Kutheni ukuVala ukuGuqula abanye abantu, kodwa abanye bacime

Zininzi iingxelo zemithombo yeendaba ezingqubanayo malunga nendlela ubhubhane weCONVID-19 coronavirus oluchaphazela ngayo ukuqhuba kwabantu ngokwesondo. Abanye bathi lonke uxinzelelo kunye noxinzelelo kubeka isinciphisi kwiminqweno, ngelixa abanye besithi wonke umntu uphezulu. Yeyiphi?

Kusenokwenzeka ukuba zincinci zombini. Emva kwayo yonke loo nto, siyazi ukusuka kwintaba yophando lwengqondo ukuba abantu ababini banokuphendula imeko efanayo ngeendlela ezahlukeneyo, kwaye izinto ezonyusa umnqweno wesini kwezinye zinokuyiqhuba kwezinye.

Zininzi iindlela ezahlukeneyo zokuhlalutya imeko yangoku, kodwa enye indlela yokuyijonga yilensi ye Ithiyori yokuLawulwa kwezoNxunguphalo . Uluvo olusisiseko lwalethiyori kukuba xa sikhunjuzwa ngethemba lokufa kwethu (okt xa sijamelene nenyani yokuba wonke umntu uza kufa ekugqibeleni), siyazitshintsha izimo zengqondo zethu kunye nokuziphatha kwethu ngendlela eyilelwe ukusinceda simelane nazo.

Izikhumbuzo zokufa kwethu zisijikelezile ngoku. Yonke imihla, sihlaselwa ziindaba malunga nosulelo olutsha kunye nokusweleka kwi-coronavirus yenoveli, kwaye nangona amaqela athile esesichengeni kunabanye, abeendaba bebesikhumbuza ukuba kukho abantu bayo yonke iminyaka ababulawa yile ntsholongwane.

Ngenxa yoko, uninzi lwethu lujongana nenani elithile loxinzelelo lokufa. Uphando lolawulo loNxunguphalo lubonisa ukuba abantu abahlukeneyo basenokujamelana nale ndlela ngeendlela ezahlukeneyo.

Umzekelo, kwizifundo zelebhu apho abantu babebuzwa ukuba bacinge ngethemba lokufa kwabo, iingcali zengqondo zafumanisa ukuba oku kukonyusa umdla wesondo kunye nomnqweno kwabanye abantu-kodwa ayenzanga njalo kuwo wonke umntu. Ngubani owayekwazi ukufumana ukwanda komdla wesini kunye nomnqweno? Abo babenomzimba oqinisekileyo, kunye nabo babekhululeke ngakumbi xa besondele emzimbeni.

Ngamanye amagama, indlela esivakalelwa ngayo ngemizimba yethu kunye nendlela esivakalelwa ngayo malunga nokwabelana ngesondo ngokubanzi kubonakala ngathi zezona zinto ziphambili ezixela kwangaphambili ukuba ngaba abantu bathembele kwisini njengesixhobo sokulwa ukunciphisa uxinzelelo.

Oku kunokuba luncedo ekuchazeni ukuba kutheni abanye abantu bexhalabile kwaye besabelana ngesondo ngoku, njengoko oko kungqinwa kukunyuka kwamaxabiso okusetyenziswa kwe-porn kwiindawo ezinkulu zeetyhubhu.

Kwangelo xesha, nangona kunjalo, kuyanceda ukucacisa ukuba kutheni ingenguye wonke umntu onomdla kakhulu kwisini, kwaye kutheni abanye besebenzisa iindlela ezingezizo ezesondo ukunciphisa uxinzelelo endaweni yoko.

Enye indlela yokujonga imeko yangoku yilensi ye Imodeli yoLawulo oluBini lweMpendulo yezeSondo , ethi sonke sinemikhwa eyahlukeneyo yesini (ukuvulwa) kunye nokuthintelwa ngokwesondo (ukucinywa). Beka enye indlela, sonke sinayo "i-pedal pedal" kunye ne "brake" xa kuziwa ekuvukeni ngokwesondo. Nangona kunjalo, abanye abantu bane-pedal yegesi ehlala icinezelwe (oko kwenza ukuba kube lula kubo ukuba bavule), ngelixa abanye benebhuleki ehlala icinezelwe ngokuyinxenye (eyenza kube nzima ukuba bavulwe).

Kubantu abanokuthintelwa ngokulula, iimeko zoxinzelelo ezinje kule sikuyo ngoku zinokubangela ukubetha. Aba bantu baya kufumanisa ukuba kunzima ukungena kwimeko yesini ngoku ngaphandle kokuba banokufumana ukuphazamiseka okunamandla okanye enye indlela yokufika ngalo mzuzu.

Ngokuchasene noko, kwabo kulula ukuba bangenelele, iimeko zoxinzelelo azenzi ndlela inye — kwaye banokuba neziphumo ezichaseneyo. Njani? Siyazi ukuba uloyiko kunye noxinzelelo ngamanye amaxesha kunefuthe lokukhulisa inkanuko yesini kunokuyicinezela. Ewe, iimvakalelo ezinamandla zihlala ziphazanyiswa ngumtsalane wesini. Ngapha koko, "ukudlulisa ukonwaba" kunokubakho, apho imeko yeemvakalelo ezinamandla iphela ikhulisa impendulo yesondo. Ngapha koko, yiyo kanye le nto uninzi lwabantu lusithi "isini yokwenza makeup" sesona sondo sihle-intsalela evusa umlo kunye neqabane mhlawumbi iyaqinisa inkanuko yesini kwezo meko.

Ukuba ungumntu onomdla ngokulula ukuqala, ndiyakrokrela ukuba ungoyena mntu uchaphazeleka kwezi ziphumo, apho uxinzelelo lunokuthi ngokunyanzelekileyo lutyhale i-pedal ye-gesi endaweni yokuqhekeza.

Nayiphi na indlela oyihlalutya ngayo le meko, kubalulekile ukuba uqaphele ukuba impendulo ayisiyondlwana ilunge okanye engaphezulu kwenye. Nokuba unayo ngaphezulu, incinci, okanye inani elifanayo lomdla wesini ngoku, konke kulungile. Uyakwenza. Khawukhumbule nje ukuba sonke sihlangabezana ngeendlela ezahlukeneyo.

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