Ngabantwana kuphela abaSebenza ngcono kunokuba ucinga

Uqikelelo lubonakala ngathi kuphela komntwana kunye nabazali bakhe banexesha elinzima lokuvalelwa ixesha elide kunabantwana abanabantakwabo. Inyani yile Covid-19 idale indawo entsha yosapho konke kwiintsapho. Imiceli mngeni ayifani, kodwa ikhona.

Ngenxa yokucinga ngokuvumelana, abazali bomnye banokuziva benetyala kwaye bacinga ukuba umntwana wabo angonwaba ngakumbi ukuba bekukho umntakwabo endlini. Mhlawumbi ewe, mhlawumbi hayi.

Ukuba ungumzali womntwana okuphela kwakhe, konwatyiswe ukuba awusombululi iimbambano, ukuthomalalisa ukungavisisani okanye ukubeka iliso kwizicelo zomntu ngamnye kunye nokungahoywa kwabazali. Xa abantwana bekruqukile, abazali baya kubizwa nokuba bangaphi na abantwana ukuba badlale imidlalo kwaye bavale izikhewu. Ndiva izikhalazo ezivela kubantwana abanabantakwabo kwaye ngaphandle kwabantakwabo: Oontanga babo abanakho ukutyelela, isikolo sivaliwe, akukho zenzo zangaphandle. Bandixelela ukuba abananto yakwenza.

Kuphela ngabantwana abachithe ixesha elininzi bebodwa kwaye uninzi lwabo lulungile ekusebenziseni ixesha elongezelelekileyo lokudibanisa ekuhlaleni. Isimo sobuzalwana asinanto yakwenza kangako namandla omntwana okuzonwabisa. Ukunye okanye ngaphandle kwabantakwenu, omnye umntwana unokufuna ukuba ulungelelanise ixesha lakhe; Omnye unokuzimela, akwazi ukuzonwabisa kwaye aneliseke ngokugqibeleleyo eshiye izixhobo zakhe.

Ukuzalisa izikhewu

Abazali babantwana kuphela bahlala beziva ukuba kufuneka ibe ngabo abazalisa ixesha lomntwana wabo ukunqanda ukuba umntwana azive elilolo okanye enesithukuthezi. Ukushiya ngasekhohlo kwizixhobo zabo kwaye ngaphandle kwegalelo labazali rhoqo, kuphela ngabantwana abalungileyo ekusebenziseni ixesha elongezelelweyo abanalo. Xa unexhala lokuba umntwana wakho angadikwa okanye abe nesithukuthezi ngaphandle komntakwabo azokudlala naye, jonga ixesha elibalulekileyo neliluncedo ekuhambeni kwexesha.

Ikhuthaza ubuchule, kwaye okona kubaluleke kakhulu, ikhuthaza inkululeko yomntwana kunye nokukwazi ukuzonwabisa-zombini ziluncedo njengoko umntwana ekhula. Kwincwadi yakhe, Ukudikwa kunye nokuqaqamba: Ukwahlula njani isithuba ngaphandle kokuVula ubuNtu bakho obuNemveliso kunye noBuchule, Manuoush Zomorodi, uyacacisa ukuba "Ukukruquka kukhokelela kumzala wakhe osondeleyo, ojikeleza ingqondo ... Ukuvumela ingqondo yakho ibhadule sesona sitshixo sokwenza izinto kunye nemveliso."

Qhagamshela, Qhagamshela, Qhagamshela

Vumela unxibelelwano kwi-Intanethi. Ukuba kuphela komntwana wakho okhalazayo, yamkele isithukuthezi sakhe, yiba novelwano ukuze azi ukuba uyamva, ekhumbula ukuba i-Intanethi ilulutho kubantwana abaninzi kwaye iluncedo ikakhulu kubantwana kuphela ngelixa ukwahlukaniswa ekuhlaleni kuhlala kusebenza. Abazali abacwangcise imida yokufikelela kwi-Intanethi kubahlobo baya kufuna ukuvumela ixesha elongeziweyo kwi-intanethi njengendlela yokuhlala bexhumene noontanga babo.

Isifundo sabantwana abancinci kunye nexesha labo lescreen kwi-Intanethi, elikhokelwa nguDouglas Downey, unjingalwazi kwezentlalo kwiYunivesithi yaseOhio State, unika ingxelo encinci okanye engenampembelelo kwizakhono zentlalo zabantwana. "Abaphandi bafunde ngaphezulu kwama-30,000 enkulisa ngokusebenzisa ibanga lesi-5 besebenzisa uvavanyo lootitshala nabazali, bafumanisa ukuba," Kuzo zonke izinto esizithelekisileyo, izakhono zentlalo zihlala zinjalo okanye zinyukile ngokuthobekileyo. "

Kukho ukhetho olungapheliyo kwaye umntwana wakho uyabazi. Umzekelo, kukho iGame Pigeon- iapp ye-iPad okanye ye-iPhone enemidlalo eyahlukeneyo engama-20 evela kubakhangeli nakwitshesi ukuya kwibhasikithi, iidolo kunye negalufa encinci.

Abantwana kunye nolutsha ababhala imiyalezo benza oko bahlala bekwenza-qhagamshela kwi-Intanethi ngokusebenzisa ii -apps ezahlukeneyo nakwiifowuni zabo. Ukuba ukhe wababukela abantwana kwiiselfowuni zabo xa bekunye behleli ecaleni ngecala kwigumbi elinye, mhlawumbi uqaphele ukuba abadibani ngaphandle kokucofa isicatshulwa. Konke ukudibanisa kugcwalisa ixesha, kugcina ubuhlobo babalingane kwaye kunceda ukugcina umntwana wakho exakekile kwaye angagxininisi kuloyiko lwe-coronavirus kunye namaxhala angenakuphepheka kwiindaba.

Khulula Iliso Lakho Elibukeleyo

Ngandlela thile, okuphela komntwana uqhele ukunikwa ingqalelo kuye kwaye loo nto iyodwa inokwenza kube lula ukuhlala kufutshane kufutshane ne-24/7. Nangona kunjalo, ukuba umntwana wakho ekuphela kwakhe akathandi ukuba liziko lokuqwalaselwa ngaphambi kokudibana nabantu, uya kuyithanda kancinci ngoku.

Uninzi lwabazali babantwana kuphela bayavuma ukwenza okuninzi kakhulu kunoko kunokwenziwa ngumntwana okuphela kwakhe. Ukuphambuka kwezentlalo lithuba lokubuyela umva kwaye unike umntwana wakho okuphela kwakhe uxanduva. Beka umntu omdala kuphela ophethe indawo yokuhlamba okanye ukwenza isidlo sangokuhlwa inani elithile leentsuku zeveki okanye ukucoca. Uyakumangaliswa yindlela akhawuleza ngayo umntwana-nokuba ngubani okhalazayo-aqale ukuziva kamnandi malunga negalelo kusapho. Ukungena ngaphakathi kukukhumbuza ukuba umntwana wakho uyinxalenye yosapho kwaye akufuneki abe liziko lokuqwalaselwa ngawo onke amaxesha.

Yandisa Ihlabathi Lomntwana Wakho Kuphela

Ngaphandle kokuba unomntwana okanye umntwana omncinci, umntwana wakho uya kukhumbula indawo yokuhlala. Khuthaza uvelwano kwaye uqinise unxibelelwano kusapho kunye nabahlobo abasondeleyo. Ziqhelanise neengxoxo zevidiyo okanye iifowuni zeFaceTime kunye nootatomkhulu noomakhulu, oomalume, oomalume kunye nabazala. Oku kunceda ukukhumbuza okuphela komntwana kwinethiwekhi yakhe ebanzi yenkxaso kwaye kungamsondeza kumalungu osapho ngaphaya kwakho.

Amavolontiya ngeendlela ezibandakanya umntwana wakho. Thenga abamelwane abadala kwaye uze nomntwana wakho xa ushiya iivenkile emizini yabo. Thetha malunga nalapho kufuneka khona iminikelo kwaye unikele ukuba unako. Buza owakho kuphela ukuba ubize ootatomkhulu noomakhulu wakhe okanye umntu osapho onokuba usokola ukubona ukuba baqhuba njani yonke imihla embalwa. Yiza nezimbo zomzimba eziza kuhlala zihlala ixesha elide emva kobhubhane.

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Izifundo ezabakho emva kowe-1978 kunye nezakutshanje zibonisa ukuba kuphela ngabantwana abadla ngokusondela kubazali babo kunakubantwana babantakwabo. Sebenzisa ithuba lokuphambuka eluntwini ukwakha kweso sibophelelo: Yongeza kwimemori yebhanki yomntwana wakho ngokuqala isiko elitsha malunga nento ongayenzanga kusapho lwakho-funda ukudlala i-chess, ibhulorho, i-backgammon okanye omnye umdlalo ongazange wadlalwa ngumzali okanye mntwana. Zama ukubhaka iintlobo ezahlukeneyo zesonka okanye uqalise uhlobo olutsha lwenkqubo onokuyenza.

Ngenxa yobudlelwane obomeleleyo bomzali kuphela, uninzi lwabantwana kuphela oluphaphileyo kunye nolwazelelelo kwiimvakalelo nakwindlela yokuziphatha yabazali. Ukungabikho kwabantakwenu ukuphambukisa okanye ukusasaza amaxhala omzali, khumbula ukugcina uxinzelelo kunye noxinzelelo kuthintela umntwana wakho ekuphela kwakhe ekulwamkeleni nasekuthwaleni imithwalo engadibaniyo nobudala bakhe.

Ilungelo lokushicilela @ 2020 nguSusan Newman

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