Ukulwa ngokwenkolo nangokomoya ngexesha lobunzima

UMarian Fontana wayephila ubomi obulungileyo. Wayetshatile kamnandi nomyeni wakhe, uDave, iminyaka eli-17, kunye nonyana wakhe omncinci. Ngokutsho kwakhe, uMarian “wayesoloko encokola noThixo.” Njengenxalenye yesiqhelo kubomi bakhe bemihla ngemihla, wayeya kumbulela uThixo ngako konke oko kwakuhamba kakuhle kwaye acele uThixo ukuba asikelele abanye abasweleyo.

Kwandula ke kweza uSeptemba 11, 2001.

Xa uMarian wabona iZiko lezoRhwebo leHlabathi lisasazeka kumabonakude, wayesazi ukuba ubomi bakhe buqhekekile ngokunjalo. UDave wayengumcimi-mlilo waseNew York owayebizelwe kuloo ndawo. Emva kokubona ukusweleka kwakhe, impendulo yakhe yokuqala yayikukubhadula kuwo onke amabandla kwindawo awayehlala kuyo athandaze athandaze athandazele ubomi bukaDave. Kodwa, lo mthandazo wawungazukuphendulwa.

Emva kweenyanga ezininzi zentlungu, uMarian waqala ukubona ubuhle kwakhona. Nangona kunjalo, ubomi bakhe bokomoya babuhlukile. Njengokuba wayesabelana noxwebhu lwe-PBS, "Ukholo kunye nokuthandabuza kumhlaba ongaphantsi:"

"Khange ndikholelwe ukuba lo Thixo bendithetha naye ngendlela yam kangangeminyaka engama-35 angayiguqula le ndoda inothando ibe ngamathambo. Kwaye ndiyaqonda ukuba kulapho ndaziva ukuba ukholo lwam lubuthathaka kakhulu ... Incoko zam noThixo endandikade ndinayo, andisenayo ... Ndiziva ndilahliwe ... ”

Kwiminyaka kamva, uMarian uqhuba ngcono. Ubhale imemo malunga namava akhe ("Ukuhamba komhlolokazi"), kwaye uxela ukuba akanamsindo. Nangona kunjalo, njengoko watsho kwincoko ephilayo ehlelwe yi-PBS kwiminyaka eli-10 emva kokusweleka kukaDave, "[Andisaxubushi noThixo ngendlela endandiqhele ukwenza ngayo."

Isiganeko sobomi esibi njengokulahlekelwa ngumntu omthandayo sinokusebenza njengesiqhelo kubomi babantu abaninzi bonqulo okanye bokomoya. Kwabanye, inkolo okanye imeko yokomoya isenokwanda — isulungekiswe okanye yendele nzulu kuvavanyo. Kwabanye, njengoMarian, inkolo okanye ubumoya bunokwehla ngandlela thile.

Iqela lezenzululwazi zengqondo elikhokelwa nguJulie Exline e-Case Western Reserve University liqalisile ukuphanda ngokwenzekayo ngamaxesha omzabalazo wenkolo okanye wokomoya. Into enomdla kukuba kwizifundo ezininzi , Eli qela lophando lifumanise ukuba i-44 ukuya kwi-72 yeepesenti yabathathi-nxaxheba ababonisa ezinye iinkolelo zokungakholelwa kubukho bukaThixo okanye ze-agnostic baxela ukuba ukungakholelwa kwabo, ubuncinci ukuya kuthi ga kwinqanaba elithile, kungenxa yemeko yobudlelwane okanye yeemvakalelo (ngeepesenti ezahluka ngokweesampulu kunye neendlela) .

( Cofa apha Ingxoxo engakumbi malunga nokuba inkolo kunye nokomoya kuyehla njani e-United States, kunye nezinye izizathu zenkcubeko.)

Inye into enokubangela ukuba abantu batshintshe iinkolelo zabo zonqulo okanye zokomoya ngexesha elinzima zichaphazela iinkolelo zabo zangaphambili ngoThixo. Kutshanje, u-Exline kunye neqela lakhe bapapashe isifundo esibonisa ukuba abantu abanezimvo ezingezizo malunga noThixo banokwehla kwezenkolo nakwimisebenzi yokomoya emva kobunzima. Ngokukodwa, abo baxhasa iinkolelo zokuba uThixo ubangela, avumele, okanye akanakuthintela ukubandezeleka kunokwenzeka ukuba bafumane ukwehla.

UMarian Fontana ngumzekelo wale patheni iqhelekileyo. Kwintlungu yakhe, khange akwazi ukudibanisa ubuhle abubonayo ecaleni kwakhe ngengcinga yokuba ngandlel 'ithile inoxanduva lokuguqula umyeni wakhe amthandayo abe "ngamathambo." Ngenxa yoku, iyaqondakala into yokuba uphelelwe ngumdla wokuba "ancokole noThixo."

Ewe, abantu abafani kwindlela abasabela ngayo kwintlekele.

Ukucacisa ngakumbi oku kuguquka, kwelinye inqaku, u-Exline kunye noogxa bakhe bahlukanise iindlela ezintathu ngokubanzi "zokuqhankqalaza" ngokuchasene noThixo ngexesha lobunzima. Ezi ndlela zoqhankqalazo zinokubakho ngokuqhubekekayo, ukusukela kuqhanqalazo oluxhomekeke (umzekelo, ukubuza kunye nokukhalaza kuThixo) ukuya kwiimvakalelo ezingalunganga (umzekelo, umsindo nokudana kuThixo) ukuphuma kwizicwangciso (umz. ubudlelwane).

Umzekelo, kwincwadi yam endiyithandayo yexesha lonke, "Ubusuku," ophumeleleyo weNobel Peace Prize, u-Elie Wiesel, wabalisa ngokubalaseleyo eminye yemizabalazo yakhe ngexesha lokuthinjwa kwakhe ngamaNazi. Kwenye yezona ndima zidumileyo zencwadi, uWiesel wabhala ngempendulo yakhe akufika eAuschwitz:

Andisayi kuze ndibulibale obo busuku, ubusuku bokuqala enkampini, obuguqule ubomi bam baba bubusuku obunye obude, amaxesha asixhenxe aqalekisiwe kwaye atywinwa kasixhenxe. Andisayi kuze ndiwalibale laa msi. Andisayi kuze ndilibale ubuso obuncinci babantwana, imizimba yabo endiyibonileyo ijike yaba zizithsaba zomsi phantsi kwesibhakabhaka esithuleyo. Andisayi kuze ndiwalibale la malangatye alugqibe ukholo lwam ngonaphakade. ”

Kwezinye iindinyana, uWiesel uchaze ngokunyaniseka komsindo wakhe kuThixo ngokuvumela oku kubandezeleka kwenzeke. Umzekelo, kwiYom Kippur, uMhla weNtlawulelo xa amaJuda azila ukutya, uWiesel wathi:

"Andizili ... andisayamkeli inzolo kaThixo. Ndathi ndiginya ukutya kwam isuphu, ndayijika loo nto yaba luphawu lovukelo, lokuqhankqalaza. ”

Kumashumi eminyaka kamva, kwinkqubo yakhe kanomathotholo ethi, "On Being," uKrista Tippett wabuza uWiesel ukuba kwenzeka ntoni kwinkolo yakhe kwiminyaka eyalandelayo. UWiesel uphendule umdla:

“Ndiqhubeke nokuthandaza. Ke mna ndithethile la mazwi mabi, kwaye ndimi ngelizwi ngalinye endilithethileyo. Kodwa emva koko, ndaqhubeka ndithandaza ... andizange ndibuthandabuze ubukho bukaThixo. ”

Kakade ke, amaYuda amaninzi — nabantu abaninzi baseYurophu — babengafuni ukukholelwa kuThixo emva kokubulawa kwabantu ngenkohlakalo. NjengoMarian Fontana, kuyaqondakala ukuba babengenako ukudibanisa ukukholelwa kuThixo onamandla onke, nothando kunye nokubandezeleka okukhulu okwenzekayo. U-Elie Wiesel, ngokuchaseneyo, wabuza uThixo kwaye waba nomsindo omkhulu kuThixo, kodwa akazange aphume kubudlelwane.

Kubantu abafuna ukugcina ubudlelwane noThixo, kunokuba luncedo kakhulu ukuqonda olu khetho lokuqhankqalaza ngaphandle kokuphuma. Kwinqaku labo ngesihloko, Exline kunye noogxa bandise kule nto inokwenzeka:

"Ukukwazi ukwahlula phakathi kwendlela yokuziphatha yokuphuma (ethi yona yonakalise ubudlelwane) kunye nokuziphatha okuqinisekileyo (okunokunceda ubudlelwane) kunokuba yinto ebaluleke kakhulu. ... Abanye ... abantu ... ukunyamezeleka koqhanqalazo — ngakumbi ngeendlela zalo zokuzimela — ngaba ingayinxalenye yolwalamano olusenyongweni noThixo? ”

Wilt, J. A., Exline, J. J., Lindberg, M. J., Park, C. L., & Pargament, K. (2017). Iinkolelo zenkolo malunga nokubandezeleka kunye nokunxibelelana noThixo. Psychology yezenkolo kunye nokomoya, 9, 137-147.