Kutheni Uqeqesho Ingelilo Utshaba Lwehlombe?

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• Amanqaku aphambili

Amanqaku aphambili

• Uninzi lwethu lubona indlela yesiqhelo yemihla ngemihla kunye nolwakhiwo njengokuchasana nokuphila ubomi bentshisakalo nehlombe.
• Inkolelo enjalo yinkolelo engeyonyani ethi iphazamisane nolwamkelo lwethu njengesitshixo sobomi obunomdla.
• Nokuba siyathanda okanye asithandi, ukuze siphumelele kuyo nantoni na, kufuneka sizibandakanye ekuziphatheni okuphindaphindayo kwaye kuhlala sikruqula.
• Singathatha amanyathelo athile okuguqula uqeqesho lube yinto ebalulekileyo yokwakha ubomi obunomdla, obunenjongo esinethemba lalo.

Esinye sezona zicaphulo zinzulu endakha ndaziva kwakusexesha lomdlalo bhanyabhanya ka-1989 "Ndoyame Nam." UMorgan Freeman wayebonisa ongasekhoyo uJoe Clark, owayesakuba yiNqununu yeSikolo samaBanga aPhakamileyo i-Eastside ePaterson, eNew Jersey. Ngexesha lentetho eyilelwe ukukhuthaza abafundisi-ntsapho ukuba bafundise abafundi ngcono, ukhwaze wathi, "Ingqeqesho ayilotshaba lwenzondelelo." Yavakala ngamandla kuba ndandisazi ukuba iyinyani-kwaye yayiyinto eyahlukileyo kwindlela endandiphila ngayo kude kube lelo xesha ebomini bam.

Uninzi lwethu, amagama athi "ishedyuli" okanye "ulwakhiwo" ngokwendalo afaka umbono wokuba "siqhelekile." Senza izinto ezifanayo amaxesha ngamaxesha kunye nokwahluka okuncinci okanye ukungabikho kwaphela. Yonke imihla sasivuka ngaxeshanye, sitye ngexesha elinye, sisebenza iiyure ezifanayo, senze umthambo ngaxeshanye, kwaye mhlawumbi siphumle kancinci suku ngalunye. Sithenjisiwe ukuba ukuba siyakwazi ukwamkela inkqubo yesiqhelo, siyakuba nobomi obuzinzileyo, obunempilo nobunemveliso. Yonke into malunga nale ndlela ithetha ukumodareyitha, kumda wokukruquka. Siyavuma ukulandela umkhwa wokuhamba kancinci, ngokuthe ngcembe, kwaye ngokungaguquguqukiyo ukuze siphile ubomi obamkelekileyo kunye "nobudala".

Kodwa sicinga ukuba kukho urhwebo olungacacanga. Kuyacelwa ukuba siyeke ukuthanda kwethu. Kufuneka "sikhule" kwaye singabi silangazelela iziganeko ezonwabisayo kunye nezibi ebomini bethu. Asisayi kuba namaphupha okuba yinkwenkwezi ye-rock, iimbaleki eziphambili, okanye umdlali ophumeleleyo. Zimnkile iintsuku zetheko elinzima, izimvo zeshishini ezinomdla kodwa ezinobungozi, kunye nokuhamba ngokungakhathali. Ithemba lethu lokuphila ubomi basendle kufuneka lijongwe emnyango.

Ngokuqinisekileyo, siya kuvunyelwa ukuba siphuze ezimbalwa apha naphaya, mhlawumbi siyonwabele impelaveki yegalufa, okanye siye kuhambo oluhle nomlingane wethu kunye nosapho. Kodwa ngokubanzi, kuye kwafuneka ekugqibeleni sibe ngabantu abadala kwaye siqonde ukuba ulonwabo lusemva kwethu. Sifuna uqeqesho, inkqubo yesiqhelo, kunye nolwakhiwo ngoku.Ngapha koko, nayiphi na ithuku lokuya ngaphandle kwebhokisi kwaye silandele iminqweno yethu iyagxothwa njengokufikisa ngokusisigxina kwaye ayikakhuli-isoyikiso esinokubakho kuqeqesho nolwakhiwo esiludingayo ukuze sibe sempilweni kwaye sonwabe.

Ngoba?

Ewe, esinye sezizathu kukuba iyinxalenye yenyani. Nokuba siyathanda okanye asithandi, ukuze siphumelele kuyo nantoni na, kufuneka sizibandakanye ekuziphatheni okuphindaphindayo kwaye kuhlala sikruqula. Ngaba ufuna ukufumana umsebenzi ohlawulekayo? Kungcono sibe semsebenzini imini nobusuku. Ngaba ufuna impilo esempilweni? Kufuneka silale rhoqo, sitye sisempilweni, sizilolonge, kwaye sihlale kude nezinto ezinobungozi imihla ngemihla. Ngaba unethemba lokuba nobudlelwane obusempilweni kunye nosapho? Yazisa nje into ebalulekileyo oyenzayo ukuba awuziva unyanzelekile ukuba ube phakathi kwabo rhoqo kwaye uyakubona ukuba kusebenza njani. Ukuba sifuna impumelelo, sifuna isiqhelo kunye noqeqesho.

Esinye isizathu sokuba sicinge ukuba uqeqesho lutshaba lomdlandla kukuba intshayelelo yethu yokuqala kuqeqesho ngendlela yesiqhelo kunye neeshedyuli yanyanzelwa kuthi. Zange khe sibuzwe ukuba sifuna ntoni — sasixelelwa nje ukuba senze ntoni. Kwakungekho kuthengwa kwaye kwakungekho khetho. Kwakufuneka siye esikolweni yonke imihla yeveki. Kwakufuneka silale ngexesha lokulala kwaye sivuke kwangoko esikolweni. Kwakufuneka sityile ngamaxesha athile.

Ukongeza, ukuba asizenzanga ezi zinto, bekukho iziphumo ezibi. Siza kuvalelwa okanye sinqunyanyiswe esikolweni, sisiseko okanye asivumelekanga ukuba senze ezinye zezinto esizithandayo. Okanye ngamanye amaxesha, abanye bethu babede babethwe okanye baphathwe gadalala ngokweemvakalelo. Kwaye ukuba oko kwakuthetha ukuba besingonwabanga- makube njalo. Thobela kuqala, buza imibuzo kamva-ukuba kunjalo-yeyona ndlela ikhuselekileyo yokuphila kwaye ekugqibeleni ukhulele ekubeni ngumntu omdala osebenzayo.

Kodwa ingxaki ngale logic kukuba senze i-dichotomy engeyonyani. Ayisiyo kuphela uqeqesho olungelotshaba lomdlandla, kodwa yeyona ndlela ekuphela kwayo enokuthi ikhulise kwaye ikhulise ihlombe ebomini bethu. Ngqeqesho oluchanekileyo njengoko lubonakalisiweyo kwinkqubo yesiqhelo, kulwakhiwo nakwishedyuli esivumela ukuba siphumelele.

Ngokuqinisekileyo, sinokufika eqongeni amaxesha ambalwa ukuba sinetalente eluhlaza. Kodwa ngekhe sibe ziinkwenkwezi zerock, iimbaleki eziqeqeshiweyo, okanye abadlali abadumileyo ngaphandle kokunyamezela iminyaka yoqeqesho. Kwaye ukuba injongo yethu kukugqibezela ubugcisa bethu, kufuneka samkele ukuba kuyakuthatha amawaka eeyure zokucotha kunye nokuzinza okuzinzileyo.

Kudala ndicinga kakhulu ngalo mbandela okoko ndathetha noMarc Labelle weLos Angeles-based hard band band Dirty Honey for IHardcore Humanism Podcast . Xa sicinga ngamabhanti alukhuni, sihlala sicinga ngohlobo olwahlulayo lokuzibandakanya nzima, ukunamathela endodeni, ulutsha olukhulileyo olwenzeka ngethamsanqa ngokuba nelebheli yerekhodi ibakhuphe ebumnyameni kwaye zenze iinkwenkwezi. Kodwa uLabelle-owayehlala ngaphandle kwemoto yakhe phantse unyaka, emva koko kwiipheranda zabanye abantu-kwangoko wabeka indlela yokuziphatha equka ukuzilolonga, ukusebenza, ukumisa iqela lakhe rhoqo, nokudlala iinkqubo ukuze afezekise iphupha lakhe lomculo werock .

Ke silusebenzisa njani uqeqesho ukukhuthaza endaweni yokuthothisa umdla wethu?

Okokuqala, kufuneka siyikhabe ngaw 'omane into ebubuxoki yokuba uqeqesho lutshaba lwehlombe. Endaweni yoko, kufuneka samkele umbono wokuba nantoni na enokuthi ifune ukuyenza enokubangela uthando lwethu kunye nentshisakalo iya kuthi ibekwe phambili kuqeqesho, indlela yesiqhelo, kunye nokucwangciswa. Ngokwenza njalo, siyayala ngokucacileyo imbono yokuba "umntu omdala" kunye "nobomi obuqolileyo" yindawo apho kufuneka siyeke umdla kunye nothando. Lowo ngumyalezo wobuxoki othi ekugqibeleni uphazamisane nolwamkelo lwethu njengoyena ndoqo wobomi obunomdla.

Okwesibini, kufuneka siyazi injongo yethu ebomini. Yintoni esenza sonwabe? Yintoni esigcwalisa ngomnqweno? Yintoni esenza sizive sinxibelelene nabanye? Ngokuseka umbono wethu wobomi esibufunayo, siyala ngokupheleleyo ingcamango yokuba kukho umntu olawulayo. Ke, uqeqesho ngoku lunokuqondwa kwimeko yombono wethu wobomi-hayi eyomnye umntu. Ke, singabanini bayo njengenxalenye yendalo iphela-isithuthi senzondelelo yethu.

Emva koko, sibuyele umva, sinokuzibuza, "Kufuneka senze ntoni ukuze sifezekise injongo yethu?" Yintoni eya kusinceda yonke imihla, ngeveki, ngenyanga, ngonyaka, ukwakha ubomi bentshisakalo, inkanuko kunye nokunxibelelana? Emva koko sinokuseta ishedyuli ngamanyathelo ongezelelweyo aya kusikhokelela ekugqibeleni kwiinjongo zethu. Kwaye njengoko sihamba ngeentsuku zethu, sinokujonga rhoqo ukuqinisekisa ukuba indlela yethu yesiqhelo yeyona ilungileyo yokwakha ubomi obunomdla, obunomdla kunye nobomi obuqhutywa yinjongo. Le yinkqubo eqhubekayo yokurhangqa, njengoko into enomdla inokuthi itshintshe kwaye nento esinokuyenza ukufezekisa iinjongo zethu inokutshintsha.

Okokugqibela, kufuneka siyiqonde into yokuba, njengoko siqhubeka nobomi bethu obunocwangco, asizukuhlala siziva sinomdla. Siya kuhlala siziva ukuba le nto siyenzayo iyaphindaphindeka kwaye iyadika. Kwaye kunjalo. Inzondelelo yokwakha ekugqibeleni kukusila. Kodwa kukuguba okwenza izinto zenziwe. Kuya kufuneka sizikhumbuze rhoqo ukuba le misebenzi yesiqhelo kwaye inzima zizinto ezisisondeza kwiinjongo zethu. Kwaye ukuba silandela indlela yethu yesiqhelo kwaye samkela into yokuba ekugqibeleni uqeqesho alulutshaba lwenzondelelo, sinokuba nobomi obunomdla, obunenjongo esinethemba labo.