Kutheni Ndijonge Umboniso Wokwenyani Wobomi Bonke, 'Nditshatile Kuqala'?

Ndiye ndaziwa ukuba ndifunxiswe kwinyani yokubonisa i-franchise, kodwa ndicinga ukuba ndithatha nje izinto ukuya kwinqanaba elitsha.

Ixesha langoku lomboniso woBomi bonke Ukutshata ekuboneni kokuqala isasaza kwiHulu kwaye ndichithe ubusuku bam bangoMgqibelo ndinamathele kuyo.

Isiseko silula — iqela leengcali lifanisa abantu ababini abadibana okokuqala ngosuku lwabo lomtshato, emva koko emva kweeveki ezintandathu betshatile, bathatha isigqibo sokuba bafuna ukuhlala betshatile, okanye baqhawule umtshato.

Esi sisiseko. Imva kwento eyenzekayo zizinto ezininzi ezibandakanya umtshato ukujongana-ubudlelwane bangaphambili, ulwalamano, isini, uthando kunye nokuziphatha, phakathi kwezinye izinto.

Kuyamangalisa ukuba abavelisi balo mboniso babonise le ngcamango njengesiqhelo okanye ukuba iluncedo xa uzama ukufumana uthando kunye neqabane xa ngokucacileyo le nto ingafanelekanga, ethe yafumana ubungakanani bempikiswano, icela lo mbuzo: Kutheni le nto Ndibukele le?

Abagqatswa bazayo kwiminqweno yabo yokutshata kwaye bafumane uthando. Bavuma ukuba uzama ukuthandana online kwaye akukho mpumelelo; bakulungele kwaye bakulungele ukuthatha oku kugxuma kugqithisileyo emtshatweni ngobusuku, kwaye banethemba kwaye bathandaze izinto ngandlela thile ziphumelele.

Andizange ndenze ukuthandana kwi-Intanethi ngaphambili. Ndaye kwiTinder okanye kwiBumble kangangeveki kwiminyaka eliqela eyadlulayo. Xa ndandinomnye "umhla" okanye "ukudibana," ndicinga ukuba uza kuyibiza, ndadibana nalo mfana kuphela ukufumanisa ukuba ndikumhla wesini.

Yayikukudibana ukubona nje ukuba umfana ufuna ukulala nam, nto leyo ayenzileyo, kwaye khange ndiyenze, ke leyo yayiyeyokugqibela kolo lonwabo ekuthandaneni kwi-Intanethi kwaye ndahlala kude kwezinye iinkqubo zokuthandana.

Ukuba andinakukwazi ukuphatha ukuthandana kwi-Intanethi, ungakholelwa ngcono ukuba andisoze ndiye komnye wale miboniso, kodwa ndiyasihlonipha isigqibo sabantu sokuzama into enje kwaye ndibabulele ngokundinika ubusuku bangoMgqibelo obonwabisayo kuba akukho ndawo yokuphuma kwaye ufumane umntu ngendlela yakudala nakanjani.

Kwiveki ephelileyo, kuye kwafuneka ndigcwalise ifom online kwi-gynecologist yokuqeshwa kwam. Bendihleli ndibeka iinyanga ngoku kuba bendisoyika ukuba sesibhedlele okanye ndijikeleze i-COVID-19 kodwa ndaye ndagqiba kwelokuba ukufumana ipap smear kunye ne-mammogram akunakubingelelwa okanye kupheliswe ngelixesha.

Njengoko bendigcwalisa le fomu, ibuza ukuba ingaba bendisebenza ngokwesondo na kwaye kufuneka ndiyeke kwaye ndicinge malunga nokugqibela kwam ukulala ngesondo kwaye ndingakhumbuli ngokwenyani.

Ndiyazi ukuba ubuncinci ngaphezulu konyaka ophelileyo, kwaye nangona bendimazi umntu ebendikhe ndalala naye, bendingazi ncam ukuba kunini, bekungekho mfuneko yokuba nditsho ukuba kudala.

Kwakungaqhelekanga ukubhala kwifom yokuba andizange ndibelane ngesondo kuba oko bekungeyonto iqhelekileyo ebomini bam kude kube ngulo bhubhani, kwaye ndiye ndaqala ukuzibuza ukuba kungakanani ukungabikho kolwalamano ngokwesondo kwezi nyanga kube nefuthe kum impilo yengqondo kunye nokuba sempilweni ngokupheleleyo.

Njengoko le intsha kum, ndifunda njengoko ndihamba, kodwa ndiyazi ukuba akunakulunga ukuba ube yintombi yesibini ngoku.

Kwiveki ephelileyo, bendithetha nomhlobo odibene nomntu kwiNtlanzi yeNtlanzi. Bobabini bayayichitha, kwaye bavavanywe kube kanye ngeveki ukuqinisekisa ukuba bakhuselekile ukuba bahlangane kwaye wonwabile kwaye ufuna ukuba ndiyeke ukuzilinda ndizame, kodwa hayi.

Andizukuthatha uvavanyo lwe-COVID-19 veki nganye ukuze ndibekwe okanye ndibenomhla okanye iqabane. Andimgwebi kwaye ndonwabile ngaye, kodwa konke kubonakala ngathi ngumsebenzi omninzi.

Ngapha koko, buyela kumboniso. Kutheni ndibukele lento? Buyintoni ubomi bam? Andinakuze ndiye komnye wale miboniso. Andizukuthatha inxaxheba kwi-intanethi yokuthandana, andinakuphuma, okanye ndibeke usuku kuba ndingaya phi? Kwaye ngenene ndiyafuna ukuzibeka kuxinzelelo lokuzibuza, "Ngaba lo mntu unalo uvavanyo olubi lwe-COVID-19?"

Ngaba lolona tshaba lwam lusilelayo ekuzameni kwam ukufumana nantoni na, okanye ngaba le yinto yesiqhelo entsha okwexeshana de ubomi bubuyele kwenye indlela endala yezinto, kwaye ndiza kubuyela ubomi obuqhelekileyo kwihlabathi lobuhlobo obuqhelekileyo?

Njengokuba kukho into enjalo, kodwa nantoni na elunge ngakumbi kunaleyo sele ibubomi bam ngokubhekisele kukungabikho kwesini, ukungabinamlingani, ukungathandani, okanye ubudlelwane.

Andiqondi ukuba kukho indlela yokwazi nantoni na okwangoku, eyoyikisayo kwaye edakumbisayo, kodwa kuninzi kuphela endinokukulawula.

Ukuzibetha ngokuzalisa ifom yokuqeshwa kwam ngugqirha kunye nokuqonda ukuba khange ndilale ngesondo ngaphezulu konyaka akuncedi nganto. Ukubuza ukuba kutheni ndibukele into ebonakala ngathi yindawo eyoyikisayo kunye nokwenziwa komboniso nako akunamveliso.

Ngaba ndiza kubamba omnye unyaka wesini ngesondo, akukho buhlobo, akukho mihla, kwaye akukho buhlobo nendoda?

Andazi, mhlawumbi. Ikamva alikabonwa okanye laziwe. Okwangoku, ndiza kubuyela kumdlalo wam kwaye ndonele nje, nangona ndineentloni zokuvuma ukuba ndiyakonwabela ukuzibandakanya nokuzinkcinkca kulo mboniso ngempelaveki yam, ubuncinci ndifumana ukuphuncuka ngeli xesha liqhelekileyo liqhelekileyo bendihlala ngaphezulu kweenyanga, kwaye umntu endiye ndanguye namhlanje.