Yintoni Inkuthazo yangaphakathi kwaye Isinceda Njani?

Umxholo

• Amanqaku aphambili

Amanqaku aphambili

• Inkuthazo yangaphakathi isinceda ukuba sizibandakanye kwaye sihlale sitshatile.
• Silawula ukukhuthaza kwethu.
• Ukulawula intshukumisa yethu yangaphakathi kubalulekile-kwaye kulula.

Yintoni oyithandayo? Cinga ngento ekungekho mntu ufuna ukukukhuthaza ukuba uyenze, ukukhumbuze ukuba uyenze, okanye oyicothayo kuba ungathanda ukwenza enye into. Kwezinye izinto ezinokuba kukufunda, ukwenza iphazili yamagama, igadi, ukupheka, okanye umdlalo. Abafundi abanomdla bathanda ukufunda ukonwaba, njengendlela yokuphumla. Kodwa kwenzeka ntoni xa umfundi okhutheleyo ehlawulwe ukuze afunde? Uthando lwabo lokufunda luqala ukuziva ngathi ngumsebenzi kwaye abazibandakanyi nalo ngomdla ofanayo. Inkuthazo yabo itshintsha ukusuka kwinto engaphakathi (ukuba nomnqweno wangaphakathi wokwenza into) ukuya kwinkuthazo yangaphandle (efuna into yangaphandle enje ngemali njengenkuthazo yokwenza into). Umsebenzi owenziwe ngolangazelelo kwaye ngaphandle kokukhuthaza okanye ukukhuthaza ngesiquphe uba ngumsebenzi.

Abaphengululi uLepper, uGreene, noNisbett (1973) bakufumanisile oku kunjalo kubantwana abancinci. Xa iqela labantwana abanomdla kwezobugcisa abakonwabelayo ukwenza ubugcisa lahlulwa laba ngamaqela amathathu-Iqela A laxelelwa ukuba bayakuvuzwa ngokwenza ubugcisa, Iqela B elinikwe umvuzo ukuba lenze ubugcisa, kunye neQela C elinganikwanga naliphi na umvuzo ngokudala ubugcisa-ityhile ukuba abo bakwiQela B nakwiQela C baqhubekile nokwenza ubugcisa kwiiveki ezimbini kamva kwinqanaba elifanayo abazenzele ngokwabo. YayiliQela A kuphela, elaye laxelelwa ukuba liza kufumana umvuzo ngokwenza ubugcisa, elachitha ixesha elincinane kakhulu kunangaphambili lokwenza ubugcisa. Kubonakala ngathi iQela A liphulukene nenkuthazo yangaphakathi yokwenza oko bakonwabele kona xa nje umntu okhuthazayo (umvuzo) eqhotyoshelwe kulo msebenzi.

Oku akukho kwahluka kuthi njengabantu abadala. Cinga ngale ndlela: Ngaba uya kukulungela ukunikela ngexesha lakho ukunika ukutya kwikhitshi lesuphu ngokuhlwa? Abantu abaninzi bayazinikela ekwenzeni oku kwaye baziva benoloyiko ngokwenza amava. Kodwa ukuba ubuza abantu abanikezela ukutya kwindawo yokutyela ngexesha lomsebenzi wabo ukuba bahlawule, ngekhe ufumane impendulo efanayo. Nguwuphi umahluko phakathi kwezi zimbini? Inkuthazo. Inkuthazo yangaphakathi, ukuqhuba okuvela ngaphakathi kuthi, kusizisela uvuyo kunye nolonwabo, ngelixa inkuthazo yangaphandle ihlala ifuna umntu ongaphandle osikhuthazayo ukuba asonwabise. Silawula ukukhuthazeka okungaphakathi-sinokufunda enye incwadi, sibaleke yonke imihla, okanye nantoni na eyenye isenze sivelise. Nangona kunjalo, kufuneka silinde kwaye sixhomekeke kunkuthazo lwangaphandle lokuzisa ukonwaba kwethu xa sixhomekeke kwisishukumiso esingaphandle.

Ungayisebenzisa njani intshukumisa yakho yangaphakathi?

1. Ivolontiya. Xa uvolontiya ubandakanyeka kwimisebenzi yolonwabo olunyulu lwayo. Awuxhomekekanga kubakhuthazi bangaphandle abanjengemali yokunikezela ukutya kwabo balambileyo kwikhitshi lesuphu, ufundela abantwana abancinci, okanye uthethelela isizathu okholelwa kuso.

2. Umcebisi. Xa ucebisa, awuhlawulwa. Ukhokela kwaye uncede omnye umntu ukuba afumane izakhono nolwazi osele unalo. Abo babacebisayo bonwabela izibonelelo ezivela ekubuyiseni ngaphandle kokulindela umvuzo. Uninzi lwabacebisi bakhulisa ubudlelwane obuhlala ixesha elide kunye nezo mentees zabo ngaphandle kwezikhuthazi zangaphandle. Imali ayinakwenza obu budlelwane bomelele.

3. Yenza imisebenzi yokonwaba. Sukuncamathisela umvuzo wangaphandle kwimisebenzi oyithandayo. Funda nje ukuzonwabisa. Hamba, uhambe, ubaleke uzonwabisa nje. Zityhalele phambili ukuze ufikelele kwiinjongo ezingaphezulu kwakho, kodwa ungazizuzi ngombuyekezo wangaphandle ngokwenza izinto osele uzonwabele. Uya kuzifumana usenza ngaphezulu kwento oyithandayo!

Sonke sifuna ukuchitha ixesha sisenza ezona zinto sizonwabisa kakhulu. Kwaye silawula indlela esizibandakanya ngayo ebomini. Ukubopha inkuthazo yethu yangaphakathi ngundoqo, kwaye kulula. Yazi into othanda ukuyenza ngaphandle kwentlawulo, umvuzo, okanye ibhaso. Cinga ngezinto onokuzenza ukuba akukho mntu wakha wazi ukuba uzenzile. Emva koko, thatha ixesha lokuzenza (nokuba kukufunda, ukuzilolonga, ukucebisa, okanye ukuvolontiya) rhoqo kangangoko unakho. Uya kufumanisa ukuba ubandakanyeka ngakumbi kwaye uyanda kwimisebenzi oyithandayo. Kutheni ungathathi ithuba lokutyala imali ngokwakho ngokuzibandakanya kwiminqweno yakho?