Ityala leShishini ngethemba: Ukudala ikamva olifunayo

Ukuqala konyaka omtsha yindawo yendalo ngexesha lokuvavanya ukuba uphi ebomini kwaye usete iinjongo ezithile. Ngenxa yobomi obuxakekileyo, isantya esiqhubekayo somsebenzi, kunye nomxholo jikelele wehlabathi esiphila kulo, ithemba sisakhono esibalulekileyo sokuphucula.

Ngelixa abantu abaninzi becinga ngethemba njengeemvakalelo, abaphandi balichaza njengethiyori yokuqonda ebotshelelwe ekubekweni kweenjongo. Umphengululi wethemba, uGqirha C.R. Snyder, wayedla ngokuchaza ithemba ngala mazwi: “Ungafika apha.” Wayekholelwa ukuba ubomi benziwe ngamawakawaka eziganeko apho ucinga malunga nokufumana indlela ukusuka kwiPhoyinti A ukuya ePoint B.

Abantu abanethemba babelana ngeenkolelo ezine eziphambili:

1. Ikamva liya kuba ngcono kunangoku;
2. Unelizwi kwindlela obuqhubeka ngayo ubomi bakho;
3. Kukho iindlela ezininzi zokufezekisa iinjongo zakho kunye nezobugcisa; kwaye
4. Kuya kubakho imiqobo.

Amanqanaba aphezulu ethemba enxulunyaniswe nokungabikho emsebenzini, imveliso, kunye nempilo kunye nolonwabo. Esi sisishwankathelo solunye lophando lwethemba:

Ithemba nobunkokeli

Iinkokeli kufuneka zibe nezakhono ekwakheni ithemba kubalandeli bazo. Isampulu engacwangciswanga yabantu abangaphezu kwe-10 000 kwaxoxwa nabo liqela lophando lweGallup Umbutho kwaye bacelwa ukuba bachaze inkokeli eyayinefuthe elihle kubomi babo bemihla ngemihla. Aba balandeli bacelwa ukuba bachaze le nkokeli inempembelelo ngamagama amathathu. Uphando lubonise ukuba abalandeli bafuna ukuba iinkokheli zabo zifezekise iimfuno ezine zengqondo: uzinzo, ukuthembana, uvelwano kunye nethemba.

Ithemba kunye neMveliso

Ithemba kunye nemveliso zidityanisiwe. Ndiyarhana ukuba ngeentsuku apho usenza okuninzi unemvakalelo eyomeleleyo yokuba iinjongo zakho zidityaniswe namandla okuphumeza into oyifunayo. Amanqanaba okwanda kwemveliso aguqulela kwiziphumo zeshishini. Abathengisi abanethemba lokufikelela kwizabelo zabo rhoqo, inkqubo yabathengi abanethemba lokuthenga nokuvala imali mboleko engaphezulu, kwaye abaphathi abanethemba lokulawula badibana neenjongo zabo zekota rhoqo.

Ithemba, uxinzelelo kunye nokomelela

Xa ufumana uxinzelelo, uphendula uthini? Abantu abanamanqanaba aphezulu ethemba bavelisa izicwangciso ezininzi zokujongana ngempumelelo nomsitho ovelisa uxinzelelo kwaye baveze amathuba okuba basebenzise esinye sezicwangciso ezivelisiweyo. Abantu abanethemba eliphakamileyo bayabhetyebhetye, banokuchaneka kwaye bacingisise kakuhle; Oko kukuthi, banokuguquguquka kwengqondo ekufumaneni ezinye izisombululo xa bekhutshiwe.

Ithemba kunye noQhagamshelo lweNtlalo

Abantu abanamanqanaba aphezulu ethemba bahlala benonxibelelwano olusondeleyo nabanye abantu kuba benomdla kwiinjongo zabanye abantu kunye nobomi babo. Uphando lukwabonisa ukuba abantu abanethemba eliphezulu banesakhono esiphucukileyo sokuthatha imbono yabanye kwaye bonwabele ukunxibelelana nabanye abantu. Amanqanaba aphakamileyo ethemba adibaniswa nenkxaso ebonakalayo ekuhlaleni, ubuchule ngakumbi ekuhlaleni kunye nesizungu esincinci (isiphumo esibalulekileyo okoko uphando lubonakalisile ukuba uninzi lweengcali zilwa nesizungu).

Ithemba yinkqubo ebandakanya iindawo ezintathu:

1. Iinjongo: Ithemba lisukela kwiinjongo ezibaluleke kakhulu kuthi njengoko sibumba apho sifuna ukuya khona ebomini nasemsebenzini.
2. I-arhente: Olu luphawu lwethu lokuziva ngathi sinokuvelisa iziphumo ebomini bethu kwaye senze izinto zenzeke.
3. Iindlela: Kuya kubakho iindlela ezininzi onokuzenza ukufezekisa iinjongo zakho. Ukukwazi ukuchonga ezi ndlela zahlukeneyo, kunye nezithintelo ezinokuvela, kubalulekile ukuba nethemba.

Kuba ukufaka ithemba yinto ebalulekileyo kubunkokheli obulungileyo, Nazi iindlela ezintathu iinkokeli ezinokubakhuthaza abalandeli bazo:

• Yenza kwaye ugcine ugcino malunga nekamva. Ngaba kukho iprojekthi enkulu kufutshane? Nguwuphi umbono oshukumisayo owupeyintayo kubalandeli emsebenzini?
• Nceda abalandeli bakho babethe izithintelo kwiinjongo, kwaye ungafaki ezintsha. Thatha ithuba lokuxoxa ngemiqobo ethile amalungu eqela lakho ajongene nayo, emva koko ube ngumnxibelelanisi wokubanceda bafumane iindlela ezintsha ezijikeleze izithintelo.
• Phinda umisele iinjongo-okanye ushiye iinjongo-xa iimeko zifuna njalo. Ngamanye amaxesha umbono wakho wokuqala awusebenzi, kwaye iinkokheli ezilungileyo ziyazi ukuba zitshintshela nini na kwiSicwangciso B.

Ithemba liyakhuthaza. Umcebisi wam uGqirha Shane Lopez uthe eyona nto ayithandayo: "Abalandeli bajonge kwiinkokheli ukuba basebenzise umoya kunye neengcinga zeli xesha, baphuphe kakhulu, kwaye babakhuthaze ngokubhekisele kwikamva elinentsingiselo." Silidinga kakhulu eli lungelo emsebenzini wethu nakwilizwe lethu.

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U-Paula Davis-Laack usebenza nemibutho ukubanceda ukuba bakhe iinkokheli ezi-agile kunye neziguquguqukayo, amaqela kunye neenkcubeko.