Ukwabelana okuKhethekileyo kwamawele okwabelana

Ukusuka kumava am njengewele kwaye ndisebenza ngokungapheliyo namawele ayo yonke iminyaka, ndingagqiba ngokukhuselekileyo ukuba uninzi lwabantu lubonisa ukuba amawele ayaduduza kwaye akhethekile, ekuthiwa abandakanya umhlaba wobudlelwane obukhethekileyo obuhambelana. Ukulwa, okuwumcimbi oqinisekileyo wamawele, kwenziwa ukukhanya nokuba umsindo omkhulu ucacile. Abazali, abahlobo, abanye ababalulekileyo, kunye noochwephesha bengqondo baya kuthi, “Zama nje ukuhlala. Thumela iwele lakho kwikhadi leHallmark. ” Kodwa ukuhlala kunye kunzima kumawele. Ingqumbo kwiwele lakho ibuhlungu kwaye iyabhidisa kodwa ikwangumqondiso wophando olunzulu lwesazisi esahlukileyo.

Amawele obomi bokwenyani, xa kuthelekiswa nemifanekiso yamawele, ngokuqinisekileyo ajongene nemiceli mngeni yokuba ngabantu abanezazisi ezahlukileyo nezingafaniyo.Ukusukela ebusaneni ukuya phambili, amawele azilinganisa ngomnye nomnye, nto leyo edala umona nokuphoxeka kwiziqu zabo nakumawele abo. Ukuvana kunye ngokunciphisa umncintiswano kunye nokunciphisa ukulindela okungenangqiqo luhambo lobomi bonke. Ukuthatha inyathelo lokuqala ekufundeni ukuba wahlukile kwiwele lakho ngumzabalazo omkhulu. Umzabalazo wokuchaza iyantlukwano kubandakanya ukuphuhlisa ukuqonda okukodwa okusekwe kumava obomi bokwenyani, kunye nokuqonda imida ye-ego-eyelinye iwele nento yelinye iwele. Ukuqonda imida ye-ego kufuna isixa esinzulu sokungena kunye nokuzimisela kuhambo lokuba ngumntu. Ukuqhubeka kokulwa kwimida ye-ego, ukwabelana, kunye noxanduva kubangela "iingxaki ajongane nazo amawele" ekuvisisaneni.

Ukuqonda okutsha kobudlelwane bamawele: Ukusuka eHarmony ukuya kulungelelwaniso kunye nesizungu (UBarbara Klein, uStephen A. Hart, noJacqueline M. Martinez, 2020) bacebisa ukuba kutheni kunzima ukuba amawele ahambisane, ukusebenzisa ithiyori yamawele kunye namabali obomi amawele azama ukuba ngawo kwaye ahloniphe amawele abo. Umsebenzi wethu, ukusebenzisana namanye amawele, kukwacebisa ngeendlela zokuphucula ubudlelwane bamawele.

Umzekelo, xa ukulwa kusenza iingxaki zibe mbi, ke zama ukumisa uhlobo lonxibelelwano oludala imilo.

Ufanele uyeke nini ukunyamekela iwele lakho? Impendulo echanekileyo, kuphela xa kukho imfuneko.

Ukongeza, iingxaki ezikhethekileyo zokuba liwele kwilizwe elingenamawele ziyaxoxwa. Ingqondo ngendlela yokuhlangana namaqabane, oontanga, kunye nabaphathi kubonisiwe ngamabali kunye namagama okwenyani amawele.

Ukuqukumbela, uxinzelelo lweemvakalelo lwamawele lubhalwe kumagama amawele. Isikweko esithi ubudlelwane bamawele bungafana nokuhamba ngenqanawa eguqukayo / eguqukayo / enokubakho kulonwabo kunye nokwabelana nomsindo nokudana kuyacaciswa.

Uncedo olufunyanwa ngamawele xa ufunda okanye usiva amanye amawele ekwabelana ngentlungu yawo nolwalamano lwawo olungalindelekanga luyaphilisa kwaye bunzulu. Umyalezo onzulu "Ukuqonda okutsha kobudlelwane bamawele" kukuba ukuba liwele ngumceli mngeni onokuthi usebenze ngomzamo kunye nenjongo. Ukuthathela ingqalelo into yokuba ukuba liwele kulula kukhokelela kwinzondo ezingasonjululwanga ezingenakoyiswa. Kuphela kungokuzimisela okuqinisekileyo ukuba sisondele apho amawele anokufumana izibonelelo zamawele.

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