Ukufumana kwakhona kwiRoma: USam Geimer ekuqhubeleni phambili

Kukho ezinye izinto ezenzekayo kuthi eziya kutshintsha ngonaphakade ubomi bethu, kwaye zinokubutshabalalisa ngokufanelekileyo-ukusweleka komntwana, isityholo sobuxoki solwaphulo-mthetho olubi, ukwenzakala okungathethekiyo esingenakuphinda sisebenze ngaphandle koncedo. Ezi ziganeko zobomi zingathandekiyo ziintlekele ezisikhathazayo kude kube sekupheleni kwemihla yethu. Kukho iintlekele ezisehlelayo ezibuhlungu ngokwenene, ngamanye amaxesha zide zoyike, kodwa amandla abo okutshabalalisa ubomi bethu ahambelana namandla obomi bethu ngokwabo. Kwincoko yamva nje noSam Geimer, owadlwengulwa ngumlawuli u-Roman Polanski xa wayeneminyaka eli-13 ubudala, kwacaca ukuba ukhethe ukuphinda adibane nokudibana okwenzakalisayo kwixa elidlulileyo, isenzo sobukhalipha ngokwengqondo esinokuthi umntu ngamnye kuthi asithathele ingqalelo xa sichasene nokwenzakala kwethu kunye nokungabikho kokusesikweni.

Kwimemori yakhe yakutshanje, Intombazana: Ubomi kwiSithunzi seRoman Polanski (USimon noShuster 2013), uGeimer ubalisa ibali lokumodareyitha kwePolanski xa wayesemtsha xa wayemkhuthaza ukuba asele iChampagne kwaye athathe iiQuaaludes, amkhulule iimpahla zakhe angene kwibhafu eshushu, emva koko angenise isondo kuye. andifuni.

Ibali lonke lodlwengulo alifundeki kangako njengohlaselo olubi, uyachaza, wayenomhlobo owadlwengulwa ngogonyamelo ngumntu angamaziyo kungekudala kwaye akazange afumane ezi zenzo zimbini zifana- kodwa iyayichitha intsomi yokuba wayefuna ukulala ngesondo, ukuba wayenamava ezesondo (wayekhe walala naye ngaphambili kunye nesoka elikwishumi elivisayo), okanye ukuba umama wakhe wayekhuthaze nantoni na ngaphandle kobudlelwane bobuchwephesha-onke amarhe awayejikeleza kwimithombo yeendaba amashumi eminyaka emva konina waya emapoliseni.

Utshutshiso oluvuselelekileyo olulandelayo lwabuguqula ubomi bakhe, lwaphela umsebenzi kanina njengomdlali weqonga osebenzayo, kwaye walandela uGeimer kubo bonke ubomi bakhe, ekhokelela ekubeni abhale imemori yakhe. Izikhumbuzo azikho kangako kwiPolanski, nangenxa yentshutshiso awayinyamezelayo nonina kumajelo eendaba, kubuhlanya benkqubo yenkundla awayengenakulawula kuyo, nakwiminyaka engamashumi amane ezayo yamabali eendaba evakalisa ukuba UPolanski wayebutshabalalisile ubomi bakhe. Akazange, utsho ngokuvakalayo nangokucacileyo, atshabalalise ubomi bakhe. Wonwabile, usempilweni kwaye uqhelekile.

“Abanye abantu bacinga ukuba ndonakele engqondweni kuba andifuni ukwenzakala ngokweemvakalelo. Eyona nto indenze ndonwaba kakhulu ngokubhala incwadi kukuba bendiyibhalele nje ukubalisa ibali xa ndifuna njalo, ngokwam. ”

Embindini webali lakhe kukubeka udlwengulo kwimeko. Kwakuyixesha elahlukileyo, eneendlela ezahlukeneyo zokuziphatha ngokwesini. Ngeminyaka yee-1970, kwakungeyonto ingaqhelekanga ngolutsha olufikisayo ukuba lube neentlobano zesini. I-Polanski yayiyi-Yurophu, apho ubudala bemvume buqala kwi-13 kuye kwi-16. Ukanti lo mxholo, ucebisa ukuba, uyalahleka kwincoko yangoku ebonisa ukuba uPolanski wenze isenzo esibi-esichazwa nguGeimer, akaxolanga kwaphela, kodwa uhlawule ixabiso elinzima. Le ngxoxo ikwafuna ukuba iGeimer yonakaliswe ngokusisigxina ngenxa yencoko-ingxoxo sonke esinokuyicinga xa sisenza ityala kwaye sityhola ukungabikho kokusesikweni esiye safumana ngenxa yezenzo zomnye umntu.

"Andonzakaliswanga, kwaye akasosilo," utshilo, eqaphela ukuba nangona yayimbi, abanye baye bonzakala kakhulu ebomini babo. “Uyindoda nje, wenze impazamo. Abantu benza iimpazamo, benza izinto ezimbi. Ukuba ndenze into embi kwaye ndone omnye umntu, ngokuqinisekileyo ndiyathemba ukuba bayakundixolela.Kwaye oko kuyalahleka kule ntetho yokuba 'sisilo esoyikekayo, kwaye kufuneka uhlale wonakele kuba le nto imbi yenzekile kuwe kwaye ukuba awonakalanga okanye uyaxolela okanye awonakalanga, ke' Ukukhuthaza nje abantu ukuba benze izinto ezimbi. Asiyonyani leyo. Ukubanakho ukubuyela kwimeko yokuhlaselwa ngokwesondo akuthethi ukuba kulungile. Awukhuthazi ukuhlaselwa ngokwesondo. Andizukuqunjelwa ngaphakathi kuba nje abantu befuna ndibenjalo. ”

Kodwa ke yile nto kanye abantu abayifunayo. Kwiintsuku nje emva kwencoko yethu, wafumana uthotho lwezimvo kwibhlog yakhe, ebonisa umyalezo ongapheliyo awufumene kumashumi eminyaka adlulileyo:

Amabango akho abanye bakuhlukumeza ngakumbi kunokwenza amanyala nguPolanski. Wonke umntwana oye wadlwengulwa ngokwam ubandakanyekile ucinga ukuba uzama ukunciphisa iimpembelelo zokuziphatha kakubi kumaxhoba abo.

Ukuphendula izimvo kwibhlog yakhe, uGeimer uphendule wathi, “Ndiyaxolisa ukuba unqwenela ukuba ndenzakaliswe ngakumbi, kodwa khange ndenzakale, kwaye yinyani leyo. Awunako ukufaka iimvakalelo zakho endaweni yamava am, kwaye kutheni ufuna njalo? ” Kodwa oko kwakungamkelekanga kumfundi wakhe.

Abantu abafana nawe bayingozi. Luhlobo ofuna ukwenza abantu abadala ukuba babelane ngesondo nabantwana ngesiqhelo kwaye yamkelekile. Uneminyaka eli-13 ubudala ngumntwana. Amava ezesondo ngelo xesha ayothusa. Sisimo sakho sokuziphatha okubi esikhuthaza abantwana ukuba badlwengule nabantwana.

Amagqabantshintshi achukumise elinye inqaku likaGeimer xa ebexoxa kwincoko yethu-unyanzeliso lokuba into eyenzekileyo kuye ifana nokudlwengula umntwana omncinci.

“Andiziva ngathi ndandisengumntwana; Ndandikwishumi elivisayo. Ndityhalela emva ngokuchasene nendlela abantu aboyikekayo abafuna ukuyenza ivakele; Ndihlala ndityhalela emva. Xa ndandibhala incwadi, ndazibuza, 'kutheni sisithi ngumntwana?' Andiziva ngathi ndingumntwana. . . . . Ndiva oku kungavumi ukuxolela yena kuphela, kodwa nokuba ndikwazi ukujonga into ayenzileyo ngendlela endiyibone ngayo nangendlela endiye ndaziva ngayo. Abantu abayiqondi into yokuba bekungekho mbi nangakumbi. ”

Asikuko ukuba uNks.Geimer akanankxalabo malunga nokuxhatshazwa ngokwesondo nangayiphi na indlela, okanye ukuba akabahloniphi abo banceda. Kodwa ubonisa ukuba akuncedi konke konke ukunyanzelisa abantu ukuba bonakaliswe ngakumbi kunokuba benjalo, ukuze bagwebe isenzo sokuhlukumeza. Ngapha koko, ucebisa ukuba amajelo eendaba abonisa ukuba ulwaphulo-mthetho luhlobo oluthile "lolonwabo kumaxhoba," apho abaphulaphuli bakhuthazwa ukuba babone ukubandezeleka kwamaxhoba njengomlinganiso wokuziphatha. Oko kukuthi, okukhona umntu esenziwa ukuba lixhoba, kokukhona imeko yomsindo kunye nokuziphatha umbukeli esiva. Kwaye yile mabango ukuba ixhoba lonakaliswe kangangoko ukuba iGeimer ifumanise iqhubela phambili indima yexhoba.

"Ungayenza njani inzuzo yokuphinda uhlukumeze amaxhoba kwaye uqhubeke usenzakalisa abantu esele bonzakele kwaye usebenzise oko ukuzazisa okanye ukuhlawula?" Ubuza ngokurhabaxa, ejonge kuNancy Grace, amchaze kwincwadi yakhe njenge "vampire blond etya usizi kwisidlo sakusasa," kwaye ochaze uGeimer "njengexhoba elibuthathaka elingakwaziyo ukuzimela."

"Ndilixhoba lodlwengulo, kwaye ndiya kuhlala ndililo," ubhala watsho uGeimer kwincwadi yakhe. “Kodwa andiloxhoba njengomntu. Ndingumntu owomeleleyo okhetha ukuzichaza ngamandla akhe, umdla wakhe, usapho lwakhe, kunye nokuzonda kwakhe kweempukane ezifuna ukulungelelanisa ubomi bakhe neenjongo zazo. ”

Ugqirha Phil naye wangena ngaphakathi, ubhala watsho uGeimer, ecebisa ukuba unesifo sexhoba, kwaye wayefuna ukumnceda. Ingumxholo ongaguquguqukiyo wokuba le nto ahlupheke ngayo yayimbi kangangokuba ukhetho lwakhe kuphela kukutshatyalaliswa, ukuba uGeimer uyachasa-kwaye nguloo myalezo awubonakalisileyo ukuba umenzakalisile ngaphezu kokudlwengulwa kwemizuzu elishumi nguPolanski.

"Kukho esi sigwebo sokuba wenzakele kwaye uhlala wonakele kwaye kufuneka uqhubeke ukukuchaphazela," utshilo. Izinto ezimbi ziyenzeka kuye wonke umntu kwaye kufuneka sizame ngako konke okusemandleni ukuqhubela phambili. Kwaye ukwenza loo nto, uGeimer wamxolela uPolanski ngento ayenzileyo- hayi ukumvumela ukuba akhulule, kodwa ukuba azikhuphe kwixa elidlulileyo. Kodwa kutheni uxolela umdlwenguli?

“Uyazenzela; Ngaphandle kokuba umntu othile ucela uxolelo, uzenzela wena. Uxolelo kukwenza ube ngumntu osempilweni ngakumbi, nokonwaba. Xa kukho into eyenzekayo awunakho ukuyilungisa, ke ukubambelela kumsindo nengqumbo kuyazenzakalisa. Ndandinabantu abaninzi ababendenzakalisa kwaye ke andifuni ukongeza kuloo nto ngokubambelela kumsindo nengqumbo kuye. Kwaye, sobabini sidlule kwizinto ezininzi ngenxa yale nto, ke akufani nokuba akahlawulanga xabiso ngokwenzekileyo. Ukumxolela yayiyeyona nto ilula. Ukufumana kwakhona kuyo yonke into eyayiqhubeka neenkundla noonondaba kunye nezinto ezazithethwa ngabantu-ibiyinto enzima leyo. ”

Kumsebenzi wam ekujolise kubo ekuphangeni, ndiye ndifumanise ukuba oyena mqobo uphilisayo kukungavumi ukuyeka umsindo. Abantu abaye baphathwa gadalala banelungelo elisemthethweni lokuba nomsindo, kodwa ngelishwa, elo lungelo linokuba lilitye eliqinisa abo bacaphukileyo kumanxeba abo. Kuphela ngokuhambisa ngaphaya komsindo kunye nendawo yenceba ejonga umntu ngamnye kuthi, abenzi bobubi kunye naboni, njengabantu abangafezekanga abazabalazela ukusinda apho sinokuthi siqale ukujonga iimpazamo esiye sahlupheka ngazo njengongenakoyiswa. Ibali lika-Samantha Geimer libalulekile eluntwini hayi kuba indoda eyamdlwengulayo yayidumile, kodwa ngezifundo ekufuneka isifundisile malunga nokuchacha ekuphathweni gadalala, umbono kunye nolindelo esinalo kwabo baxhatshazwayo, kunye namandla akhululayo oxolelo- naxa abanye besithi yinto yokugqibela ekufuneka siyenzile.