Kutheni le nto ukufundisa abantwana bethu malunga nemvume kwasekuqaleni kwimicimbi yobomi

Umxholo

• Ukuqonda ukufihla kwemvume
• Yeyiphi into ebalulekileyo?
• Uqeqesho kunye neMvume ziNxulumene ngokusondeleyo
• Imvume yingqondo yokuqalisa ukufundisa kwangoko
• Bafundise Kancinci, emva koko uthembele kubukrelekrele babo nasentliziyweni

Esi sithuba sabhalwa ngumbhali weendwendweUKaia Tingley, ongumbhali, umyili weenkqubo, kunye nomcebisi wentengiso ozimeleyo ocinga rhoqo ngeendlela zokwenza umhlaba ube yindawo engcono. Ukuba ungathanda ukunxibelelana naye, nceda ufikelele kwi-LinkedIn apha. Unokufumana ngakumbi ukubhala kwakhe kuMyinge apha.

"Kufuneka ndithethe nawe ngonyana wakho." Omnye uMama ofunda kwisikolo sonyana wam weza kum enembonakalo enobuso obukhulu, kwaye okomzuzwana ndeva ukwehla emhadini wesisu sam.

Bendingamazi, kodwa eli nenekazi laliyimpelesi kuhambo lwentsimi losuku ukuya kubona imovie kwiZach Scott Theatre edolophu yaseAustin. Unyana wam wayekhwele naye ukuya kulo msitho. Yintoni eyenzekayo emhlabeni eyenze ukuba kuvulwe umngxuma onje?

“Ukhulise eyona nkwenkwana intle!” uqhubeke, waphuka ngoncumo olukhulu kwaye wolula isandla sam.

Uxinzelelo emathunjini am lwakhulula kancinci. Kwakuyintsasa enzima, egcwele unxibelelwano olungelulo, unxibelelwano oluphosakeleyo, kunye nokuninzi kwam ndiziva ngathi ndisilele ngokubanzi njengomzali.

Bendilungele ukufumana ingxelo eyakhayo okwangoku.

Ukuqonda ukufihla kwemvume

Uqhubeke wandixelela indlela abantwana bethu ababedlala ngayo kunye kwi-zipline kwibala lokudlala kanye emva komboniso. Efuna ukuthatha umzuzu wokuzonwabisa, wayecele unyana wam ukuba atyhale intombi yakhe kwi-zipline ukuze ikwazi ukuthatha ifoto.

Impendulo yakhe yathi, "Ngokuqinisekileyo, okoko kulungile naye." Emva koko wajonga kuye wambuza, "Ngaba uyaphila?" Intombazana encinci yavuma ngokulula, kwaye ifoto-op yaqhubeka njengoko bekucwangcisiwe.

Akukho nto inkulu, akunjalo?

Kodwa lo mfazi wothuka yindlela unyana wam aziphethe ngayo. Wayemjongile elinde ukufumana imvume yentombazana yakhe encinci ngaphambi kokuba ayichukumise ukuze ayityhale ngakwicala lomgca.

Uvumile ukuba ngelixa bonke bebexhasa umbono wemvume kwithiyori, khange axhume amachaphaza ade abone esi siganeko sincinci. Kodwa unyana wam waqonda ukuba imvume yayithetha ukuba kufuneka abuze umhlobo wakhe kuqala. Nangona uMama wayesele ekulungele ukusebenzisana, waqonda ukuba umhlobo wakhe wayengoyena mntu ulungileyo kulowo omchukumisayo okanye hayi.

Kwakukho iinyembezi emehlweni akhe xa wayebambe izandla zam zozibini ngelixa endibalisela eli bali. Ndifumene amehlo am ethambisa ukuphendula imvakalelo yakhe.

“Ndinethemba lekamva lehlabathi ngoku, ngenxa yendlela unyana wakho ayiphatha ngayo intombi yam. Kuyavunywa ukuba kukuziphatha okufihlakeleyo, kodwa okona kubaluleke ngakumbi ngenxa yoko. ”

Yeyiphi into ebalulekileyo?

Ke yintoni eyaphawuleka ngolu tshintshiselwano lincinci? Yintoni eyenze ukuba mna nalomnye umama sibenemvakalelo ezingaka?

Kwakungenxa yokuba unyana wam ekhethe ukuphatha umhlobo wakhe njengesihloko azikhethele sona, kunokuba ibe sisicelo sikanina. Wayefuna imvume yakhe.

Ndandinelunda ngaye.

Kwaye xa ndimxelela le nto, wandiphendula ngokulula ukuba wayelutshintsho afuna ukulubona emhlabeni, njengoGandhi. Andenzi oku.

Uqeqesho kunye neMvume ziNxulumene ngokusondeleyo

Isiseko soqeqesho olusebenzayo luhlala luhlonipha .

Unyana wam, uneminyaka esixhenxe ubudala, kunye nomlandeli omkhulu wabantu abanjengoMC Yogi kunye noMatisyahu, ngoncedo lwe-Alexa kunye nezinto endizithandayo. Ndicinga ukuba ungabiza le nkqubela phambili yokuba ngumzali? Okanye mhlawumbi utshintsho olusisiseko kwinkcubeko ekugqibeleni lubambe ulutsha lwehlabathi. Umntu unokuba nethemba.

Ndiyathemba ukuba inkwenkwana yam iyafunda, ngaphandle kobungqina obuninzi benkcubeko ngenye indlela, ukuba BONKE abantu bayizifundo, kwaye AKUKHO mntu uyinto ekufuneka ilawulwe, ilawulwe okanye isetyenziswe. Ndiyathemba ukuba ufunda ukuba ukuphatha ngokulawula ayisiyondlela yokukhokela.

Imvume yingqondo yokuqalisa ukufundisa kwangoko

Sifundisa ngomzekelo, kungekuphela ngamazwi ethu .

Ukuba bendilinde ukuqala ukufundisa imvume kunyana wam de abe ukulungele ukuqala ukuthandana okanye ukubonisa umdla kumantombazana-ngesele lihambile ixesha.

Ukuba ndiphumelele ukufundisa intombi yam isencinci kakhulu ukuba inelungelo lokumisela ukuba yintoni eyenziweyo kuye, kwaye yenzelwe ngubani-ngebekude kakhulu.

Ukuba ndiphumelele ukufundisa ukubaluleka kwemvume, kokubini kunikiwe kwaye kufunyenwe, kubo bobabini unyana wam kunye nentombi yam-baya kungena ebudaleni babo bengalunganga.

Kufuneka siphumelele iminyaka engama-5000 + yekhaya elifundiswayo kuthi- lamadoda njengezifundo kunye nabasetyhini njengezinto. Abantu bayile le ngcamango yokungasebenzi kakuhle kwasekuqaleni. Asinakuyidala, kodwa kuphela ukuba siyasazi isidingo sokuqalisa kwakhona ngokubanzi.

Imvume yingcinga yokuba wonke umntu kufuneka abe ufunda. Kuyinyani ukuba bonke abantu badalwe belingana, kwaye bafanelwe lithuba elifanayo lokuphuhlisa iimvakalelo ezibalulekileyo zolawulo lomntu kunye nentlonipho eyaziwayo kwabanye.

Mna nomyeni wam sifundisa imvume kubantwana bam ngokuqinisekisa ukuba baqondana ngokulinganayo. Sizama nokulandela izikhokelo zoqeqesho olusebenzayo olwazileyo unaphakade kwihlabathi lezenzululwazi.

Uqeqesho sisakhiwo esinceda umntwana ukuba angene kwihlabathi lokwenyani ngovuyo nangempumelelo. Sisiseko sokuphuhliswa kokuzeyisa komntwana. Uqeqesho olusebenzayo nolulungileyo lumalunga nokufundisa nokukhokela abantwana, ingekuko ukubanyanzela ukuba bathobele. -Pediatrics & Impilo yabantwana

Kwilizwe apho ubunkokheli bethu bezopolitiko buhlala bujonge kwezona zinto zingathandekiyo zokuxabana kwabantwana kwaye bazame ukuphatha ngenkani nangokoyikisa, kufuneka sifundise ngenkuthalo kwaye senze umzekelo owahlukileyo kubo.

Bafundise Kancinci, emva koko uthembele kubukrelekrele babo nasentliziyweni

Inkqubo yolindelo lwethu iqala umzuzu wokuzalwa kwethu. Abazali bethu bayimodeli kwaye basibonisa umzekelo ngendlela ebesifanele ukwenza ngayo.

Ukukhula kwengqondo kuqala kuqala ngaphambi kokuzalwa, ngokuqala ngezandi eziviwe ngaphakathi esibelekweni kunye nefuthe leekhemikhali umfazi azifihla kulwelo lwe-amniotic fluid yosana lwakhe.

Oku kunokuba luxolo nothando, okanye banokuba noxinzelelo kunye nefuthe lokoyikisa-kuxhomekeke kwisayikholojhe kunye neemvakalelo zikamama ngexesha lokukhulelwa kwakhe.

Nje ukuba umntwana azalwe, ithoni yelizwi, umthamo wonxibelelwano, kunye ne-vibe ngokubanzi yekhaya iya kuthi yazise ngokukodwa umntwana ngamnye malunga nehlabathi azalelwe kulo, nalapho kuya kufuneka ukuba bafunde ukusinda.

Incwadi emangalisayo kaRobin Grille Ukuba ngumzali wehlabathi elinoxolo Yimangalisa, ukuba iyothusa, iakhawunti yokukhula komntwana kwiminyaka edlulileyo. Ibuyela umva kuvavanyo lokukhulisa abantwana ukuya kuthi ga e-China nase-Roma yamandulo, emva koko isebenze indlela yayo ukuza kuthi ga ngoku. Iphepha elichazayo ukuba awusenanto oyifunayo: Yiba ulungele ukuqhubekeka neemvakalelo ezithile njengoko ufunda kwisithathu sokuqala sencwadi.

Ukuba sifuna ukudala umhlaba apho uthando nentlonipho zizinto eziqhelekileyo, kufuneka siqale ngoku. Abantwana bethu bafanelwe luhlobo lwenkxaso yeemvakalelo ekukhuleni kwabo okuya kubanceda ukuba benze iintlobo zobuchopho kunye nabantu abakulungeleyo ukujongana nemiceli mngeni emikhulu yelizwe lethu namhlanje.

Umceli mngeni kukuba thina njengabazali sizama ukudala imeko-bume esinethemba layo, kodwa singekabinamava ngayo. Siyinzala yotshintsho. Kungumceli mngeni onzima, kwaye asizukugqibelela. Kodwa mhlawumbi sinokuba ngcono. Kufanelekile umgudu.