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Umxholo

• Fumana uthando lwakho ngosuku olunye. Ngokukrakra?
• Zijikeleze, udungudle kwaye uhambe

Ndiyayithanda imiboniso yeetalente. Italente yomculo, amagqabantshintshi ejaji, iimvakalelo: Ndiyayithanda yonke. Kodwa inye into endicaphukisayo. Ingcebiso yengcali ekucingelwa ukuba ihlala inikwa abantu abaqala ikhondo labo, besithi: Ungayenza kuphela ukuba uyazi ngqo apho uya khona kwaye ubeke ingqondo yakho kuyo.

Le ngcebiso isekwe kukukhohlisa ukuba unokucwangcisa kwangaphambili ukuba ufuna ukuba ngubani. Njengokuba injongo yakho iza kusondela ukuba ucinga ngokwaneleyo malunga nayo kwaye ujonge kuyo- kufana nencwadi "yokuzinceda" Imfihlelo (endicinga ukuba kuye kwathiwa ngokufanelekileyo igcinwe iyimfihlo).

Fumana uthando lwakho ngosuku olunye. Ngokukrakra?

Ngaphandle kwento ebubudenge yokuba ukubonisa italente abagqatswa ngamanye amaxesha abanayo enye injongo kunokuba "badume," andikholelwa kumyalezo waseMelika wokuba ukuba ufuna into nyani, uya kuphumelela.

Ngaphandle kwamathandabuzo iyindlela yokuphumelela yabaqeqeshi nabaqeqeshi abaninzi ekhuthaza abantu ukuba bazibekele iinjongo ezinamabhongo ("Dare ukukholelwa kuwe!"), Thatha iimvavanyo ("Ngaba unayo inzondelelo ethathayo?") Kwaye ubhalisele iikhosi (" Fumana uthando lwakho ngosuku olunye "). Ukuzithemba okungenamda kumandla enkanuko kuxhaswa ngamabali malunga nabaphumeleleyo abalandela iphupha labo kwaye bafikelela encotsheni.

Okungabonakali kangako ngabo bakholelwa kwinto ethile kwaye bayayilwela, kodwa ke bahlala bengabantu abaqhelekileyo, abangabonakaliyo eluntwini. Cinga ngabo bonke abantu abangazenziyo kwimiboniso yeetalente ngaphandle kokuzinikela kwabo; abantu abaqala inkampani kwaye banike konke abanako kodwa bangabinamali; okanye abantu abasebenza ngeempundu zabo kodwa basilele: Bakuyo yonke indawo.

Ingxaki ayisiyiyo eyokwenza ukuba abantu bacinge ukuba banokuphumeza nantoni na abayifunayo (engeyonyani ngokwenene) kwaye bayaphulukana ukuba kufuneka bancame. Ikwenza ukuba abantu bajolise kum kwaye bangakhathali kwinto eyenzekayo ebangqongileyo. Emva kwayo yonke loo nto, kufanelekile ukuba babambelele emaphupheni abo.

Zijikeleze, udungudle kwaye uhambe

Ndiyakholelwa kwisaci esahlukileyo, esisencwadini UAlice kwiWonderland : Ukuba awazi ukuba uyaphi, nayiphi na indlela iya kukusa khona. Esi sicatshulwa sihlala sisetyenziswa ukugxeka xa abantu bexakana nje, kodwa ndinendlela eyahlukileyo yokuthatha.

NjengoAlice, kufuneka sizame kwaye sibe namava kuyo yonke into ukuze sizive ukuba ngoobani njengokuba siqhubeka. Ukuphulukana kancinci apha, intwana phaya, ukulandela indlela esecaleni, ukubuyisa amanyathelo ethu, ukulingwa kunye nempazamo, ukuxuba, ukujikeleza, konke oko kuyinxalenye yobomi. Kuphela ngokukhangela umhlaba, unomdla kunye nengqondo evulekileyo, apho uya kufumanisa ukuba yintoni ekufaneleyo.

Awunakho ukucinga ukuba engqondweni yakho kwangaphambili, unokuyifumana kuphela ngexesha lamava akho emhlabeni. Kwinkqubo, ufumanisa amacala amatsha akho. Hayi ngokujonga ngaphakathi, kodwa ngokuthatha inxaxheba ebomini, ukunxibelelana nehlabathi elikungqongileyo.

Kuyavunywa, ukuzibekela iinjongo kunokuba luncedo ukuba uzenza zibonakale ngokwaneleyo ukuba ungazifezekisa. Nje ukuba wenze oko, uhlala ufumanisa ukuba kufuneka uzilungelelanise njengoko usiya-uzenza zibenokwenyani, inye into. "Ukugxila" kunye "nokugcina iphupha lakho engqondweni" kunengqiqo kuphela xa ukudibanisa oko kunye nesenzo ukuze ufumane isheke lokwenyani ngexesha.

Ingcebiso yam ngeetalente zomculo kunye nawo wonke umntu onamabhongo: Zama ukungazi ngokuthe ngqo ukuba ungubani kwaye ufuna ukuba ngubani. Yenza hayi bethelela phantsi. Thwala ukungaqiniseki kokungayazi indawo oya kuyo, kwaye uzuze kwisithuba nasekuvulekeni. Yiya nokuhamba, ungathintelwa, kuhambo lokufumanisa. Kule ndlela inamagingxigingxi, ejijekileyo, engagungqiyo, kulapho uya kuthi ngokuqinisekileyo ufumanise ukuba ungubani kwaye ufuna ukuba yintoni.