Ukungena kwakhona: Kufuneka wenze ntoni xa uBomi obudala bungasalingani?

Ekuhambeni kwendawo, ukungena kwakhona kuthathwa njengeyona nto inzima kakhulu kwindiza. Isiphekepheke sifumana ithuba elinye lokubetha iatmosferi yomhlaba ngendlela eyiyo. Isantya sisitshixo kwakhona: Ukuba into ingena kwakhona ngokukhawuleza, iya kutsha njengemeteor. AmaSatellites ngamanye amaxesha angena kwakhona kwiatmosfera aze onakale ngaphezulu.

Kumajoni, abadlali, iimbaleki eziphezulu, kunye nezinye iingcali ezijamelana namava agqithisileyo njengenxalenye yomsebenzi wabo, izakhono zokungena kwakhona zibalulekile ekusebenzeni kwabo, kwaye bafunda kwangoko ukulawula utshintsho ngaphandle kokuphazamiseka. Kithi sonke, ingxaki enje ngobhubhane we-COVID-19 uhlala unqabile ngendlela engaqhelekanga esingayilungelanga, kunye nokufumana indlela ebuyela ebomini bethu emva kokuba inokubonisa imiceli mngeni eyodwa.

Ngelixa ubhubhane usaqhubeka nokusingqongileyo kwaye uza kuqhubeka okwexeshana, inani elikhulayo lamazwe lisuse izithintelo, iivenkile, iiofisi, kunye nobomi boluntu buvula ngokuthe chu. Njengoko siphinda singena kwiindawo zethu zokusebenza kunye nobudlelwane, kubandakanya nezo singazange sishiye, zeziphi izantya zokungena kwakhona kunye ne-engile efanelekileyo?

Ukudlidlidliza ngesiquphe "kwesiqhelo" kunokuba yinto ebuthathaka, kwaye ngayo yonke into yokunxibelelana kwezentlalo ukucaca kokuhlala wedwa kuya kuba sisiphazamiso. Emva kwako konke oku kuhlangana kufutshane nokufa kunye namanye amadoda alala ngokungaziwayo, siyashukuma, kodwa asisashukunyiswa. Yonke imibuzo ebalulekileyo ihlala ingaphendulwanga, nangona ngesiquphe ingavulekanga kangako, intle kunokubonakala kwayo kwiiveki ezimbalwa ezidlulileyo. Kwelinye icala, ingxaki yayiyeyona inkulu "yokujonga ngokubanzi" kwaye safumana umbono opheleleyo. Kwelinye icala, sichithe uninzi lweengxaki sinyanzelwa ukuba samkele ukubaluleka kwezinto. Ubomi obuncinci obunokubakho babunomtsalane, kodwa uninzi lwethu kufuneka luvume ukuba iphupha lokuphila kancinci lajika laba likhulu kakhulu kuthi. Kwaye ngoku siyaphinda siphume, siphumelele okwethutyana ngaphezulu kokugula kunye nokuba sodwa, ukanti siziva sisoyisiwe. Ukunikezela ngezinto zakudala ezingezizo kwakubuhlungu, kodwa ukuyeka amathemba amatsha ngokukhawuleza-kubuhlungu.

Ngapha koko, kunokubakho iliza lesibini lokulila xa siqonda ukuba asibuyeli ebomini, kodwa kukufa. Ukuthi "ukubuyela esiqhelweni" kunokuthetha inyani yokuphelisa umphefumlo wobomi bethu bokuzonwabisa, obungonwabisiyo obabusidandathekisile kwintlungu ethe chu phambi kokuba ubhubhane uhlasele. Ukulila okunzima, okukodwa kweengxaki okanye ukulila okuphindaphindiweyo kweentlanganiso zangoMvulo kusasa-njengokuba sibuyele emsebenzini, sinokuba nobunzima bokuthatha isigqibo sokuba yeyiphi eyona nto imbi.

Ke, ngaba zikhona naziphi na izithethe ezinokusinceda ukuba siwele esi sithuba se-liminal phakathi kwendala kunye nokutsha okuqhelekileyo, ubuntu bethu obudala kunye nobutsha? Oko kusenza sizive ngathi ngandlela thile ingxaki "ibifanele"?

Okokuqala, sinokufumana isikhokelo esiluncedo ekumanyanisweni kwamabanjwa kwakhona. Ngaphambi kokukhutshwa, into ephambili ekufuneka yenziwe kuku uluhlu : thatha isitokhwe seasethi yakho, izixhobo zakho zeemvakalelo, ukomelela kobudlelwane, kunye nezakhono zakho ezindala nezintsha, ukuze uyazi into onokuyiphatha, kwaye zeziphi iimeko onokufuna ukuziphepha kanye emva kokungena kwakhona.

Isibini, vuma ukuba ukuvala ngaphandle kungenzeka kube ngamava abuhlungu Kwaye unokubandezeleka emva koxinzelelo lwasemva koxinzelelo, uxinzelelo olunzima oluqhubeka ngaphandle kwesizathu. Chaza ezo mvakalelo kwaye uzixoxe noogxa bakho okanye nabahlobo. Unxunguphalo ngamanye amaxesha lunokwenza ukuba "ukukhula emva koxinzelelo," ekugqibeleni kukhokelele kumanqanaba aphezulu okukhula kobuntu, ngokufana nesiko laseJapan laseKintsugi, ukulungiswa kweembiza ezaphukileyo. Endaweni yokufihla iintanda, iyazigqamisa, iphinda iyenze into iphelele ngelixa kwangaxeshanye iphethe "imbali eyaphukileyo," njengoko isayikholojisti uScott Barry Kaufman eyibeka kakuhle inqaku lakhe elithi "Ukufumana intsingiselo kunye nokuyila kubunzima." UKaufman ucaphula uphando olubonisa ukuba iipesenti ezingama-61 zamadoda kunye neepesenti ezingama-51 zabasetyhini eUnited States baxela isiganeko esinye esibuhlungu ebomini babo, kwaye ucebisa ukuba amandla omntu okomelela abalulekile. UKaufman uchaza ukuba esinye sezitshixo zokukhula emva kwengozi kukukwazi ukuphonononga ngokupheleleyo iingcinga, iimvakalelo kunye neemvakalelo kunokuba uzithintele okanye "uzilawule." Abo banamazinga asezantsi okubizwa ngokuba "ngamava okuphepha" baxela amanqanaba aphezulu okukhula kunye nenjongo ebomini.

Isithathu, nika umntu isipho . Ngokuyifumana, omnye umntu uya kungqina ukuba ungubani kwaye akuncede ukuba uphinde uzilungiselele. Ukupha izipho yindlela esebenzayo yokuvuselela ubudlelwane ngaphandle kokulindela nantoni na ukuba ibuye kodwa yamkelwe. Ikwayindlela elungileyo yokugcina ububele kunye nengqondo ethe uninzi lwethu lwadibana nayo ngexesha lokutshixa. Ayothusi ke into yokuba imiboniso efana no "Lee Gingwe kunye nezithethe" zika Lee Mingwei kunye noluhlu lwe 1: 1 lwekhonsathi, apho enye imvumi yenzela abaphulaphuli babodwa ngexesha, yathandwa kakhulu ngexesha lobunzima. Zombini zazizipho: ukusondelelana kunye nokuqwalaselwa, ezibini zezona zixhobo zixabisekileyo.

Ekugqibeleni, ukukrola nokukhusela indawo yokukhumbula , ngokuxabisa iinkumbulo ezivela kwintlekele kunye nokuhlala kwiimvakalelo ezixubeneyo onokuba usenazo. Oku kunokuba kukucamngca kwemihla ngemihla okanye isenzo sokushicilela. Nawuphi na umsebenzi oqhelekileyo, nokuba umncinci kangakanani, uya kunceda. Chonga izinto ozifundileyo ngexesha lobunzima ofuna ukuqhubeka nazo, uzibhale phantsi, kwaye uzisongele njengezipho. Zigcine kwindawo ekhuselekileyo, kwaye xa ixesha lilungile ngolunye usuku, zikhuphe kwaye umangaliswe sisikhundla sakho sokungasindi kuphela kwingxaki ekhoyo kodwa ukwazile ukuzilungisa kwakhona-kwaye ungene kwakhona phambili.