Ukuzithanda

Umxholo

• Ukuzazi
• Ukuzixabisa
• Ubuwena
• Ukuzikhathalela

Uninzi lwethu luyazi ukuba luyintoni uthando lwakho kodwa akaluqondi. Uyatya kuba uyaqonda ukuba ufuna ukondliwa. Kubuhlungu ukuba uninzi lwethu luzama ukoyisa amadabi angaphandle njengokufumana uthando, ukufumana impumelelo, okanye ukufumana ukonwaba, kodwa asiqondi ukuba ukuzithanda yingcambu apho yonke into ikhula khona.

Singamthanda njani umntu olandelayo ngaphambi kokuba sifunde ukuzithanda ngokungathandabuzekiyo? Xa uzithanda phantsi kwemeko ezithile, awungekhe uthande omnye ngaphandle kwemeko, kuba kutheni unika omnye umntu into ongenayo? Ukuqonda kwethu ukuthanda wena kuyafundwa ngexesha lobuntwana kwabo basikhathaleleyo. Kwiimeko ezininzi, ifundiswa ngokungazi; Sifumene umbono nje ngokubukela abo basikhulisayo.

Ukuzithanda akupheleli nje ekunxibeni iimpahla ezintle kwaye uqhela iziqholo zokuthambisa kwaye ubize ukuba uyazithanda. Ukuzithanda ngokwakho ligama lesambrela lezenzo ezahlukeneyo zothando esizenzayo ngokwasemzimbeni nangaphandle komzimba. Baninzi abantu abazilungisa kakuhle endibaziyo abangenalo nofifi lokuba kuthetha ntoni ukuzithanda. Ukuzithanda akusosenzo sokuzingca, sisenzo sobubele kwabanye kuba xa uzithanda, abanye akufuneki bajongane neengxaki zakho ezingasonjululwanga.

Ukuzithanda kubandakanya izinto ezine: ukuzazi, ukuzixabisa, ukuzithemba nokuzikhathalela.

Ukuba enye ilahlekile, awunalo uthando lokuzithanda. Ukuba nayo, kuya kufuneka silungelelaniswe nale miba mine. Uhambo lokufezekisa uthando lwakho aluhlukanga ekujonganeni needemon zakho. Isizathu sokuba uninzi lwethu lusilela, kuba akukho mntu ufuna ukuhlala phantsi aze ancokole naye. Ukuzithanda kunzima ukufezekisa kuba kuthetha ukuba kufuneka ususe izinto ezithile kunye nabantu esingamakhoboka abo. Umlutha wethu ebantwini kunye nemikhwa ehamba ngokuchasene nothando lokuzithanda kuthetha ukuba siyalalanisa kwaye ngenxa yoko sizithanda ngokwemiqathango, endaweni yokubaleka okomzuzwana esikufumana kwezi zinto ziphazamisayo.

Ukuzazi

Ukuzazisa kukwazi iinkqubo zakho zokucinga: iingcinga zakho, ukuba zichaphazela njani iimvakalelo zakho, kunye nendlela iimvakalelo ezikwenza ukuba wenze ngayo. Ngaba uyazi iingcinga ezikwenza ukuba ubenomsindo kwaye zikwenze ukuba wenze ngokungxama? Zivela phi, kwaye kutheni zilapho? Kutheni bebangela ukuba nenze ngendlela enenza ngayo? Kukwasebenza kwanjalo koko kukonwabisa. Kutheni ukonwaba nje? Kukuphuma kuwe ukuzivavanya. Ukuzazisa sisitshixo kubukrelekrele bemvakalelo. Yintoni ekwenza ukuba uphathe usenokungakuyeki ukuphambana, kodwa uya kuyazi indlela yokuphendula ngokufanelekileyo okanye indlela yokuphendula. Abantu abanobukrelekrele obuphezulu beemvakalelo baneemvakalelo njengathi. Kodwa bayaphuma kwiimvakalelo zabo ukuze bazenze ngokufanelekileyo. Oku kubandakanya ukuhamba kude okanye ukunqanda iimeko owaziyo ukuba ziya kubangela iimvakalelo ezithile ezingathandekiyo kunye nokuphendula ngaphakathi kwakho. Ukuba awukwazi ukushenxa okanye uphephe imeko, ukuziqonda kukwenza ukuba uhambise amandla owabeka kwezo mvakalelo. Enye indlela yokuphucula ukuzazi kwakho kukugcina ingxelo yezimvo zakho, iimvakalelo kunye nezenzo zakho.

Ukuzixabisa

Ngenxa yenkqubo eqhubekekayo engalunganga esijamelana nayo eluntwini, sigxila kwizinto ezimbi nezingathandekiyo kwaye sivelisela ukungakhathali kuthi izihlandlo ezininzi singakuqondi oko. Uzalwa ulwandle olungenasiphelo esinokubakho; Unayo ngoku kwaye uya kuyifumana kude kube ngumhla wokufa kwakho. Njengokuba singenakho ukudala okanye ukutshabalalisa amandla, sinokujonga okanye ukufihla amandla. Ukuzixabisa ziinkolelo esinazo ngathi, kwaye amaxesha amaninzi kuyasokola ukukholelwa kuthi. Oku kungenxa yeemeko ezidlulileyo esinazo esingakhange sishukunyiswe ngokupheleleyo. Ukuzithemba kuxhomekeke kuzo zonke izinto ezilungileyo malunga nawe. Wonke umntu unento entle ngaye. Ukuba uyasokola ukufumana ukuzixabisa, fumana usuku onokulichitha ukhetha izinto ozenze kakuhle okanye izinto abantu abazixabisileyo ngawe. Unokuba sisitshixo ngenxa yokuba ungazazi ixabiso lakho. Akukho mini ungafanelekanga ngayo. Ukuzithemba akumiselwanga nganto; awunyanzelekanga ukuba wenze nantoni na ukuze uyixabise. Wena nje. Yazi loo nto kwaye uyiqonde. Amandla akho, iitalente, kunye nobubele bakho kwabanye abantu zibonisa nje ukuba uzixabisile.

Ubuwena

Ukuzithemba kwakho kubangelwa kukuzixabisa. Uluvo oluphezulu lokuzixabisa lubangela ukuzithemba okuphezulu. Ukuzithemba kukuqonda ukuba sixabisekile nokuba sithini na okanye sineziphi na iimpawu; Ukuzithemba kubotshelelwe ngakumbi kwiimpawu zethu kunye nempumelelo. Umthambo okhankanywe apha ngasentla ubhenela ngakumbi ekuzithembeni kodwa ndawusebenzisa ukuzixabisa kuba sisebenza ngcono nezinto esinokuzibona kunezinto esingenako ukuzenza. Xa uhlakulela imvakalelo yokuzixabisa, ukuzithemba kuya kuza ngokwendalo. Ukuzithemba kujongana nezinto ezintathu-indlela esasithandwa ngayo njengabantwana, ukufezekiswa kwabantu abakwiqela lethu leminyaka, kunye nendlela esiphumelele ngayo xa kuthelekiswa nabakhathaleli bethu bobuntwana. Ukuzithemba kunento yokwenza nokuba nenelisekile kwaye ukhululeke nokuba ungubani, uphi, kwaye unayo. Ukuba ufuna ukuzithemba, phucula ukuzixabisa kwakho. Zikhumbuze yonke imihla ukuba akufuneki uthethelele ubukho bakho. Isidingo sakho sokufezekisa izinto ezithile zihlala zibangelwa yimfuno yakho yokuxhasa ubukho bakho.

Ukuzikhathalela

Eli nqaku linento yokwenza nomzimba kodwa ayisiyiyo yomzimba ngokupheleleyo. Ukuzikhathalela kuko konke esikwenzayo ukuzigcina sisempilweni, njengokuhlamba, ukutya ukutya okunezondlo, ukuhlala sinamanzi, nokwenza izinto esizithandayo. Ukuzikhathalela kunokuthatha ukubukela into oyityayo, njengomculo owumamelayo, izinto ozibukeleyo, kunye nabantu ochitha nabo ixesha. Xa kuthelekiswa neminye imiba yokuzithanda, ukuzikhathalela kulula ukukwenza. Kungcono ukuqala apha kuhambo lwakho lokufumanisa uthando lwakho.

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