Imisebenzi emininzi ethembisayo ye-Self-Saboteur

Abanye abantu, abanjengoLeonardo da Vinci, banegalelo kumabala aliqela. Abanye banomsebenzi ophambili kunye nokuzonwabisa abaziqhelanisa nokuzimisela. (Isithandi sobulumko uFriedrich Nietzsche, umzekelo, waqamba umculo.) Ukanti abanye banemisebenzi emininzi. (Ugqirha uPeter Attia wasebenza njengo gqirha wotyando, umcebisi, injineli, kunye nembethi manqindi.) Kukwakho nabo batshintsha imisebenzi rhoqo, kuba bakuxabisa kakhulu ukwahlukahlukana. (Banokuba ngabasebenzi abanqweneleka kakhulu ngenxa yokuziqhelanisa neemeko, indibaniselwano yokwenyani kuqoqosho olutshintsha ngokukhawuleza.)

Kodwa kuye wonke umntu ophumeleleyo ngempumelelo ngaphezulu kwendawo enye, baninzi abathi nkxu iinzwane zabo kwimilambo eyahlukeneyo ngaphandle kokungena nzulu kakhulu. Bazama lento, leya, kunye nenye, bekhangela "eyona nto iyiyo." Bakholelwa ukuba banetalente into ethile kodwa andazi ukuba yintoni na loo nto. Kubonakala kubo ukuba kuphela xa befumana umhlaba olungileyo, baya kuqiniseka ngokwahlulahlula.

UEdith Wharton uchaza umntu onje, umfana ogama linguDick Peyton, kwinoveli Ingcwele . Umama kaDick akakwazi kunyamezela ukubona uDick esiba "ngumrhwebi nje" kwaye ukhuthaza imfundo yenkululeko kuphela ekuboneni isimo sengqondo sikaDick siguquka kwaye umdla wakhe utshintsha ngokukhawuleza. UWharton ubhala athi:

Nawuphi na ubugcisa awayebonwabela wayenqwenela ukuzilolonga, kwaye wadlula ukusuka kumculo ukuya kupeyinta, ukusuka ekupeyinteni ukuya kubugcisa, ngokukhululeka okwakubonakala ngathi kunina ukubonisa ukungabikho kwenjongo kunokuba kugqithise italente.

Kwenzeka ntoni kwiimeko ezinje ngoDick? Yintoni echaza ukungaxengaxengi kunye nokungazithembi?

Impendulo enokubakho yeyokuba umntu unokulindela ngokungekho ngqiqweni kwimpumelelo ngokukhawuleza okanye ngokulula. Kuyinyani ukuba impumelelo ibonakala ngathi iza ngokukhawuleza kwabanye, kodwa loo nto inqabile kakhulu- ayisiyiyo into yokubheja- kwaye ngaphezulu, impumelelo kwangoko inokuba sisiqalekiso kunokuba ibe yintsikelelo. Abanye abadlali babantwana, umzekelo, abaze baqhubeke nomsebenzi wobugcisa wabantu abadala nangona bezamile, kunye nemisebenzi yababhali incwadi yabo yokuqala eyabethwayo inokuma. (Oko kubonakala ngathi kwenzekile kuHarper Lee, umbhali we Ukuya Bulala iMockingbird , naku-JD Salinger, umbhali we Umbambisi kwiRye .)

UWharton ucebisa ukuba enye into iyinyani ngoDick, into enokunceda ukucacisa indlela ubomi bakhe obuhamba ngayo: akaqhutywa ngokwaneleyo ngaphakathi. Utsho oku kulandelayo malunga nokuphendula kukamama kaDick kwimidla yokutshintsha kukaDick:

Uye waqaphela ukuba olu tshintsho luhlala lubangelwa, hayi kukuzigxeka, kodwa kukudimazeka kwangaphandle. Naluphi na ukuhla komsebenzi wakhe kwakwanele ukumenza angabi namsebenzi wokulandela uhlobo olukhethekileyo lobugcisa, kwaye impendulo yavelisa ukukholelwa kwangoko ukuba wayezimisele ukuqaqamba komnye umgca womsebenzi.

Ngelishwa, ayilandeli kwinto yokuba ukoyisile kwenye indawo omiselwe ukuba ufezekise impumelelo enkulu kwenye indawo. Okubaluleke ngakumbi, wonke umntu ophumeleleyo uye wasilela kakhulu. ' Ukongeza, nabona baphumeleleyo kufuneka bajongane nokugxekwa. Ngelixa abanye beziqinisekisa ukuba konke ukugxekwa komsebenzi wabo kuyalahlekiswa kwaye bazithanda ukuba abaziqondwa kakuhle, abanye, njengoDick, bayayeka ekuqaleni uphawu lwempendulo engalunganga kwaye endaweni yokusebenzisa ukugxeka njengolwazi olunokunceda umntu aphucule, bayikhupha isisu. Zama ngokupheleleyo kwaye uqhubeke ukhangele into entsha, yintsimi ebonakalayo evela kwimbono yabo, enye apho, bengakhange bazame nantoni na, abanakho ukusilela.

Umama kaDick Peyton- ngaphandle kokuba engenayo imali eninzi-uhlawula uDick ukuba aye kwisikolo sobugcisa esikhethiweyo iminyaka emine emva kwekholeji ngethemba lokuba "ikhosi eqinisekileyo yokufunda" kunye nokhuphiswano olwenziwe ngabanye abafundi abanetalente " lungisa isimo sakhe sengqondo sokuthandabuza. ” Kodwa ngelixa uDick esenza kakuhle esikolweni, akucaci ukuba unakho na ukuze aphumelele kwihlabathi lokwenyani. UWharton uthi oku kulandelayo malunga nophuhliso lomsebenzi kaDick emva kwesikolo sobugcisa:

Vala uloyiso olulula lobufundi bakhe beza nempendulo eyoyikisayo yokungakhathali koluntu. UDick, ekubuyeni kwakhe eParis, wayenze intsebenziswano nomakhi wezakhiwo owayeneminyaka eliqela yoqeqesho olusebenzayo kwiofisi yaseNew York; kodwa uGill owayethule kwaye ekhuthele, nangona wayetsala kule femu mitsha imisebenzi emincinci ethe yaphuphuma kwishishini lalowo wayesakuba ngumqeshi wakhe, khange akwazi ukosulela uluntu ngokholo lwakhe kwiitalente zikaPeyton, kwaye ibizama ingqondi oziva ngathi unakho ukudala amabhotwe kuye kwanyanzeleka ukuba athintele iinzame zakhe ekwakheni izindlu zasedolophini okanye ekucwangciseni utshintsho oluncinci kwizindlu zabucala.

Umbuzo ophambili apha kukuba ukusilela kwempumelelo kaDick kunento yokwenza neetalente okanye isimilo. Umfazi uDick ufuna ukutshata, uClemence Verney, ukholelwa ukuba kungenxa yesimilo, esithi kumama kaDick:

Umntu akanakufundisa umntu ukuba abe nengqondi, kodwa ukuba unayo angambonisa ukuba uyisebenzisa kanjani. Yiloo nto endifanele ukuba ndilungele yona, uyabona-ukumgcina ukuya kumathuba akhe.

Ngapha koko, italente kaDick idlula leyo yomhlobo onesiphiwo sakhe, umyili wezakhiwo oselula ogama linguPaul Darrow. Nangona kunjalo, uDick unetalente eyaneleyo yokuba abe ngumyili wezakhiwo ophumeleleyo, nangona mhlawumbi engenakulunga njengoPaul. Ingxaki kukuba akanaso isisombululo esifanelekileyo. Umzekelo, ngaxa lithile, uDick noPaul bobabini basebenza kuyilo loyilo lokhuphiswano. Isixeko sivotele isixa esikhulu semali kwisakhiwo esitsha semyuziyam, kwaye aba bafana babini bazimisele ukungenisa uyilo. Xa uDick ebona imizobo kaPawulos, udimazeka kakhulu endaweni yokuziva ekhuthazekile ukuba asebenze nzima.

Njengokuba ithuba belinokuba nalo, uPaul ubamba inyumoniya emva nje kokugqiba uyilo lokhuphiswano. Ushiya ileta eya kuDick, emnika imvume yokusebenzisa uyilo kukhuphiswano. UPaul akaze achache kwisifo sakhe kwaye usweleke kungekudala emva koko. UDick, ileta kaPaul ngesandla, ulingeka ukuba asebenzise uyilo lomhlobo wakhe. Okwethutyana, uzimisele ukuyidlulisa njengeyakhe. Kodwa uDick uziva ukuba umama wakhe umjongile kwaye uzonwabisile iinjongo zakhe. Nangona engathethi nto, ubukho bakhe bujonga iimpembelelo zakhe. Ekugqibeleni, uthatha isigqibo sokurhoxa kukhuphiswano ngokupheleleyo, esithi kunina:

Ndifuna wazi ukuba kukukwenza kwakho oku — ukuba ubukhe wakhululwa ngephanyazo, ngendiphantsi kobomi.

Into ethethwa nguDick ngokuthi "ungene phantsi" kukuba ngaphandle kokujonga kukanina, ngewayesebenzise izazobe zikaPaul kwaye waphumelela ukhuphiswano phantsi kokuzenzisa, obekuya kuba kukuwohloka kokuziphatha kunye nobungcali. Umlingiswa kaDick, ke, uboniswa ukuba unesiseko sokuziphatha. Akaphuli ikhowudi yobungangamsha. Kodwa umba uhlala: ngelixa enganikezeli kwezona zilingo zimbi, akanazo iimpawu ezintle azifunayo ukuze aphumelele. Uswele, njengoko sinokuthi namhlanje, grit. UDick uthambekele ekuthandabuzeni nakwizigqibo.

Enye yeengxaki apha, kufanele ukuba iqatshelwe, kukuba ukusuka kwenye into ukuya kwelinye ngamanye amaxesha kukhuthazwa zizizathu ezifanelekileyo, zisenza ukuba ukuqiqa nokuzikhohlisa kube lula kwezinye iimeko. Okokuqala, kukho into ekumele ithethwe ngokungabi lixhoba lokuhla kweendleko. Lowo uchithe iminyaka emithathu kwisikolo se-med, umzekelo, oko akuthethi ukuba umntu abe ngugqirha kuzo zonke iindleko nokuba umntu uziva elusizi ngokupheleleyo njengomfundi wezonyango kwaye engajonganga phambili ekwenzeni njengogqirha. Umntu usenokuthi, emva kwayo yonke loo nto, enze impazamo, athabathe indlela engeyiyo, kwaye kwangoko akuqonde oku, ngcono. Awunakho ukubuyekeza iminyaka emithathu elahlekileyo ngokulahleka eminye emithathu, okanye amashumi amathathu.

Okwesibini, asisoloko siwazi amandla ethu. Kuyinyani ukuba kunokubakho intsimi onokwazi kuyo ngaphandle kokuyazi. Yiyo loo nto ingumbono olungileyo ukunika abantu abancinci ithuba lokuzama kwaye bafumane iitalente zabo.

Ukuphendula inqaku lokuqala, nangona kunjalo, qaphela ukuba uDick akafani nomfundi wezonyango oza ukuqonda ukuba akanamdla kwi-biology kunye ne-anatomy okanye mhlawumbi, ukuba akathandi ukubona iinaliti. UDick unikezela kwimisebenzi yakhe eyahlukeneyo hayi kuba efumanisa ukungangqinelani phakathi kwento ayenzileyo kunye nomoya wakhe, kodwa ngenxa yokuba edimazekile sisikhalazo esincinci. Akukho nto ngaphandle kokudumisa okunokumgcina ehamba, kwaye njengoko ukudumisa kungasoloko kuvela, uba nomkhwa wokuncama. Oko utyekelo lomntu lwenza yonke ukulandela ukungalunganga okungalunganga. Akukho ndlela ilungileyo kwi-self-saboteur kunye ne-quitter.

Ngokuphathelene nenqaku lesibini, umntu unokuphikisa ukuba amandla okwenyani anokufunyanwa, ngenye indlela okanye enye. Kodwa nangona oko kungenjalo, ubomi bomntu abude ngokwaneleyo ukuba bazame yonke into (kwaye akukho mntu uya kusixhasa ngemali ukuze siqhubeke sikhangela). Kuyinyani ukuba sinokuphulukana nelona thuba lethu lihle ngenxa yokuba singaze sizame into esinokuyenza kakuhle, kodwa ukuba asibambeleli kuyo nantoni na, siyakuphulukana nawo onke amathuba. Ngaphandle kwesisombululo, ngekhe sibeke umsebenzi ofunekayo ukumisela ubungakanani besakhono esinaso somsebenzi esiwunikiweyo. Ukuba uqhuba ivayolini kangangeentsuku ezimbini, ngekhe wazi ukuba ubunokuba ngumdlali wevayolin omkhulu.

Kukho umba wokugqibela endinqwenela ukuwukhankanya. Inento yokwenza nokugxila kukaDick kwisiphumo sokugqibela endaweni yenkqubo yokusebenza ngendlela eya kwinjongo. Ngexesha elinye, umama kaDick umbuza malunga noyilo lokhuphiswano. Uthi le projekthi sele ilungile kwaye kufuneka aphumelele ukhuphiswano ngeli xesha. UWharton uthi ngale mpendulo kamama:

UNkskz. Peyton wahlala ethe cwaka, ejonga ubuso bakhe obuqaqambileyo kunye neliso elikhanyayo, ezazinokuba zezo ziphumeleleyo ezikufutshane neenjongo kunembaleki eqala ugqatso. Wakhumbula into eyakhe yathethwa nguDarrow [umhlobo kaDick owayenetalente yokwakha] ngaye: “UDick usoloko esibona isiphelo kungekudala.”

Yiyo ke leyo intlekele kaDick. Kwelinye icala, ubhengeza ukoyiswa kwangoko kakhulu. Uyeka ngokulula; amaxesha ngamaxesha uyayeka. Kodwa ubona umgca wokugqibela kwakamsinyane. Ke, ngelixa uDick enesiqalo esithembisayo, akazisi nto. Ubhengeza ukoyiswa kwangoko nangaphambi kwexesha, uyakuthanda uloyiso.