Yintoni i-Anorexia Nervosa?

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Ndabhala le bhlog kuba yajika yaba libali lempumelelo kwesinye sezigulana zam (esidibene nezigulana ezininzi) esilwa mhlawumbi nezona ngxaki zinzima, zinzima kwaye zoyikekayo nabani na anokuzinyamezela.

I-Anorexia Nervosa ichaphazela ngokunzulu wonke umntu. Kukuthuthumbisa umntu oxhwalekileyo, uyoyikisa abazali kwaye kuyabakhathaza oogqirha.

Inelona zinga liphezulu lokusweleka nakuphi na ukuphazamiseka kwengqondo. Kuphela sisinye kwisithathu sabantu esiba bhetele, kwaye malunga nesithathu besifa ngaphezulu kweminyaka engama-20 ukuya kwengama-30.

Kwaye okulusizi kukuba sithanda ukuva ikakhulu ngabantu abadumileyo abaswelekileyo okanye abalwa ne-anorexia, njengoKaren Carpenter, uPortia de Rossi, noMary-Kate Olsen, kwaye ayisiyiyo le nto inabantu abanovakalelo, abasesichengeni, amantombazana kunye nabasetyhini abahluphekayo yiyo.

Ndabelana ngale bhlog ukuze wonke umntu aqonde amanqaku e-anorexia, ayichonge kwangoko, kwaye azame ukunceda nokuxhasa abo basokolayo.

Yintoni i-Anorexia Nervosa?

Andiyanga kwisikolo sobugqirha ukuze ndibe lutshaba.

Ndifundisiwe-kwaye ndakholelwa-ukuba ukubonelela ngoncedo kunye nemfesane kuya kuvuzwa, emva koko, ngobuhlobo obuthembekileyo. Kuya kuba sisiphumo sendalo ngokwenza nje into elungileyo.

Kwakungaphaya kokurhashaza xa ndiqala ukusebenza nabantwana ababeneanorexia nervosa. Nangona besendlaweni yendlala yasemzimbeni, kwaye ngamanye amaxesha, ukuwa kwezonyango, bafuna nje ukushiywa bodwa phakathi kokudibana kwabazali babo kunye neqela lezonyango ukuba batye ngokulula.

Hee, sonke siyalamba, andibi kunjalo?

Kwaye abantwana, ukutya malunga nokulunga njengoko kufumanekayo. Kodwa njengo gqirha ophetheyo kwinkathalo yabo, bandibona nje ukuba ndisisikhohlakali esifuna ukubatyebisa.

Masithathe uSarah (hayi isigulana sokwenyani, kodwa uninzi lwezinto endizibonileyo). Uneminyaka entle eyi-14 kwaye unetalente, iqhayiya losapho-umfundi othe tye, umdanisi okrelekrele, inkwenkwezi phambili kwiqela le-hockey yentsimi, onomdla kwaye onika intombi nomhlobo-ngokucacileyo umntu omiselwe ukwenza izinto ezinkulu. Kubonakala ngathi wayenayo yonke into: italente, ubuchule, kunye nabazali abaphumeleleyo nabanothando.

Kodwa, emva kwehlobo kwikampu yedrama, uSarah waphulukana neepawundi ezili-15; Uye waba yi-vegan, kwaye wabaleka iimayile ezintlanu yonke imihla ngaphambi kwesikolo, ngamanye amaxesha naphambi kokusa. Ukanti nge-5'7 ”kwaye sele ebhityile kwaye elungile, abazali bakhe nabahlobo bakhe bacinga ukuba ubukeka emhle. Ubomi, kwakubonakala bumnandi — de wehla waya kwiiponti ezili-100 kwaye waphulukana nexesha lakhe. Ugqirha wabantwana wamcenga ukuba afune uncedo esibhedlele, ngelixa abazali bakhe babenethemba lokuba into ayifunayo kukubona isondlo kwaye aqale ukutya kwakhona. Oku ekugqibeleni akwenzi mahluko, yiyo loo nto beze kum.

Xa uSarah wayeqala ukudibana nam, wayengenanto ingako anokuyithetha — wayecinga ukuba akukho nto iphosakeleyo. Kodwa wathi akwehla ngaphezulu kweeponti ezintlanu kwaye ugqirha wabantwana wafuna ukungeniswa esibhedlele ukuze azinze kwezonyango kunye "nokuvuselelwa kwesondlo," waqala wathetha-hayi, ecenga-nam ukuba ndimyeke ndimyeke ahlale ekhaya, esenza ingxoxo malunga nobunzima bakhe. thintela ukulaliswa esibhedlele. Xa ndingathobeli, bendijongelwa phantsi; nokuba ndithini malunga neengozi zonyango, umngcipheko onokubakho emzimbeni wakhe (kubandakanya ukwaphuka kwamathambo nokungachumi), akukho nto isebenzayo.

Ndaba lutshaba.

Abantwana abaneanorexia amanosa banedrive engapheliyo yokubhitya, kunye noloyiko olukhulu, olungagungqiyo lokutyeba. Ngaphandle kobunzima obuphantsi obunobungozi, abaziboni bebhityile. Ngokuchasene noko, enyanisweni: nokuba baphantsi kangakanani ubunzima babo bokuntywila, kuhlala kukho okungakumbi okulahlayo.

La mantombazana azalwa egqibelele, athobela iimfuno zangaphandle, enyanzelekile, eqhutywa-kwaye, mhlawumbi isithende sabo se-Achilles-anolwazelelelo kubudlelwane, esoyika ukwaliwa okanye ukukhathaza abanye. Ngokudabukisayo, bahlala bephika okanye bengakuboni ukubandezeleka kwabo bababukeleyo belamba ngokwabo-ubuncinci ekuqaleni. Emva kwexesha ekuguleni, bahlala beziva benetyala, kuyo yonke le nto, nangayo yonke enye into.

Kwenzeka ntoni kula mantombazana? Zeziphi ezona zinto zibangela ukuphazamiseka okunganyangekiyo kunyango, kwaye okulusizi kukuba, sesona sifo sinamandla (kunye namazinga aphezulu okufa kwabantu) kuzo zonke iingxaki zengqondo?

I-Anorexia "sisiphango esifanelekileyo" esidinga indibaniselwano elungileyo yezinto ezivela kubhayoloji nganye, ubudlelwane bosapho, imikhwa yengqondo kunye nokuziphatha, kunye nemikhosi yezentlalo. Ngelixa “iresiphi” isenokwahluka ukusuka komnye umntu ukuya komnye, kubonakala ngathi ukuba necandelo elibaluleke kakhulu ukusuka kulo mmandla ngamnye kuyafuneka ukuze isigulo sivele.

Ngokwebhayoloji, uphononongo lwamawele kunye neembali zosapho kutyhila ukuba kukho imeko yemfuza kwi-anorexia nervosa. Kubonakala ngathi kukho ubudlelwane phakathi kweanorexia nervosa, bulimia nervosa kunye nokutya kakhulu, okukhokelela ekubeni abanye abaphandi bazibuze malunga nenkqubo ye-nervous system yokulawula indlala kunye nokuzala.

Ukongeza, amantombazana ane-anorexia athambekele ekubeni neempawu zomgaqo-siseko kwasekuzalweni, ezinjengokufuna ukugqibelela, ukunyanzelwa kokunyanzelwa, ukhuphiswano kunye nemvakalelo yokuzibandakanya kubudlelwane, ngakumbi uloyiko lokwaliwa. Baye bathambekele ekubeni nobunzima kulawulo lweemood, kwaye banomngcipheko omkhulu woxinzelelo kunye noxinzelelo.

Ngaphandle kwebhayoloji, ezentlalo, ezengqondo kunye nosapho zidlala indima kuphuhliso lwesi sifo. Ezi zinto zihlala kunzima ukuzihlula kuba zidibene nenkcubeko yaseNtshona.

Izinto ezibaluleke kakhulu zihlala ziingcinezelo zentlalo ezungeze "umfanekiso" womzimba, kwaye, ngakumbi kwabasetyhini, ukubhitya. Asinakukujongela phantsi ukujongwa komzimba womzimba kuqiniswe, kungekuphela kukamabonwakude nakwiimuvi, kodwa nakwiimagazini, kwanezinto zokudlala. Ngapha koko, eyona nto yokudlala aziwayo kwimbali yanamhlanje nguBarbie — into engenakwenzeka ngokwasemzimbeni nomgangatho, phantse ongafikelelekiyo kuwo nawuphi na umntu wasetyhini!

Nangona kunjalo, usapho kunye nezinto zengqondo ziyabandakanyeka kuphuhliso lwe-anorexia nervosa.

Ngelixa iintsapho zamantombazana anorexic zihlala phakathi kwezona zinothando, zithembekile kwaye zinenkathalo, zikwanogxininiso olubonakalayo kumfanekiso, ukusebenza kunye nokuphumelela.

Ke yintoni engalunganga ngale nto?

Kwimeko yoxinzelelo lwentlalo kumfanekiso womzimba, ukungalawuleki kakuhle kwemo, kunye nokuqhutywa kwemvelo kokufezekisa, ukuthotyelwa kunye nemvakalelo yokulahla konke kubeka uxinzelelo lwangaphakathi kwintombazana ekhulayo.

Isiphumo kukuba la mantombazana athambekele ekubeni nobunzima obukhulu kwimimandla emithathu ephambili:

1. Isazisi: abazi ukuba ngoobani, kuphela into ekufuneka beyiyo.
2. Ubudlelwane: bafuna ukukholisa abanye, kunye neemfuno eziqondwayo zabo babangqongileyo (njengokubaluleka kokubhitya).
3. Ubuwena: bathanda ukungazixabisi kwaye bahlala benetyala, ikakhulu ngenxa yokuba bengenandlela yokusombulula ukungavisisani. Ngelixa ukungabikho kwengxabano kunokubonakala kuyinto elungileyo, ngamanye amaxesha kubuyela umva kuba akukho ndlela yakwenza ukuba umntu asombulule umsindo wakhe oqhelekileyo kunye nokudana kwabo abathandayo. Sonke kufuneka sibathande, sibenzakalise abo sibathandayo, emva koko senze izinto ngokufanelekileyo ukukhulula ityala kunye nokunyusa ukuzithemba. Amantombazana amaninzi anorexic awanalo eli thuba.

Ke, oko kubonakala ngathi yimeko efanelekileyo-usapho olunothando, ukungabikho kwengxabano, kunye neempawu ezithandekayo esizalwa nazo kuluntu ezigxininisa ukubukeka okuhle kunye nokuba sempilweni- zinokuphela zilahla izinto ngendlela engalungelelananga.

Abanye bayazibuza ukuba kutheni le nto kubonakala ngathi sisifo "esibopheleke kwinkcubeko", uphawu loluntu lwaseNtshona (U.S.).

Ngaba kukugxininisa kwethu kubhitya?

Ngaba ukuthembela kwethu kunye nokuchongwa kwethu ngabantu esiyimodeli esiyibonayo kumajelo eendaba?

Ngaba ixhomekeke kubume bentsapho ethile eluntwini-ezo zigxininisa umfanekiso, impumelelo kunye nokuhambelana?

Ngaba luphawu oluthile lwabasetyhini (malunga neepesenti ezingama-96 zalabo abane-anorexia nervosa ngabafazi)? Ngaba yindlela esinxibelelana ngayo namantombazana xa ithelekiswa namakhwenkwe kwinkcubeko yethu?

Ngaba sisiphumo esibi sentombazana enesichengeni esithile semfuza kunye neempawu zangaphakathi zokuzalwa kwiwebhu enobunzima angakwaziyo ukuzikhupha kuyo?

Impendulo inokuba ngu "ewe" kuyo yonke le mibuzo inzima!

USara wayelaliswa kaninzi kwezonyango nakwezonyango lwengqondo, uhlala kwizibhedlele zokuhlala kunye nezigulana zangaphandle. Uye waqhubeka esebenza nam iminyaka emininzi kunyango lomntu kunye nolusapho, kwaye nolawulo lwam lwamayeza (hayi ukunyanga i-anorexia nervosa, kodwa ukumnceda imeko yakhe kunye noxinzelelo).

Emva kweminyaka emibini yomzabalazo kunye nokungathembani, uSarah wandithanda. Waqhubeka nokutyeba, waphinda waqala ukutya, kwaye ekugqibeleni waya ekholejini. Ngokwenene ndisambona, kwaye siye sazana, saxabisa kwaye saqondana-ikakhulu iinjongo zethu, kunye nokubaluleka kobudlelwane bethu.

Kusebenze ntoni? Kwibhlog eyahlukileyo sijonga unyango lwe-anorexia nervosa, kunye nesiphumo sayo. Ayisiyonto intle, kodwa kwabanye abanjengoSarah, likho ithemba.

Ngaphezulu kwayo yonke le nto, yimarathon, ayisiyiyo i-sprint.

Ndifunde indlela yokuphila njengotshaba. Ndikholelwe, ithatha ityala.

Uninzi loogqirha, nam ndibandakanyiwe, ndifuna ukuthandwa; sizama kakhulu ukukhathalela nokuphilisa abanye.

Ewe kunjalo, kufuneka sazi ukuba amaxesha amaninzi izigulana zethu azisiboni ngale ndlela, kwaye eyona nto sinokuyenza kukubambelela kubomi obuthandekayo-kubomi bezigulana zethu, nasekuzimeleleni ngokweemvakalelo zethu.

Inguqulelo yale bhlog yayiposwe kwasekuqaleni kwiZiko loDongwe kwiiNgqondo eziSempilweni eziselulakwisibhedlele iMassachusetts General.