwakho ekuthinteleni imisebenzi emininzi kunye noxanduva. Le yenye yezona ngxaki zinkulu kuthintelo. Omnye umba ubandakanya iziphumo zexesha elide zokuphepha. Ngelixa kunokuziva kulungile okwethutyana ukunqanda ukufunda, kunokukhokelela kwiziphumo zoxinzelelo olukhulu ngakumbi, njengokungaphumeleli kuvavanyo lwezibalo.

Le patheni yokuphepha yile UMGIBE ulutsha olunokuwela kulo.
Sebenzisa la manyathelo alandelayo ukuchonga loo TRAP nokunceda umntwana wakho abuyele kwi-TRAC.

Inyathelo 1: Vavanya izinto ezinokuthintela umntwana wakho

Izinto ezibangela ukuba imeko ibe kwimeko yakho yolutsha ebakhokelela ekusebenziseni iindlela zokuziphatha. Wonke umntu unezinto ezahlukeneyo ezibangela, kodwa olu luhlu lulandelayo lunokukunceda wena kunye nomntwana wakho okwishumi elivisayo ukuba aqale ukufumanisa iindawo ezinengxaki ezibangela ukuba barhoxe, bazibekele ixesha, kwaye baphephe.

Inyathelo 2: Thetha nomntwana wakho malunga nendlela ezibangela ukuba bazive ngayo

Unokuziva ulingeka ukuba uxelele umntwana wakho izinto ezinje, "yenze nje, akunzima kangako," okanye "akukho sidingo sokuziva unoxinzelelo malunga noku," xa uxoxa ngezona zinto zibangele. Nangona kunjalo, iingxelo ezinje zinokubangela ukuba umntwana wakho avale, akuvalele ngaphandle, kwaye azive enexinzelelo ngakumbi.

Inyani yento kukuba ulutsha luhlala lisebenzisa ukuthintela ukubaleka iimvakalelo ezithile ezinzima. Iziphumo zabo zinokubenza bazive bekuninzi koxinzelelo okanye uxinzelelo. Banokuziva benoxinzelelo olukhulu, besoyika, okanye besoyikwa kangangokuba nemisebenzi ebonakala ilula kuwe, njengokuvula incwadi yokufunda, ayilulanga kangako kubo.

Xa uthetha nomntwana wakho osemtsha, sebenzela ukuqonda ngokwenene iimvakalelo zabo ekuphenduleni izinto. Dlulisa inkxaso yakho, khumbula ukumamela, kwaye ubancede ngobumnene babone ukuba zeziphi iimeko ezibenza bazive ngathi bayaphepha.

Inyathelo lesi-3: Sebenza nomntwana wakho ukuba afumane iindlela zokuphepha

Nje ukuba wena kunye nomntwana wakho nibone izinto ezibangela ukuba bathethe kwaye bathethe malunga nendlela ezibenza bazive ngayo, sebenzela ekuqondeni ukuba zeziphi iipateni zabo zokuphepha. Zininzi iindlela umntwana wakho anokuziphepha. Umzekelo, umntwana wakho okwishumi elivisayo unokuwuphepha umsebenzi wasekhaya ngokubukela iiyure zikamabonwakude, okanye ayiphephe iminyhadala ngokwenza izizathu zokuba kutheni bengakwazi ukuya.

Sebenzisa olu luhlu lulandelayo ukuchonga iipateni zokuphepha eziqhelekileyo, kwaye uthethe nomntwana wakho ukufumanisa ezinye iindlela abaziphepha ngazo.

Inyathelo 4: Ukubuyela kwi-TRAC

I-TRAC imele:
T: Qalisa
R: Impendulo
AC: Enye indlela yokuKopa

Ukubuyela kwi-TRAC ayithethi ngokususa izinto ezibangela, okanye ukutshintsha iimpendulo zomntwana wakho kubo. Imalunga nokusebenzisa ezinye iindlela zokulwa imeko ukuthintela ubunzima bexesha elide bokuthintela. Endaweni yokuphepha, ukubuyela kwi-TRAC kubandakanya ukunceda umntwana wakho athathe amanyathelo okujongana nezinto ezibangela ukuba azive ngcono ekuhambeni kwexesha.

Buza umntwana wakho malunga:

Iziphumo zexesha elide zokuphepha ezibangela.

Iinjongo zabo kunye nemilinganiselo yabo-ngaba iyabathintela ukuba bangafikeleli kwiinjongo zabo?

Bebenokuziva njani xa bengathinteleli kubo. Bangaziva njani kwinkqubo yokujongana nesibetho? Banokuziva njani ukuba banokuloyisa olo xinzelelo?

Izimvo malunga nezinto abanokuzenza endaweni yokuphepha.

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