Ndihlale okanye ndihambe?

Baninzi abantu abasokolayo ngempendulo yalo mbuzo woyikisayo. Njengokuba ubudlelwane bethu buxhonywe kummandla wokwenza esi sigqibo, indlela esenza ngayo ukhetho "olulungileyo" ibalulekile.

Ubudlelwane obuzibophelelayo buhlala bunemiceli mngeni kunye noxinzelelo olukhulu lweemvakalelo nolwezengqondo. Le mingeni igcwele amathuba ngaxeshanye. Ithuba lelo lokukhula komntu ngamnye kwaye, kunokwenzeka, nokukhula kobambiswano.

Makhe sijonge into eyimfuneko yokwenza isigqibo esikhanyisiweyo malunga nekamva lolwalamano lwethu.

Umsindo

Singaze senze nasiphi na isigqibo esiguqula ubomi ngomsindo. Umsindo wethu ungaziva ulungile, kwaye kufuneka sichaze iimvakalelo zethu ngokufanelekileyo, kodwa phantsi komsindo kubeka iimvakalelo ezinzulu nezinyanisekileyo, ezinje ngoloyiko, usizi, okanye iintlungu. Zama ukunxibelelana neemvakalelo zakho ezisengozini kwaye uthathe umngcipheko wokuziveza kwiqabane lakho.

Ukuthetha into evakalelwa kukuba sesichengeni akubuthathaka; kuchasene nje. Yinyani. Uthando lunokuchuma kunxibelelwano olusengozini. Ukuzikhusela kwiimvakalelo zethu ezibuhlungu kubeka umqobo kulwalamano olusenyongweni ngokweemvakalelo.

Xa abantu ababini bethetha ngecala labo elisengozini komnye nomnye, kuninzi okuya kutyhilwa. Kulapho sihlala khona ngokwenyani, kwaye kufuneka siviwe. Ukuba iqabane lakho liqabane "elilungileyo", baya kube bemamele kwaye bekhathalele xa utyhila icala lakho elithambileyo. Ukuba abaziva iindlebe, unokufumana impendulo yakho.

Uloyiko

Ukhetho olubalulekileyo luhlala lwenziwa okanye luthintelwa ngenxa yokoyika iziphumo.Ndibonile imitshato emininzi ihlala ihleli ngenxa yobuninzi boyika: ukuba wedwa, ukukhathalela abantwana, okanye iziphumo zezemali. Ukuhlala kubudlelwane ngenxa yoloyiko kuhlala kuyonakalisa, kuba kuthintela ukomelela kobudlelwane. Inzondo kunye nomsindo ziziphumo zokuhlala kubudlelwane ngenxa yoloyiko, kuba bobabini abantu bayayeka ukuthembela ngomso ongcono. Kwaye ke, bayeke ukuzama.

Sihlala sikhathazeka ngemiphumo yezenzo zethu. Kuya kufuneka sicingisise ngemiphumo yokungenzi kwethu. Sebenza uloyiko lwakho olunomda, kwaye uya kuba kwindawo ecacileyo yokuza kwisigqibo sakho.

Ngaba ndiyinxalenye yengxaki?

Ngaba ndingathi ndiye ndajonga eyam indima kumzabalazo wobudlelwane kwaye ndazama ukuzibona njengoko iqabane lam lindibona? Ngaba ndiye ndadlula kwimpikiswano efanelekileyo ngokuchaseneyo kwaye ndazama ukuvelana nendlela abavakalelwa ngayo? Ngaba ndikhe ndasebenza kunyango lwezibini kunye / okanye unyango lomntu ngamnye? Ndizamile ukuba lutshintsho endilifunayo kubo? Ukuba impendulo yakho nguewe, ke uya kuba ukulungele ukwenza ukhetho lwakho.

Ekugqibeleni injongo ephambili yobudlelwane kufuneka ibe kukonyusa ubomi bakho. Ngethemba, umanyano lwakho lwaqala ngaloo ndlela. Ixesha elingaphezulu, imiceli mngeni yokuvuselela ubudlelwane inokubangela ukuba sizive sinciphile. Oku, kubangela ukudandatheka kunye nenzondo, kunye namandla obudlelwane bakho abaphantsi.

Ukuguqula umoya wokungakhathali kubudlelwane bakho, zama ukutshintsha amandla eninawo nobabini. Kwindlela eya ezantsi yokungakhathali, iimpendulo zethu kunye nokugxeka omnye nomnye ziyakhawuleza. Xa umthengi esabelana nam kunyango uvakalelo oluqinisekileyo abanalo malunga neqabane labo, kwaye ndibuza ukuba ingaba babelane nabanye ngomntu na, impendulo ayiqhelekanga.

Ukugxekana nokugxekana siqhelene, kodwa okuhlekisayo kukuba xa sinovakalelo olufudumeleyo okanye oluqinisekileyo ngomnye, sibhenela ekuthuleni. Phuma kumgaqo obambelele kuwo kwaye ubonise eyona nto uyiyo. Ukuba iqabane lakho "likulungele" kuwe, baya kwenza okufanayo.