I (COVID) yaBantwana ayilunganga

Umxholo

• Amanqaku aphambili
• Umbono ovela eMiseleni: ngu-Anthony Pantaleno, Ph.D., noJohn G. Cottone, Ph.D.

Amanqaku aphambili

• Ngaphandle kokuncitshiswa kwangoko kwezithintelo ze-COVID, iingcali zengqondo zibona inyambalala engalindelekanga kuxinzelelo lolutsha.
• Iingcali zempilo yengqondo ziziva zonganyelwe kukuzama ukuhlangabezana neemfuno zeenkonzo.
• Abazali banokujonga kwi-intanethi nakwindawo abahlala kuyo ukuze bafumane unyango olwaneleyo lwabantwana babo.

Sele ingaphezulu konyaka okokoko i-COVID ifike elunxwemeni, izisa ukuvalelwa okungaziwayo, ukuvalelwa yedwa, kunye neeprotokholi zasemsebenzini. Kwaye ngelixa ibango leenkonzo zengqondo likhule ngokuzinzileyo ukusukela ngoko, njengoko bekulindelekile, nabani na osondeleyo kulutsha ulubonile engalindelekanga spike kuxinzelelo lwengqondo kule cohort kwezi nyanga zimbalwa zidlulileyo.

Ngexesha lokonyuka kogonyo kunye nokwehla kwamatyala e-COVID (ubuncinci e-U.S) kuye kwabangela ukuvulwa kwezikolo kunye nokubuyela ebomini njengoko besisazi, abakwishumi elivisayo, ngokudidayo, babonakala ngathi bayasungula. Le nto ixhaphake kangangokuba iye yaqaqanjiswa nakwisincoko esitsha seNew York Times.

Ugxa wam, u-Anthony Pantaleno, Ph.D., yingcali yezengqondo kwindawo yabucala eLong Island, eNew York. Kutshanje, kwiforum ye-Intanethi ye-Suffolk Psychological Association, uPantaleno uyichaze ngokufanelekileyo imbono yakhe evela kwimilo kulutsha lwethu kwidabi lokufumana impilo yengqondo ngo-2021. Njengomnxeba wokucaciswa komanyano lweengcali, ngakumbi kukhathalelo lwempilo yengqondo, ukuqulunqa iindlela zokuhlangabezana neemfuno zengqondo zabantu bethu abancinci.

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Umbono ovela eMiseleni: ngu-Anthony Pantaleno, Ph.D., noJohn G. Cottone, Ph.D.

Ukusukela ngo-1987, sisikelelwe ngokunyanga ngokuthe ngcembe abantu abaselula befuna unyango lwengqondo — abafundi abakumabanga aphakathi, abafundi bezikolo eziphakamileyo kunye nabaphantsi kwabafundi baseyunivesithi. Kodwa kwiinyanga ezimbini ezidlulileyo, kukho utshintsho emoyeni. Iifowuni ezintathu ukuya kwezine ngemini ngoku zingena, zivakala into enje:

Molo uGqirha Pantaleno, ungugqirha wengqondo wesihlanu endibize kuye namhlanje. Umntwana wam uyasokola kwaye akukho mntu uthatha izigulana ezitsha.

Amabanga [akhe] ayatyibilika. [Uba] yedwa ngokwentlalo kwaye [akafuni] ukubona abahlobo bakhe.

(Ngenye indlela: [Akazukuthetha nam. Asinokwazi ukubukela imuvi ngoku.)

Phantse yonke imihla ndibona umntwana exhalabile, edandathekile, okanye ecaphuka msinya, kwaye ezama ukwenza ukuba umntwana wam aye esikolweni yonke imihla kusiba nzima ngokuba nzima.

Yintoni eyayisenzeka rhoqo, ukusela, okanye ukusebenzisa iziyobisi iyanda.Uncumo luphelile ebusweni bomntwana wam.

Kungekudala siphulukene nomnye wabazali bam ngenxa ye-COVID, kwaye kuthabatha onke amandla am ukuze ndizikhuphe ebhedini kusasa, kodwa xa umntwana wam kutshanje ebuzile "Yintoni injongo yokuphila?" Ndaziva ndisoyika kwaye ndingenamandla kunokuba ndikhumbula.

Nceda uncede.

Ngelixa uninzi lweempawu zale vignette zibonakala zibonisa itango eqhelekileyo phakathi kolutsha kunye nabazali ngexesha lokufikisa eliqhelekileyo, ukunyuka okukhulu kule ntetho kwezi nyanga zimbalwa zidlulileyo kunophawu lwento endiyibizayo ngoku uxinzelelo lweklinikhi olwenziwe ngubhubhani.

Nangona sonke sasinethemba lokuba ukukhutshwa kwesitofu sokugonya kuya kuzisa into entsha yesiqhelo kulutsha lwethu, kufuneka siyiqonde into yokuba siphakathi kwengxaki yempilo yengqondo phakathi kolutsha, izinto esingazange sazibona.

Ngabanikezeli bempilo yengqondo abagcwele zizicelo zeenkonzo, Nazi ezinye zeengcebiso kwabo basokola ukufumana ixesha lokudibana nonyango lwabucala:

1. Nxibelelana nombutho wasekhaya wezengqondo kwilizwe lakho okanye ilizwe kwaye ucele ukuthunyelwa.
2. Zifumanele iinkonzo ezibonelelwa sisithili sakho okanye iziko lokucebisa eyunivesithi.
3. Tsalela umnxeba inkampani yakho yeinshurensi uchaze imeko yakho. Bacele ukuba bakunike uluhlu lwabanikezeli benethiwekhi (okanye cela urhoxiso ukuze ubone umboneleli ongaphandle kwenethiwekhi) kwaye uhlale unxibelelana nabo ude ufumane into oyifunayo.
4. Jonga iiyunivesithi zalapha ekhaya, ezihlala zisebenza kwiiklinikhi zempilo yengqondo ngeshedyuli yomrhumo wokuhambisa.
5. Yiya kwi-intanethi kwizikhombisi zabucala zabucala ezinje ngePsychology yanamhlanje kwaye ukhangele ngekhodi ye-zip.
6. Fikelela kwindawo yakho yonqulo ukuze ubone ukuba zeziphi iinkonzo zokucebisa abanokuthi bazinike abantu abancinci.
7. Nxibelelana nabanye abazali abanokubona imeko efanayo. Mhlawumbi mema ingcali yezempilo yengqondo ukuba inike ingxoxo yangokuhlwa kunye nolutsha kwiqela lomhlobo womntwana wakho-bukhoma okanye phantse.
8. Ziqhelanise namaxesha okutsala ingxaki okanye izixhobo zokuncokola ngokubhaliweyo kwindawo yakho. Nika olu nxibelelwano kumntwana wakho.
9. Yabelana ngeemvakalelo zakho nelungu losapho elithembakeleyo okanye umhlobo kwaye ucinge ngokuqala iqela lakho lenkxaso. Ukuba ukhetha ukuya kweli cala, kunokuba kuhle ukuba uthobele iingcebiso zikaGqirha Cottone zokunceda usapho kunye nabahlobo.
10. Ungaze unikezele. Oko ukubonayo kuyinyani. Mamela intuition yakho. Nokuba ungenelelo ngoncedo olufunayo ngoku — nokuba umntwana ufuna ukubuyela kuwe — luya kufumana umvuzo ekugqibeleni.