Ndithembele Kubani? Ubuhlobo buxhasa njani ukuhlala kakuhle

Umxholo

• Ukuzibophelela kuzala ukhuseleko.
• Ubudlelwane obufunekayo ekufundeni
• Ikhonkco elinyanzelayo phakathi kothando kunye nobukrelekrele

Abantu abaninzi baseMelika — enyanisweni, abantu abaninzi kumazwe amaninzi kwihlabathi jikelele — badla ngokuba sempilweni. I-COVID yazisa ngequbuliso kwaye iyothusa yokwazisa kubantu abaninzi ukuba mhlawumbi impilo ayinakuyithathela ingqalelo. "Ukuba ndingagula, ngubani oza kundikhathalela?"

Ngokuqinisekileyo mna nomyeni wam siye sawufumana lo mbuzo. Kwiiveki zokuqala ze-COVID, kwenzeka ukuba besindwendwele intombi yethu kunye nosapho lwayo kwisixeko esikude. Ngasihlandlo sithile, ngesiquphe sajongana ukuze sijongane nalo mbuzo unzima: Ngubani oya kusikhathalela xa sifumana i-COVID, okanye ukugula kwalo naluphi na uhlobo?

Senza isigqibo kwangoko. Sobabini ngequbuliso saqonda ukuba endaweni yokubhabha sibuyele ekhayeni lethu eDenver-ikhaya losapho lwethu kwizizukulwana ezininzi kodwa sikude kude nabaphi na abantwana bethu abadala okanye abazukulwana bethu abaninzi-kufuneka sihlale kufutshane nabantwana bethu. "Masihlale apha," sagqiba."Masifumane indawo yokuhlala ekumgama wokuhamba kwimizuzwana embalwa ukusuka kwintombi yethu endala kunye nosapho. Oko kungasizisela umgama nje omfutshane ukusuka kwintombi yenombolo yesi-2 kunye nomyeni wayo kunye nesixeko esinye kude." Yiyo leyo-isigqibo esingenanjongo. Enkosi, COVID, ngokwenza umba ucace gca.

Abanye abaninzi kubonakala ukuba bebesenza izigqibo ezifanayo. Njengoko uJamie Ducharme wabhala Ixesha "Kwilizwe lobudlelwane, iivenkile ezixela uluvo ngamanani aphindwe kabini kwintengiso yokubandakanya iringi IWashington Post ingxelo ngoDisemba. Kwisifakelo sowama-2020 seMatch's singles in America 'ingxelo yonyaka, ngaphezulu kwesiqingatha sabaphenduli bathe babeke phambili ukuthandana kwaye bacinga kwakhona ngeempawu abazifunayo kwiqabane, ekunokwenzeka ukuba zibangelwe sisiphithiphithi esipheleleyo salo nyaka.

Umbuzo olandelayo: Ungaqiniseka njani ukuba ungaxhomekeka kule (okanye) oyithandayo?

Bobuphi ubudlelwane bakho obunakho ukomelela ngokwaneleyo ukukunika imeko yokhuseleko kumbuzo wokuba ngubani oya kuba nawe ngamaxesha anzima?

Ixesha, ingqalelo, kunye namaxesha amnandi ekwabelwana ngawo anokuzomeleza ezo bond. Ukusondela kwendawo kuyanceda. Ngaphezulu kwayo yonke le nto, angakanani amandla amabi kwaye angakanani "amaza" ahambisanayo kunxibelelwano lwakho kolo lwalamano luchaphazela ukhuseleko lolwalamano lwakho.

Qaphela ukuba ungakanani amandla owanikezelayo ngoncumo, ukudibana kwamehlo, ukuxabisa, uthando, umdla komnye, ukwabelana ngokuhleka kunye nokukhathalelana.

Qaphela kwakhona indlela onika ngayo okwahlukileyo. Ndiyathemba ukuba phantse azikho izinto ezimbi, oko kukuthi, akukho zikhalazo, ukugxeka, ukugxeka, ukuba krwada, ukuxelela iqabane lakho ukuba lenzeni, okanye umsindo.

Phantse wonke umntu, kuninzi okunokwenza ukuba umzali wakho, usapho olwandisiweyo, ubuhlobo, into ebalulekileyo, umtshato, nolunye ubudlelwane nokuba bumnandi ngakumbi hayi-kwaye unokuthenjwa xa ubufuna ngokwenene. (Funda ngakumbi kwiwebhusayithi yam.)

Ukuzibophelela kuzala ukhuseleko.

Ukuzibophelela nako kubalulekile. Yiloo nto eyenza umtshato ubhejo okhuselekileyo kunokuhlala kunye. Umtshato wongeza ukuzibophelela ngokwasemthethweni. Ikwaqinisa ngokubanzi utshintsho lwangaphakathi lwangaphakathi ukusuka ingayiyo ukuya ngokuqinisekileyo naphakade .

Ukuzibophelela emtshatweni, nangona kunjalo, kunemida. Ikhontrakthi inokuqhawulwa ukuba unxibelelwano oluqinisekileyo aluphakalanga ngokwaneleyo kwaye amandla amabi aphezulu kakhulu. Okanye ukuba elinye iqabane liwela kwinto endibiza ngokuba zii-3 A's: Umlutha, iMicimbi, kunye noMsindo oxhaphazayo.

Eyona nto iphambili: Ngaba usebenzisa oko ngethemba lokuba iya kuba ziinyanga ezimbalwa ezidlulileyo ze-COVID njengendawo yokuqala yokuphucula ubudlelwane obubalulekileyo ebomini bakho?

Ngokuqinisekileyo, eli xesha le-COVID belilixesha elininzi lokuncitshiswa: ukulahleka kwengeniso, iingxaki emsebenzini, imiceli mngeni ekuhlukanisweni kakhulu ekuhlaleni, ukuphulukana nenkululeko yokuphuma nokuhamba, kwaye ngenxa yabo bonke, ukugula kakhulu nokufa .

Okwangoku, kwangaxeshanye, i-COVID inika ithuba lokuphinda ujonge ukuba ngubani onokuxhomekeka kuye ebomini bakho-kunye nexesha lokucinga nzulu malunga nento onokufuna ukuyiphucula kobo budlelwane. Yintoni onokuyenza ngokwahlukileyo ukunciphisa ukungavisisani kunye nokuchumisa ukuhamba konxibelelwano oluqinisekileyo kolo lwalamano?

Ukuphuculwa kobudlelwane kutyalo-mali olugqibeleleyo. Bayakuhlawula ngoku- kwaye kwangaxeshanye baphakamise amathuba okuthi xa ufuna ukhathalelo kunye nenkxaso, loo mntu uya kuba lapho. Enkosi, COVID, ngokusikhumbuza ukuba sikhulise ubudlelwane obomeleleyo nothando kunye nabo, ngenye imini, sinokufuna ukuxhomekeka kubo.

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