Wenza Ntoni Ngolixoki?

Umxholo

• Ixoki linokuba naMandla athile phezu kwakho
• Kutheni abanye abantu bexoka kwaye benyanzelisa ukuxoka?
• Umahluko weNeurobiological
• Indlela yokujongana neXoki elinyanzelekileyo

• Amaxoki anyanzelekileyo anokufuna ukuhoywa rhoqo, oyike ukugxekwa, ukuswela uvelwano, kunye nokuzithemba okukhulu.
• Amaxoki anyanzelekileyo anokuba neyantlukwano ye-neurobiological enxulunyaniswe ne-disinhibition kunye ne-impulsivity.
• Xa ujongene nexoki elinyanzelekileyo, ngamanye amaxesha eyona nto unokuyenza kukuziqulatha ukuze ubuxoki babo buchaphazele abantu abambalwa.

"Ndingoyena mntu ubalulekileyo, ayinguwe, kwaye ndihlala ndinyanisile" yimantra yexoki elinyanzelekileyo. Ewe, abayena mntu ubaluleke kakhulu (balele inombolo yokuqala) kwaye abasoloko belungile (balele inombolo yesibini).

Ixoki linokuba naMandla athile phezu kwakho

Ke kutheni uhlala uzibandakanya nalo mntu? Ewe, kuya kufuneka unxibelelane nabo. Okanye, usenokuzifumana utsaleleke kumntu obonakala ngathi uzithembile kunye namandla. Ke, ukuba nje uyavumelana nabo (nokuba into ovumelana nayo ibubuxoki), uyakuba yinxalenye yesangqa sabo sangaphakathi.

Kutheni abanye abantu bexoka kwaye benyanzelisa ukuxoka?

Iingcali zengqondo zichaze uhlobo olunye lomntu oxokayo ukuze anyuse ukuzithemba kwakhe. Bafuna ukunconywa rhoqo kwabanye kwaye baya kuxoka nokukufumana. Ukuba bajongana nobuxoki endaweni yokuba banconywe, olona loyiko lwabo lukhulu lokugxekwa kunye nokwaliwa kuya kuvela, kubangele ukuba bahlasele okanye bazame ukuthulisa umthunywa.

Ixoki elinyanzelekileyo linokuhlasela ngokulula ngaphandle kokoyika isiphumo kuba liswele uvelwano novelwano kwabanye. Uluvo lwabo luluvo oluchanekileyo kwaye zonke ezinye iimbono zizimvo ezingalunganga. Emva kwayo yonke loo nto, luthelekiso nje lweembono, hayi iinyani.

Ixoki elinyanzelekileyo linomqondo omkhulu wokuzixabisa, oboniswa kukuqhayisa nokujongela phantsi "kubantu abancinci." Abanye babonwa njengabanakho ukudityaniswa bubuxoki obuya kukhokelela kwinzuzo yobuqu yexoki. Kuba abaziva benxibelelana nabantu kuninzi lwabantu, abanakuxakaniseka malunga nokutyumza abanye ukuze bafezekise iinjongo zabo.

Rhoqo ixoki elinyanzelekileyo likwaxhokonxa. Ubuxoki buye baphazanyiswa nje xa beziva ngathi. Ukunyanzelwa kwexoki elinyanzelekileyo akubonakaliswanga kwintetho yabo kuphela kodwa nakwindlela yabo yokuziphatha okubi ngokwesini. Ewe, oku kunokubafaka engxakini kodwa emva koko baphambuke kwaye balukhanye uxanduva. Ngenxa yokuba bengumboniso obalaseleyo, banokukhohlisa abantu abaninzi amaxesha amaninzi.

Umahluko weNeurobiological

Ingqondo yomntu othetha ngokunganyanzelekanga nangokunyanzela ukuba athethe ubuxoki inokwahluka kubuchopho babanye. Iingcali zengqondo u-Yaling Yang kunye no-Adrian Raine bafumanise ukuba amaxoki e-pathological anokunyuka okupheleleyo kwimiba emhlophe kunye nokwehla kwe-grey / white ratio kwi-preortal cortex ngokuthelekiswa nolawulo oluqhelekileyo. Ukuncitshiswa kwesihlobo kwimiba engwevu kunxulunyaniswa nokubulala iintsholongwane, kukhokelela ekunyanzelisweni nasekunyanzelweni. Kwaye emva koko ukwanda kwemicimbi emhlophe kubonelela ngesakhono sokukhulisa imeko yentlalo eyaneleyo yokwakha ubuxoki obuhle ngokwenene.

Indlela yokujongana neXoki elinyanzelekileyo

Ke, wenza ntoni ukuba awuvumelani nezimvo zexoki elinyanzelekileyo? ukuba kukho umahluko okhoyo kwi-neurobiological kwiingqondo zala maxoki, ungajongana njani naba bantu? Awunakho ukubatshintsha kwaye awukwazi ukujongana nabo. Eyona nto unokuyenza kukuziqulatha. Ukunciphisa inqanaba labo lempembelelo ukuze ubuxoki babo buchaphazele abantu abambalwa kangangoko. Ukuba usebenza ne-self-aggrandizing liar, hlulahlula iinxalenye zeprojekthi ukuze ube noxanduva ngokupheleleyo kwinxalenye enye. Ukuba uhlala nalo mntu, yeka ukuzama ukumkholisa.

Jonga kwabanye abantu nakuwe ukwanelisa iimfuno zakho endaweni yokuxhomekeka kubo. Ukuba lo mntu unamandla amakhulu kuwe (mhlawumbi ngumphathi wakho), dibana nabanye ukudala iqela elinamandla kunabo.

Raine, A., Lencz, T. et. al. (2000). Ukuncitshiswa kwento ephambili kwimbala yegrey kunye nokunciphisa umsebenzi wokuzimela kwimeko yokungahambi kakuhle kobuntu. Oovimba abagcina ubuchwephesha bengqondo, 57, 119-127.