Xa unyango aluziva lukhuselekile

Umxholo

• Amanqaku aphambili
• Ukuchonga unyango olungenabulungisa
• Ungawalawula njani amava onyango olungelulo
• Ukuphepha unyango olungenasimilo
• Unyango kubalulekile ukuFunda
• Kutheni kwaye njani ngoku Counselling kunye noPsychotherapy

Amanqaku aphambili

• Iingcali zonyango ziqeqeshelwe ukuseka imida yobungcali eyenza ukuba abathengi bazive bekhuselekile malunga nokuvula.
• Abanyangi abawela umgca banokubangela ukugxilwa ekugxilwe kuko, ukungathembani, ukuchukumisa okungalunganga, ukuziveza kwabo buqu.
• Abaxhasi banokuthetha nonyango lwabo, bazisuse kwimeko, okanye banxibelelane nombutho wempilo.

Unyango lusinika indawo apho sinokujonga khona iinkalo zobomi bethu ezinengxaki ngokukodwa okanye sithethe ngamava ekunokwenzeka ukuba sasingavumi ukuwajonga ngaphambili. Kukwalapho sihlakulela khona ukuthembela kunyango lwethu, kungoko siziva sikhuselekile ngokwaneleyo ukuba singavula kwaye sizivumele sibe sesichengeni sokwenzeka kotshintsho.

Xa unyango luziphethe kakuhle, siba nemvakalelo yokwanda, ukuziqonda ngakumbi thina kunye nehlabathi elisingqongileyo. Ukuzazi kwethu kuyakhula. Kunokuba ngumceli mngeni ukufikelela kweli nqanaba lokuba sesichengeni apho sinokuzijonga khona ngokunyaniseka.

Ukugcina thina kunye nabanyangi bethu bekhuselekile, oochwephesha baqeqeshwe ngokubaluleka kwemida yobungcali, enokuthi isincede sifezekise utshintsho esinethemba lalo.

Kodwa sazi njani ukuba amava ethu kunyango awalunganga? Kwaye senza ntoni ukuba kunjalo?

Ukuchonga unyango olungenabulungisa

Ukuqonda unyango olungenabulungisa kunokuba yinto enzima: Ngelixa sisazi ukuba unyango kufuneka lube ngumceli mngeni omncinci kuthi ukuze sizuze, sisenokungazi ukuba yeyiphi imiceli mngeni kunyango olusebenzayo kwaye ingeyiyo.

Nazi ezinye zeembono zokunceda ekuchongeni unyango olungalunganga:

• Ukugcinwa kwemfihlo yonyango kubalulekile kuthi ukuze sizithembe ngokuzithemba. Ingcali ayizukuthetha nomnye umntu ngaphandle kwesuphavayiza okanye iqela loontanga ngathi nangolwazi lwethu.
• Siziva sikhuthazekile kwaye sikhuselekile ukuveza izimvo zethu, ukuba singafihli nto kwaye sinyanisekile. Akufuneki sizive sincitshisiwe, sihlukunyezwa, okanye singakhathalelwanga, kwaye akufuneki ukuba sikuthethelele isimilo sokunyanga.
• Ukuthembela kunyango lwethu kubalulekile kunyango olunempumelelo. Akufanele siziva singamthembi ugqirha wethu okanye siqale ukukholelwa ekubeni asikwazi ukulawula ubomi ngaphandle kwabo.
• Ngaphandle kokuba iyinxalenye yesivumelwano sonyango, akufuneki sibenamava okuwola okanye nakuphi na ukubanjwa okwenziwa ngumzimba. Nokuba uxhawulwe ngesandla kufuneka unikezwe sithi kunokuba ingcali.
• Iiseshoni kufuneka zijolise kuthi nakubomi bethu. Elona xesha kuphela ingcali kufuneka ityhile nantoni na malunga neziqu zabo ukuba iluncedo kuthi okanye kwimeko yethu.
• Kanye njengokuba ugqirha elindele ukuba sithembeke ngexesha kwaye sivele ngenjongo yokuzibandakanya kunyango, nathi ke kufuneka sifumane okufanayo kunyangi.
• Akufuneki kubekho ukuphazamiseka kweminxeba, abanye abantu abangena egumbini, besitya ukutya, okanye nasiphi na isenzo esiphazamisa ugqirha.

Ukuba besinokushwankathela imida yobungcali, singathi yonke into eyenziwa ngumgqirha kufuneka ibeneemfuno zabathengi. Ngamanye amagama, isenzo sabo kunye nokuziphatha kuya kuba kukusinceda kuphuhliso lwezakhono kunye nokuzazi.

Ungawalawula njani amava onyango olungelulo

Ukulawula ukungaziphathi kakuhle kunokuba ngumceli mngeni.Ngokwenyani, luxanduva lonyango lokulawula okusingqongileyo ukuze siziva sikhuselekile kwaye sikwazi ukuthetha ngezona zinto zinzulu kuthi. Kuya kufuneka ukuba siyikhumbule into yokuba ugqirha usenokungazi ukuba amava abo ayaziphatha kakuhle. Ngeso sizathu, zintathu iindlela ezinokuthi zithathwe:

Thetha nonyango lwethu: Nokuba sihlangabezana nantoni na, inyathelo lokuqala kukuthetha nonyango lwethu kwaye sinyaniseke kubo. Amava ethu inokuba ngokuyinxenye kutheni sinyango kwaye sinokunxibelelana nemicimbi esiyizisileyo.

Esinye isizathu sokuthetha nengcali kukuba iiphilisi zisebenza zodwa, kwaye ekuphela kwempendulo ethe ngqo abayifumanayo ngomsebenzi wabo ivela kuthi, abathengi. Umgqirha unokungaqondi ukuba le nto bayenzayo ivakala ngathi kunyango olungelulo. Ukuthetha ngalo linyathelo lokuqala, kwaye ugqirha ochanekileyo uya kuyamkela le ncoko.

Ukuzisusa kule meko: Kuxhomekeke kumava ethu, sinokuziva singakhuselekanga ukuya kwesinye iseshoni. Ukuba ugqirha usichukumisile, waba ndlongondlongo ngokuthetha, okanye waqhela ngokungeyomfuneko kuphando lwabo, kunokuziva kungakhuselekanga ukubuyela umngeni kumgqirha wethu.

Kwelinye icala, sinokuba sizamile ukuthetha nabo kwaye sinamava obutshaba okanye indlela yokuziphatha ayitshintshanga. Olona xanduva lwethu, kule meko, kukuzigcina sikhuselekile. Kule meko, sinokukhetha ukubhalela ugqirha wethu, sibazise ukuba asizukubuyela kunyango kwaye sinike isizathu sokuba kutheni.

Nxibelelana nombutho lowo lilungu lonyango: Olona hlobo kuphela lombutho welungu lonyango oluya kukwazi ukuba ngaba omnye wabanyangi babo usebenza ngokungalunganga kukuba ngaba indlela yokuziphatha yabo ixeliwe. Imibutho inenkqubo zokulawula iingxelo zokuziphatha gwenxa, kwaye baya kuthetha nathi ngamava ethu. Banokwenzeka ukuba bawuthathe lo mbandela baqhubele phambili ngaphandle kokufuna ukuba baphinde bajongane nonyango kwakhona. Lonke ulwazi esiludingayo ukuze sikwazi ukunika ingxelo ngokuziphatha gwenxa lukwiwebhusayithi yombutho.

Ukuphepha unyango olungenasimilo

Ziliqela izinto esinokuzithatha eziya kunciphisa amathuba okufumana unyango olungalunganga:

• Khangela ugqirha olilungu lomnye wemibutho emininzi yabanyangi abaqeqeshiweyo nabanelayisensi.
• Yazi indlela yokuluqonda unyango olungenasimilo kwaye usoloko uthetha nonyango malunga namava ethu ngokunxulumene nonyango.

Unyango kubalulekile ukuFunda

Kutheni kwaye njani ngoku Counselling kunye noPsychotherapy