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Kwanele, sele. Wamkelekile kwindlela oba lusizi ngayo: Ibhlog.

Yintoni Le Yonke?

Kwiminyaka engama-20 edlulileyo, isayikholojisti ibisoloko ithe phithi kukufuna ulonwabo. Ngelixa oogqirha bangaphambili bebegxile ekunciphiseni ukubandezeleka okukhulu, kutsha nje sivavanye indlela yokuphakamisa abantu kwiindidi ezahlukeneyo zokungoneliseki kuzaliseko oluphezulu.

Ngandlel 'ithile, oku akufuneki kube yimfuneko. Nangona ubuhlwempu kunye nelishwa lixhaphakile kuluntu lwanamhlanje, akukho ndawo ikufuphi ngokufanayo njengoko bekunjalo kwindalo yethu yendalo. Sineemoto, uphahla, iinkqubo zokhathalelo lwempilo, ii-oveni ze-microwave, kunye neebhiya zobugcisa. Sisebenza ubukhulu becala kwindawo ekhuselekileyo. Silala kwiibhedi ezintle. Sinamathuba angenakuthelekiswa nanto okuzonwabisa.

Ukuba i-denizen ye-Middle Ages yafunyanwa ifuduselwe kwi-21st Century North America, yayizakucinga ukuba ifikile ezulwini.

Kodwa jonga ngeenxa zonke.

Ukungonwabi kusingqongile. Amajelo osasazo athetha ngengxaki yezempilo yengqondo, ngaphandle kwento yokuba sichitha ngaphezulu kwimpilo yengqondo kumntu ngamnye kunakuqala naphi na kwimbali yethu. Amanqanaba oxinzelelo ayenyuka, kwaye ayisiyiyo kuphela into yokuba siqhubeka nokusasaza inkcazo yoxinzelelo ukubandakanya inani elikhulu labemi. Kulawo angafumaniswanga ukuba unesifo sokudakumba, uninzi alonelisekanga linqanaba lolonwabo abaye balifumana ebomini babo.

Ukuba inkcubeko ingumatshini wokuvelisa ukonwaba komntu, eyethu ibonakala ngathi ayisebenzi-kwaye ayisebenzi ngokupheleleyo. Mhlawumbi kuya kufuneka sijonge kwaye sibone okungahambanga kakuhle.

Intsimi yesayikholoji elungileyo inkulu kwimbono yamandla otyikityo. Ukuba, kwihlabathi elinentabalala, sikwazile ukudala ububi obuninzi, mhlawumbi ukungonwabi ngamandla ethu okusayina. Masilisebenzise kakuhle.

Ubume bezinto ezizayo

Le bhlog iphefumlelwe yincwadi yam Indlela yokuba buhlungu: Amaqhinga angama-40 osuWasebenzisile (IHarbinger eNtsha, 2016). Ndiza kuthetha ngeebits ezivela encwadini, nangamaqhinga angakhange abonakale kumaphepha ayo. Ndiza kubonisa iimpawu zentlalo ezinokubangela ukungonwabi kwabantu. Ndiza kuzisa uphando olufanelekileyo. Ndiza kuphakamisa ukuthandabuza kwamanye amabango amakhulu ezempilo yengqondo, umm, ishishini. Apho ndiyinxalenye engathandabuziyo.

Ndingathanda ukuba ibhlog yakho okungenani ibenentsebenzo. Ngamathuba ndiya kuprinta oonobumba kunye noQ kunye no-A. Ukuza kuthi ga ngoku, nceda ukhululeke ukundibhalela apha kwiPsychology namhlanje. Ukubandakanya:

• Iindlela ophelisa ulonwabo lwakho, ulwaneliseko kunye nomdlandla.
• Imibuzo malunga nokusebenza kwengqondo okuqinisekileyo, ubunzima beemood, kunye nokuzaliseka kobomi. (Nceda uqonde, nangona kunjalo, ukuba andinakukubonelela ngengcebiso yezonyango kule forum.)
• Imixholo ongathanda ukuba ndiyigubungele.

Intwana emalunga nam

Ndiyingcali yeengqondo eVancouver, Canada. Ngo-2002 ndaseka i-Changeways Clinic-igama elingaqhelekanga lokucinga endilamkeleyo kwinkonzo endandikade ndiyiqhuba kwisibhedlele i-UBC- Inkqubo yeTransways. Ngoku sinee-psychologists ze-14 ezibonelela ngonyango lokuziphatha kunye nobunye unyango olusekwe kubungqina boxinzelelo, uxinzelelo, utshintsho kubomi, ukudinwa, uxinzelelo olunxulumene nempilo, nokunye okuninzi.

Iincwadi zam zibandakanya ukuba buhlungu njani, incwadi yokuziqinisekisa, imephu yoxinzelelo kunye nokuzilolonga kwangasese kwenziwa lula. Ngexesha lam lokuphumla ndisebenza kwigadi yeziqhamo encinci kumbindi weBritish Columbia, ndikhula iiapile, amapere, iipesika, iiapilkosi, iitsheri kunye neeplums. Asinazilwanyana zineenjongo, nangona iindwendwe zethu zibandakanya amaxhama, iibhere, iingqayi, ii-beavers, ii-otter kunye neeratttlesnake.

Inzima kancinci kwiirattlesnake incasa yam, kodwa hey: ubomi abuphelelanga.