Yeka ukubiza abantu abaNyanisekileyo ngabavukeli

Umxholo

• Amanqaku aphambili
• Ukuqonda igama "umvukeli"
• Ingxaki ngokubiza umntu "ngomvukeli"

Amanqaku aphambili

• Igama "umvukeli" lithetha umntu ochasene ngokuthe ngqo negunya njengorhulumente.
• Xa sibhekisa emntwini njengomvukeli, simchaza kwimeko engqongileyo yentlalo okanye yenkcubeko kunye nokuchaza iinjongo kunye nezizathu ezinokuthi zingabikho.
• Ngexesha elizayo xa sibona umntu elandela umendo owahlukileyo, endaweni yokuba sibabhale njengabavukeli abangafuniyo igunya, masibabone njengabantu babo bokwenene.

Ukuqonda igama "umvukeli"

Njengamagama athi “likhoboka,” “umgulukudu,” “ugqibelele,” nelithi “igorha,” igama elithi “umvukeli” libonakala ngathi liyajikwa kwintetho yethu yemihla ngemihla. Inkcazo yezobuchwephesha yekota ibhekisa kumntu ophikisana ngqo negunya, njengorhulumente. Le nkcaso ihlala inobundlobongela, njengoko umvukeli enokuba nenjongo yokubhukuqa igunya. Kwaye baninzi abantu emhlabeni abathi ngabom bacele umngeni kwezentlalo, kwezoqoqosho nakwezopolitiko. Kodwa ekuhambeni kwexesha, igama elithi "umvukeli" liye landa kakhulu, libhekisela kunoma ubani olandela indlela ekhethekileyo.

Njengomzekelo, abantu "abathembekileyo" bahlala bebizwa ngokuba "ngabavukeli" okanye "abavukeli." Kwithiyori, umntu oyinyani ngumntu ocinga kwaye aphile ngendlela eyinyani kubo nakwiinkolelo zabo, nokuba bayazenzela na izinto eziqhelekileyo. Kwaye alithandabuzeki elokuba uninzi "lwabavukeli" luyinyani kwiinkolelo zabo nakwindlela abaziphethe ngayo. Nangona kunjalo, ayinguye wonke umntu "othembekileyo" ovukelayo, kwaye akufuneki kubhekiswe kubo njengaye.

Ngokuqinisekileyo, ukusebenzisa ibinzana elithi "umvukeli" kubantu abaphila ubomi bokwenyani kuhlala kusenziwa njengesincomo. Emva kwayo yonke loo nto, ukufumana indlela yokuphila ngendlela ehambelana nexabiso lomntu xa ujongene noxinzelelo lwentlalo lokuphila ngenye indlela kuthatha isibindi, ukuzimisela kunye nokuqina. Kwaye ezi zinokuba zezinye zeempawu ezincomekayo ezenza ukuba umntu abe "ngumvukeli" ngengqondo ethe kratya yelizwi.

Ingxaki ngokubiza umntu "ngomvukeli"

Kodwa ngamanye amaxesha ukubiza umntu ngomvukeli akujoliswanga ukuba kulungile. Eli gama linokuthetha ukucebisa ukuba umntu ngandlel 'ithile ugwenxa kwigunya xa bethetha inyani kubo. Intsingiselo inokuba kukuba lo mntu sisoyikiso-mhlawumbi nokuba uyingozi kwaye unobundlobongela- kuba akahambelani nemigangatho yoluntu. Ke, ngokusebenzisa igama elithi "umvukeli," abantu abacinga ishishini labo, bezama ukuphila ubomi babo, ngequbuliso boyikisa uluntu.

Kodwa nokuba eli gama lijongwe njengesincomo okanye akunjalo, ukubiza umntu ngokuba ngumvukeli kuyakhawulela ngenxa yokuba sisimo sengqondo esinye. Xa sibhekisa emntwini njengomvukeli, asimchazi njengabantu ngabanye kodwa njengabantu ngabanye abaqondwa kuphela kwimeko yentlalo okanye yenkcubeko. Ngokwenza njalo, sichaza iinjongo kunye nezizathu ezinokuthi zingabikho. Kwaye loo mntu akasakwazi ukuqonda nokuzimela ngokwabo, kodwa kunoko kuphela kwimeko yomntu othile engenabulungisa. Endaweni yokugxila ekulandeleni indlela yabo eyiyo naphina apho inokubathatha, banqunyelwe ekuqondeni ngaphakathi kwemida yolwakhiwo loluntu olungenantlonelo.

Utyekelo lwethu lokubiza abantu "njengabavukeli" lubonakala ngathi lubi xa sichaza abantwana kunye nolutsha olukhulayo. Iimuvi ezinje Uvukelo Ngaphandle Kwesizathu (1955) zendele kulwazi lwentlalo kwaye, ithiyori, zithathe "imvukelo yolutsha." Kodwa njengoko kubonisiwe kumdlalo bhanyabhanya, into ekuthiwa yimvukelo ngumntwana okwishumi elivisayo osokola ukuqonda nokuzithemba.

Kwaye ukuqiniseka, uninzi lwabantwana ngaxa lithile bayaliphikisa igunya. Kunzima ukuzimela ngaphandle kwamaxesha enkqubo. Kodwa oko akuthethi ukuba injongo yenkolelo okanye indlela yokuziphatha yayicel'umngeni okanye ukubhukuqa igunya. Rhoqo kungabantwana nje ukuba baqonde ukuba ngoobani kunye nezinto abafuna ukuzenza ebomini.

Lo mbandela uhlala uvela kubantu abamkela inkcubeko engaqhelekanga. Umzekelo, abantu kwindawo enesingqi esinamandla kudla ngokubizwa ngokuba “ngabavukeli” kuba umdla wabo wahlukile kwimikhwa eqhelekileyo. Kodwa kungenxa yokuba umntu ethanda ukunxiba mnyama okanye ukumamela umculo ongxolayo xa abanye engabenzi babe ngabavukeli. Ukuba umntwana uyayithanda i-Iron Maiden kwaye unxibe ibhatyi ye-Iron Maiden esikolweni, aba “bavukeli” ngenxa yokuba abanye abantu bengayithandi. Oku kuhlala kusisiqalo sento engenasiseko yabalandeli besinyithi esinzima esiyingozi kunye nobundlobongela.

Kwangokunjalo, ifeni yentsimbi enzima ubomi bayo bonke ayisiyiyo "intengiselwano" engavumelani neengcambu zabo "zabavukeli" ngenxa yokuba ekugqibeleni benomsebenzi ophumeleleyo oqhelekileyo kunye nosapho. Babengenguye "umvukeli" xa babesengumntwana, ke abayekanga ukuba "ngabavukeli" ngoku sele bebadala. Lonke ixesha, bebengumntu nje ozama ukuphila obona bomi bumnandi.

Umngcipheko ongaphaya wokumisa emtshatweni umntu “njengomvukeli” kukuba ubabeka kwindawo yokuphendula kwigunya xa kusenokwenzeka ukuba bebengenzanga ngenye indlela. Bendicinga ngalo mbandela ukusukela ngencoko yam I-Hardcore Humanism Podcast kunye noSean Long webhendi enzima ngelixa elele. Kudala echazwa egxekwa kwaye exhatshazwa njengomntwana ngenxa yokuthanda kwakhe umculo onesingqi esinamandla kunye neqela lakhe. Oku kukhokelele ekubeni uLong abe nomsindo nxamnye notitshala wakhe, ade athi oku kuvelisa "intwana yalaa mvukeli" ngokuchasene "nenkqubo."

Kodwa ekuphulaphuleni uLong, sifumana umbono ocacileyo wokuba wayezama nje ukwenza into yakhe kwaye abe sisidima sakhe. Wayengaceli mngeni kwigunya. Igunya lalimcela umngeni.

Siye sazibona iinguqu ezifanayo ngaphambili, apho imitya enzima yentsimbi yayingengabo “abavukeli” kodwa yayihlaselwa ngenxa yokuveza ubugcisa bayo obuyinyani. Oku kunokuba neziphumo ezibi, njengoko bekunjalo kwiminyaka yee-80s kunye neZiko leMithombo yoNcedo loMculo (PMRC). I-PMRC ifuna ukubeka iilebhile kubazobi bentsimbi enzima njengoDade oGqwethekileyo njengosasaza izinto eziyingozi, ezinobundlobongela ebantwaneni kwaye bavavanye ubugcisa babo. Kwangokunjalo, iingcinga zomculo onesingqi esinamandla zikhokelele kwiqela lomculo onesingqi esinamandla uJudas Priest etyholwa kwaye waziswa kwityala lokuzibulala komlandeli.

Oko kuzisa omnye umngcipheko wokubiza abantu njengabavukeli. Ijolise ingqalelo kumntu ozama ukunyaniseka njengengxaki, endaweni yokuba kunokwenzeka ukuba kukho into enengxaki ngendlela uluntu lwethu olusebenza ngayo.

Umzekelo, kutheni sisongelwa kangaka ngabantu abahlukileyo? Kutheni le nto sibalahla amagcisa njengezinto ezinobungozi kuba enza oko kufanelekileyo ukwenziwa ngabazobi, ezibonisa kubo kwaye zinikezela ngombono obanzi wehlabathi? Njengoluntu, ngokuqinisekileyo siyazivuyela iziqhamo zomsebenzi wabantu abacinga ngeendlela ezahlukeneyo kwaye siphucula uluntu ngobuchule kunye nokuyila izinto ezintsha kubuchwepheshe nakushishino. Ngaba besingayi kulungiselelwa ngcono ukwamkela abantu abayinyani njengenxalenye yesiqhelo kunokuba sisongele igunya?

Ke, ukuba umntu othile uyaqonda kwaye ngabom nxamnye negunya kwaye uzibiza ngokuba ungumvukeli, unamandla ngakumbi kuye. Imiceli mngeni kwezentlalo, ezoqoqosho nezopolitiko zinokuba yinxalenye yemveliso kuluntu olunamandla, oludlamkileyo. Kwaye ukuba le yindlela umntu abuqonda ngayo ubunyani bakhe-njengomceli mngeni kwelo gunya-ngokokutsho kwam, bangabavukeli.

Kodwa kwixesha elizayo xa sibona umntu othembekileyo kwaye elandela indlela yakhe eyahlukileyo, mhlawumbi sinokucinga kabini ngaphambi kokubona ngokungathi bayaphikisana negunya kwaye bababize njengabavukeli. Bamkele ubunyani babo kwaye ubaxhase naphi na apho indlela yabo ingabathatha. Kwaye ukuba umntu ukubiza ngokuba ungumvukeli, ungamxelela ukuba:

Andinguye umvukeli. Ndinguye. ”