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Umxholo

• Amanqaku aphambili
• 1. Wenza nantoni na ngobubele.
• 2. Uhlala uzilungiselela iimfuno zabanye.
• 3. "Yimpazamo yam-kufuneka ndenze into engalunganga."
• Ukufundwa okubalulekileyo kweNarcissism
• 6 Ukuqonda okungundoqo okuvela kuMqeqeshi woBuyiselo ngokuSetyenziswa gwenxa kweNarcissistic

Amanqaku aphambili

• Amaxhoba okuphathwa gadalala narcissistic aphuhlisa iindlela zokulwa ukuze baphile. Kodwa nje ukuba uxhatshazo luphelile, iindlela zabo zokulwa nazo zinokujika zingalunganga.
• Ukujolisa ngaphezulu kwiimfuno zabanye, ukusilela ukubeka imida eqinileyo, okanye ukwenza nantoni na ngokutshintshela ububele kunokuvula indlela yokuphathwa gadalala okanye ukuphathwa gadalala.
• Ukuqonda iindlela ezindala zokukopisha kunye nokubayeka bahambe (amaxesha amaninzi ngoncedo lwegqirha) kunokubuyisela imeko elahlekileyo yobuqu kunye nokunceda ukwakha ubudlelwane obunempilo.

Kule minyaka, ndisebenze nabantu abaninzi abasindileyo ekuphathweni gadalala. Bonke baphantsi kolawulo oluntsonkothileyo, unyango olungenantlonipho, kunye "nothando" olunemiqathango. Ixesha elide eliqhubekayo, linamandla emva kweziphumo. Kwaye namaxhoba ekubonakala ukuba achache abonisa iindlela ezithile zokuziphatha.

AbakwaNarcissist bajonge ukujongela phantsi amaxhoba abo-ukuwathobela kwindlela yokuziphatha ebenza bangabi nalutho, ukubakhanyisela ngerhasi ukubenza bacinge ukuba bayaphambana, kwaye babulale nantoni na yokuzithemba nokuzithemba. Ukuze liqhubeke nokuphila, amaxhoba kuye kwafuneka aphuhlise isimilo esiwagcina ekhuselekile kwaye ephilile kangangoko kunokwenzeka kwaye yile ndlela yokuziphatha ehlala nabo ixesha elide emva kokuba bebalekile kwi-narcissist yabo.

Ndiye ndahlukunyezwa ngumama, owadala nosapho olungasebenziyo kwaye kwandithatha amashumi eminyaka ukuqonda ukuba kuqhubeka ntoni kwaye ndingafundanga iindlela zokuziphatha ezingancediyo.

Ngaba ulixhoba? Uyalazi ixhoba? Unokuziqonda ezi ndlela zintlanu zilandelayo zokuziphatha, ezimema ngokulula ukuxhatshazwa.

1. Wenza nantoni na ngobubele.

Njengexhoba, uye wahluthwa ububele kwaye ngoku uyabawela. Ububele nangayiphi na indlela buyamkelwa, kodwa kufuneka buvuzwe. Xa umntu enobubele kuwe, iyakonwabisa, kodwa ikwenza ukuba ucinge ukuba kufuneka ibuyiselwe ngesondo, ukwenza imisebenzi ethile, okanye ukwenza into elungileyo. Ukwamkela ububele ngaphandle kokukuhlawula kubonakala kuyindalo, njengoko ukhe wahlanjwa yingqondo ngu-narcissist wakho kwindlela "yento ethile". I-Narcissists ayinakuze yenze nabanina na ngaphandle kokunaniselana.

Kunokuba nzima kuwe ukuba ubuqonde ububele bokwenyani, uhlobo olungadingi kubuyiselwa, kwaye inokukwenza uzive ungasemngciphekweni wokuba kwisiphelo sokufumana.

Xa umntu othile edlala ngam kwaye endincoma, bendihlala ndinoloyiko njengoko ndingakwazanga ukuyithatha. Kum, oko kwakuthetha ukuba kulindeleke ukuba ndibuyise "ububele" ngokunikela ngokwesini.

2. Uhlala uzilungiselela iimfuno zabanye.

Ubomi bokuba ngumnxibelelanisi we-narcissist ndikuqeqeshele ukuba ube novelwano kwiimfuno zabanye abantu, ngakumbi ezo zomntu obhinqileyo. Kwaye ukuphendula ngokukhawuleza. Kumqhubi oluzenzekelayo. Ukuze uphile. Oku kuziphatha kuhlala kuqhubeka. Uyazibona iirikhwizishini zomntu kwaye uthathe amanyathelo ukumnceda. Ngamanye amaxesha nangaphambi kokuba baqonde ukuba kukho ingxaki, sele uyisombulule.

Akuqhelekanga ukuba uvelise impendulo engathandekiyo ngelixa unceda umntu, njengoko unokufumana ngamandla kakhulu njengomntu ophazamisayo.

Bendikumsebenzi oqhubekayo wokunceda abantu abangenanto babone izinto ezintle. Ukunikezela ngemibono, ukuthatha amanyathelo, ukucinga izinto egameni labo. Ukuqonda kuphela ukuba into endigqibe ekubeni ndiyitshintshe kubo yayingeyiyo le bayifunayo kwaphela.

3. "Yimpazamo yam-kufuneka ndenze into engalunganga."

Emva kokuba utyholwa kwaye wabekwa ityala ngayo nayiphi na into engahambanga ngale ndlela wayefuna ngayo umhlaseli wakho kuye kwakhokelela kwingqondo engagqibekanga apho ingcinga yakho yokuqala ithi: "Ndoyisakele phi, yeyiphi impazamo endiyenzileyo?" Kwimeko yomsebenzi, ekuhlaleni, okanye kwezinye iimeko, uziva unoxanduva ngoko nangoko malunga nokuqhubeka-nokuba akunanto yakwenza nawe.

Ngenxa yokuba unikezela ukuthatha ityala, abantu banokukuthatha kuyo kwaye unokuzifumana ukwimeko eqhelekileyo yokutyholwa kwaye kulindeleke ukuba usombulule into engenanto yakwenza nawe.

Nanini na xa izinto zingahambi kakuhle okanye hayi ngokwesicwangciso, kwakudingeka ukuba "ndiyilungise." Ndiqale ukulungisa okanye ndafumana izisombululo, nokuba imeko ibingenanto yakwenza nam.

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