Impembelelo yokungalali ngokungahleliyo kunye nomntwana osele ekhulile

Abazali abalala kunye nabantwana babo baxela ukuba abanalo nofifi lokuba bafike kwinqanaba lokuba iibhedi zabo zihlala zihlala abantwana kunye nabantu abadala. "Luchaphazele ngathi kwaye silapha," watsho omnye umama xa ebuzwa ukuba unyana wakhe oneminyaka eli-12 ubudala ebekhwele ebhedini yakhe ebusuku kangakanani. Uye waxela ukuba akazange azimisele ukulala ecaleni kwonyana wakhe iminyaka xa wayemvumela ukuba alale naye nomyeni wakhe kwiminyaka emithandathu eyadlulayo ngomzuzu obuthathaka.

Ukulala ngokulala kusenokubonakala ngathi ngumbono olungileyo ngelinye ixesha, kodwa ekuhambeni kwexesha ayisiyonto iphumlayo kwaye, enyanisweni, kudala uxinzelelo olongezelelekileyo kusapho lonke. Izifundo zamva nje zibonisa ukuba ubukhulu bentsholongwane yabantwana balala kunye nabazali namhlanje. Ngokwe-Parenting's MomConnection, iipesenti ezingama-45 zoomama ezimangalisayo zivumela abantwana babo abaneminyaka emi-8 ukuya kweli-12 ubudala ukuba balale nabo amaxesha ngamaxesha, kwaye iipesenti ezili-13 ziyakuvumela oko busuku ngabunye.

Kwaye ngokwe-Canadian Pediatric Society "ukungalali ngokuziphatha" sisifo esichaza unyango esetyenziselwa ukuchaza iipesenti ezingama-20 ukuya ku-30 ​​zabantwana abanengxaki yokulala okanye yokulala, nabaphelela ebhedini yabazali babo ngexesha elinye ebusuku. Impembelelo zokulala ngokulala okungapheliyo ekusebenzeni komntu-omncinci nangaphezulu-unokuqhuba umdlalo ekuphulukaneni nenkumbulo, ukudinwa, amandla aphantsi, uxinzelelo kunye nokutyeba kakhulu.

Izizathu zabazali zokuvumela abantwana abadala ukuba balale kunye ziyinkimbinkimbi kwaye aziqondwa ngokupheleleyo. Idatha ye-Anecdotal ibonisa ukuba abantwana namhlanje banamanqanaba aphezulu oxinzelelo kunakwisizukulwana esidlulileyo. Izizathu zoku zibandakanya amanqanaba aphezulu oqhawulo-mtshato, utshintsho olwenzeka rhoqo, ngaphezulu kokucwangciswa, uxinzelelo olukhulu kwizifundo, iimpembelelo zokufakwa kwi-24/7.

Ngenxa yoko, abantwana namhlanje abazithembi kwaphela. Uninzi lwabantwana abalishumi elinesibini abakayazi ukuba babe bodwa njani ngexesha lokulala kwaye abakhange banyanzelwe ukuba bafunde. Abazali band-banceda umba ngokuvumela ukulala kunye, becinga ukuba abantwana baya kukhula ngokwendalo kwaye uninzi alwenzi njalo.

Ngaphandle kwempembelelo ezimbi ebantwaneni ezinje ngokungakwazi ukuya kwiindawo zokulala nabahlobo, ukuhamba eklasini ubusuku bonke, kunye neminye imisebenzi ezimeleyo, abazali bachukunyiswa kakhulu kukungalali okungapheliyo okwenzekayo xa belele kunye nomntwana osele ekhulile. Eyona nto icace gca kukuchaphazeleka kobudlelwane bomtshato kunye nokuphila ngokwasemzimbeni nangokwasengqondweni kwabantu abadala abangakhange babe nobusuku bokulala ngokuzolileyo kwiminyaka yokoqobo.

Ukuphuthelwa kokulala kongeza kumceli mngeni kubazali ekuqondeni indlela yokutshintsha imeko kwaye baphinde balawule ixesha lasebusuku kunye nokulala kwabo. Nanga amanyathelo okuqala abazali:

1. Qaphela ubukhali bengxaki kwaye uzibophelele ekuyitshintsheni.
2. Lindela ukuxhathisa kwaye ulungele ukusebenzisa naziphi na izixhobo ezikhoyo ukuze unamathele kwaye ufezekise injongo yamalungu osapho alele kwiibhedi zabo rhoqo ebusuku. Umzekelo, yiba nabahlobo okanye izalamane ezingeyonxalenye yomjikelo ombi, lalisa abantwana ebusuku.
3. Sebenzisa imodeli yokuziphatha kwakhona yokuziphatha kunye nokususwa ngokuthe ngcembe kwentuthuzelo yabazali kunye nobukho ngexesha lokulala kuthathelwe ingqalelo ngumzali kunye nokondla ngaphambi nasemva kwexesha lokulala kunye neendlela zokuzihlaziya zabantwana ukuba bazisebenzise ngaphambi nangexesha lokulala.
4. Xoxa ngokubaluleka kokutshintsha indlela yokuziphatha nabantwana. Gxininisa iimfuno zabazali zokuphucula ukulala kwabo nokuba ibhedi yabo yeyabazali kuphela. Ukongeza, thetha ngokubaluleka kokuba abantwana bakwazi ukulala ngokuzimeleyo ngokunxulumene nokukwazi kwabo ukuthatha inxaxheba kwimisebenzi efanelekileyo yobudala.
5. Yazi ukuba unxunguphalo lomntwana, ukuzithemba okuphantsi nokuziphatha kwakhe ngexesha lasemini kunxulumene nokungakwazi kwabo ukuzithemba kokulala wedwa ebusuku.
6. Ngokungenelela okungaguquguqukiyo, uninzi lwabantwana luya kufunda imikhwa yokulala eqhelekileyo kunye neepateni kwaye bahlale kwiibhedi zabo ixesha lobusuku.

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