Zeziphi izinto onokukhetha kuzo abantwana ezinomzali oQhele ukuNomsindo?

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• Kunjani kuBantwana baBazali abaNomsindo
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Kwincwadi yam nakwincwadi yomsebenzi ebizwa Amandla amabini, Ndifundisa izakhono ezenza izibini zonwabele umtshato owomeleleyo nothando. Ngelixa bendisazi ukuba isihloko sibalulekile njengoko bendibhala, khange ndiyicinge into enje ngabantwana abanabazali abaphikisayo, ngomsindo endaweni yokuvumelana ekhaya, ngakumbi abantwana abanabazali abahlala bejika umsindo wabo kubo.

Kunjani kuBantwana baBazali abaNomsindo

Umfundi ofikisayo, masimbize ngokuba nguLiz, kutshanje undibhalele inkcazo ebuhlungu yemeko yekhaya lakhe. U-Liz undinike imvume yokwabelana ngenqaku lakhe nabafundi bam. Ndicele le mvume ukuze abantu abaninzi baqonde imeko yabantwana abanjengaye, udadewabo nomntakwabo, kunye nabanye abantwana kunye nolutsha.

Apha ngezantsi kweleta kaLiz, ndinika ezam iingcinga ngento enokwenziwa kwaba bantwana.

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Heitler othandekayo,

Ndineminyaka eli-16 ubudala kwaye ndinabantakwethu ababini. Si Iive endlini endikholelwa ukuba ngumama we-BPD. Andinazo iindlela ezininzi zokuba ndimncinci. Ndilifundile inqaku lakho elinesihloko esithi "Xa uMama wakho enobuntu obunemida" kwaye undinike ingxelo, kodwa ndiziva ngathi ndifuna kakhulu. Uya kuba nala maxesha okuqhuma ngomsindo kwaye emva koko onwabe.

Andazi ukuba ndiqale ngaphi ...

Abazali bam baqhawule umtshato kuba utata wamqhathe umama. Utata uthi wayediniwe ngumsindo wakhe ongapheliyo. Xa ndandisemncinci ndandingazi ukuba leliphi ibali ekufuneka ndilikholelwe okanye leliphi eliyinyani.

Nangona ndingasazi esona sizathu sokuqhawula kwabo umtshato, ndiye ndafunda ukuba umama wayeyingxaki. Kude kube namhlanje, ndilusizi ndikhumbula yonke imilo ebebezakuhamba kuyo, ngokungathi bekuyizolo.

Ngoku ndimdala ndiziva kakubi kubantakwethu, utata wam, kunye nam.

Umama ngamanye amaxesha uxolisa ngokukhawuleza kwaye ajonge ukuxolelwa emva kokuba egqibile umsindo. Kodwa ndiyazi ukuba uya kuphinda abe nomsindo.

Ndisakhumbula ngenye imini xa wayesithi mandityise inja. Ndiyakholelwa ukuba bendikwibanga le-3. Kodwa ke, ndahamba ndayokufumana ukutya kwenja ukuze ndikugalele kwisitya. Kuba bekumnyama phandle kwaye isitya singaphandle, ndiye ndachitha ukutya kwenja ecaleni kwesitya, hayi ngaphakathi. Umama waqala wandingxolisa, esithi ndisisidenge. Uye wandiqhwaba ngempama ebusweni. Utata undikhusele kwaye ndema kuye ngendlela endingazange ndayibona.

Izinto zaya zisiba mbi. Umama wayenemicimbi yokulahla notata wam. Wayemana emtsalela umnxeba rhoqo ukuqinisekisa ukuba uhleli nabani, wenzani, njl njl. Wazama wazama ukuhlala elungisa izinto. Baye baya kunyango kodwa xa umama efika apho wayenomsindo kutata wam emxelela, "Kutheni ungamxelela yonke into?" Ebhekisa kunyangi.

Ewe ekugqibeleni sigqibe ekubeni sifudukele kwidolophu yethu, umama ekhetha ukushiya indlu yethu (kwelinye ilizwe) ngomhla wakhe wokuzalwa. Bendingafuni ukuhamba. Ndandimthanda utata wam. Mna nabantakwethu sadandatheka xa sasihlala eNevada. Umama naye wenza njalo, kuba utata wam ekugqibeleni waphakama wamxelela, "Ukuba undigxotha kanye, andizukukuxolela wakube uxolisa njengakuhlala usenza."

Okwangoku, ngomsindo wakhe, umama wamgxotha ngenxa yokucinga kwakhe ngenkohliso kunye nemicimbi yokulahla.

Utata wayengasenakuyithatha kwakhona. Wakhutshwa. Kwakufuneka azisindise ngendlela. Anditsho ukuba ugqibelele kuba akakho. Wenze iimpazamo ezinkulu, kodwa ngoku ngabantakwethu ababini kwaye ndiboshwe kukugula kwakhe.

Simbona utata wam rhoqo-rhoqo kwiiveki ezintandathu xa esiza kutyelela apho ahlala khona-kodwa ayonelanga ixesha lokusuka kubo bonke ubugeza. Uyamazi ukuba unjani kwaye uzama ukusinika ingxelo, kodwa kulula ukuba ayenze kuba eshiye nje ingxaki. Siphila ngokuhlala siphambene yonke imihla.

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