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• Amanqaku aphambili
• Izizathu ezingezizo ezesondo zokuba kutheni abantu bekopa

Amanqaku aphambili

• Abantu bayakhohlisa kumaqabane abo ngezizathu ezininzi ezingenayo imvelaphi yesini.
• Abantu banemicimbi ngaphandle kobudlelwane okanye ukwaneliseka ngokwesondo.
• Izizathu ezingezizo ezesondo abantu abakopela amaqabane abo ukusuka ekuzonwabiseni, ukuziphindezela, kunye neemfuno ezingonelisekanga zeemvakalelo kwinkqubo yentlalontle.
• Ukubanga nje ukuba "ukukopela ukukopela" akufiki kwingcambu yemicimbi yezentlalo nezengqondo.

Wayesabelana ngesondo nonobhala wakhe. ”

"Wayesabelana ngesondo nomgcini wegadi ngelixa ndisebenza."

"Waye ____ing wonke umntu awayemfumana emva kwam."

"Wayengakwazi ukuyigcina kwibhlukhwe yakhe."

Rhoqo, amabali okungathembeki ajolise ekuziphatheni ngokwesini. Rhoqo iqabane eligculelweyo liyalichaza iqabane lalo xa lisithi "Unemicimbi yokuzithemba" okanye "Ufuna incoko ebanzi yoncoko." Kulula ukuhlawula ngesondo ukuze ufumane uvelwano lomlingane. "Akakwazanga ukuyigcina ebhlukweni lakhe" uya kubamba indlebe enovelwano kunokuba athi "Unengxaki yemvakalelo." Ewe kunjalo, umcimbi uhlala ubandakanya indlela yokuziphatha ngokwesondo, kodwa isondo akusoloko kusisizathu sokuziphatha okungathembekanga.

Ngelixa eminye imicimbi iyimveliso yeminqweno yesondo engafezekiswanga okanye ukungabikho kwengqwalaselo yesini, abantu benza izenzo zokungathembeki kwizizathu ezahlukeneyo ezinganxibelelananga ngqo nomnqweno wesini. Ngapha koko, abantu abakhohlisayo banokwenza oko ngaphandle kobudlelwane okanye ukwaneliseka ngokwesondo. Kwizifundo zam ezibandakanya iimbali zesondo zabathathi-nxaxheba, ndixelelwe ngezizathu ezininzi zokungathembeki kubaphenduli abathi babakhohlisile kwabanye abantu abasenyongweni.

Izizathu ezingezizo ezesondo zokuba kutheni abantu bekopa

Abanye ngokuthe ngqo ngaphandle kwesini izizathu ezisekwe kubantu abakopayo kumaqabane abo zibandakanya:

• Ukuziphindezela. Kwimbonakalo yamandla entlalontle, sisohlwayo kwiqabane elibonwe ukuba lenze into engalunganga. Mhlawumbi babeqhathe, ke uyaqhatha ukuze ubabuyise. Kwaye ayibandakanyi isini. Inokuba yenye into ngaphandle kokuba ulale nomntu omnye ekuphenduleni ngokulala nomntu othile. Mhlawumbi, bamkele isimemo sepati esivela kwi-ex kwaye, ukuba ubabuyise kwakhona, umeme i-ex yakho kwisidlo sangokuhlwa. Kuzo zombini ezi meko, ngenxa yomona, iqabane ngalinye linokuyijonga imeko njengokukopa. Mhlawumbi iqabane lakho alikunanzi kwaye uyityhalele kude imvulophu ngokuzama ukuba bakubone. Akukho nto iya kwenza omnye wakho obalulekileyo ukuba akuqaphele uthanda ukusola okanye ubungqina bokungathembeki. Kule meko, isenokungabi kukunxibelelana ngokwasemzimbeni nomnye umntu. Abanye abantu baye bashiya ilaptop yabo ivulekile ityhila incoko kwi-Intanethi nomntu abangazange badibana naye. Kunokuba nzima ngakumbi ukusombulula iingxaki kubudlelwane xa ukukopa okubonwayo kuvela kububi.
• Ewe. Abanye abantu bazibona njengesipho sikaThixo kwabanye. Isidingo sabo sokondla i-ego ngokuzanelisa, ngokwesondo okanye ngenye indlela, ibeka ngaphezulu ukuthembana, uthando, okanye impilo-ntle yolwalamano lwabo.
• Ukuwa ngenxa yothando. Ngamanye amaxesha umntu uya kuqala ulwalamano olutsha ngaphandle kokuphela kobudlelwane obukhoyo ngoku. Banokuphelelwa luthando kunye neqabane labo langoku kwaye banokungaqiniseki ukuba buza kuqhubeka njani kwaye nini ubudlelwane. Into abayaziyo kukuba bafuna umntu omtsha kwaye ungathandabuzi ukuqala olo lwalamano ngaphambi kokuphelisa enye.
• Umgama. Inye into abantu abayithathayo ingqalelo xa besenza isigqibo sokuba baqale ubudlelwane nomntu yinto ephambili. Ngaba umntu onomdla uhlala kufutshane nabo? Kwangolo hlobo lunye, ukuqaqamba kunendima kwisigqibo sokukopela ukuba iqabane lakho elisenyongweni likho kude kwaye umdla wothando usondele. Ukuziva ulilolo kuhlala kuyinto eyongezelelweyo xa kuxoxwa ngemiba yomgama.
• Ukungakwazi ukuzibophelela. Maninzi amabali abantu abathatha inyathelo lokutshata kodwa bangakwazi ukuzibophelela. Ukungakwazi ukuzibophelela akubekelwe kuphela izibini ezithandanayo. Nokuba uthandana okanye utshatile, ixhala lokuzibophelela linokubonakalisa ngeendlela ezininzi; ukukopa yinto enye yokubonakalisa.
• Isidingo somahluko. Ezahlukeneyo sisinongo sobomi. Maxa wambi eso sizathu siyasetyenziswa ngabo bakopayo. Anditsho ngeentlobano zesini apha (nangona eso sizathu sisoloko sichazwa). Oku kubandakanya iindidi ezahlukeneyo ezinqwenelekayo zokungabelani ngesondo, incoko, kunye nezinto ezabelwana ngazo ezingenakwenzeka okanye ezingathandi ukuthatha inxaxheba kuyo. Nayiphi na kwezi zinto zongezelelweyo zinokujongwa liqabane elizinikeleyo njengelingamkelekanga kunye nesenzo sokungathembeki. Iqabane lokuzibandakanya kwezi zinto zinokuyijonga ngendlela efanayo.
• Imiba yokuzithemba. Oku kuseta imeko yomhlaba wokuvavanya. Abantu abanemicimbi yokuzithemba, njengokuguga okanye imiba efanelekileyo yomzimba, banokuba nesidingo sokuziva ngathi bayafunwa ngabanye abanqwenelekayo. Oko akuthethi ukuba kufuneka babelane ngesondo nabanye, kodwa bazibeka kwiimeko apho bafumana khona ingqalelo abayinqwenelayo kulwalamano lwabo. Banokudlala ngothando kwaye bakhokele abanye ukuba bakholelwe ukuba bayafumaneka ukuze bafumane ingqalelo. Ukudlala ngothando ngokwawo kubonwa ngamanye amaqabane njengokukopela.Okwangoku, masijongane nayo, ukuba nomnye umntu ofuna ukuba ubelane ngesondo kukunika amandla, ukuba akunjalo okomzuzwana, kukuzithemba komntu.
• Ukukruquka. Bayadika. Bazama ukuphelisa indawo yokudlala ngothando, ukudlala imidlalo eyingozi, okanye ukungena kwi-Intanethi nokwenza unxibelelwano olunomdla. Ubudala be-intanethi bubonelele ngeendlela ezininzi zokukopela kunye nokuphelisa isithukuthezi.
• Umyalezo ohlaselayo kwiqabane labo. Njengoko bekutshiwo ngaphambili, abanye abantu bagqityiwe ngobuhlobo kwaye badlulela komnye umntu ngaphandle kokuphelisa ubudlelwane obukhoyo ngoku. Ngamanye amaxesha abantu abazi ukuba bangabuphelisa njani ubudlelwane okanye boyike ukuzenza ngokwabo, ke banento yokuthandana kwaye banyanzele amaqabane abo ukuba abuphelise.
• Ubume ekuhlaleni. Nokuba kukwikhondo lomsebenzi okanye phakathi koontanga, ngamanye amaxesha umntu uziva ukuba kufuneka agcine imeko ethile yentlalo ebandakanya ukukopa. Ewe kunjalo, ngokuhambelana nomgangatho ophindwe kabini ngokwesini, ukukopa njengenxalenye yenqanaba lomntu ekuhlaleni kuthathwa kwamkelekile emadodeni kunabafazi.
• Ukuhlangabezana neemfuno ezingokweemvakalelo. Akusoloko ngesondo. Kuhlala malunga neemvakalelo. Ukuba iqabane lakho langoku aliboneleli ngenkxaso yemvakalelo eyimfuneko, omnye umntu unako. Abanye abantu, ukungcatshwa ngokweemvakalelo kunokuba buhlungu kakhulu kubudlelwane kunokwabelana ngesondo.
• Ithuba. Ithuba likho: uyalithatha okanye uliphose? Zingaphi izibini ezithe zadlala umdlalo oqubisanayo-ukuba ubunethuba lokulala (faka abantu bakho obathandayo apha) ungayenza ngasemva kwam? Okanye, ubukele umboniso bhanyabhanya "Isindululo esingamanyala," ubuze ukuba ingaba omnye angalala na nomnye umntu kwisigidi seedola. Isilumkiso seSpoiler: Le meko ayisebenzi kakuhle kwifilimu. Kwaye loo mbuzo awusoloko usebenza kakuhle kwincoko. Nangona kunjalo, ngamanye amaxesha ayisiwo umdlalo, kwaye ithuba liyathathwa xa kunikezelwa.
• Utywala. Ewe, sisizathu esiqhelekileyo esidwelisiweyo. Utywala uhlala ingumbuzo - "Ngendingazange ndiyenze ukuba bendingaziboni."
• Ukhenketho. Ukungathembeki yinto yabanye abantu. Bafumana nje uvuyo ngaphandle kokukopa ngomngcipheko wokubanjwa. Ngalo lonke ixesha behamba neziphoso zabo, bafumana ukungxama ngokuya kumava athile xa iparashute ivula ngelixa usiya esibhakabhakeni.
• Uluntu. Ukhuliswe njani kwaye wanxulunyaniswa nabo kwindawo okuyo kufutshane njengomntu oselula unokuba nefuthe elithe ngqo ekuhlaleni ukuba uza kuyenza na into yokungathembeki. Ukuba ubunokwazi ukuba omnye wabazali bakho akathembekanga, kwaye ngokuqinisekileyo ngaphandle kwesiphumo, unokuthambekela ngakumbi ekulandeleni iipateni ezifanayo nomntu omdala.

Olu luhlu aluboneleli ngezizathu ezifanelekileyo zokungathembeki. Yisethi yezizathu ezinikezwe ngabathathi-nxaxheba kuphando emsebenzini wam abathi babakhohlisile amaqabane abo. Umgca wethegi "ukukopela ukukopela" njengenyaniso yesiseko ngaphandle kwengcaciso engaphezulu kunxibe kakuhle kwaye kuyasongwa ngeli xesha. Ngokukhawuleza ukuthoba isaphulelo kwabo benza ukungathembeki njengeziphene zobuntu kukuphepha imicimbi yokwenyani esele ikho. Ukwamkelwa kwezizathu zokuba abantu bakopishe kuqhubela phambili uphando kwisayikholoji nakwizinto eziguqukayo kwezentlalo.