Kutheni abantu ababhinqileyo be-Orgasms kunye nendlela abangayifuni ngayo

Umfazi uhlala esenza i-orgasm ngenxa yokuba engafumani ndlela elungileyo yokuxelela iqabane lakhe ukuba akakwazi ukufikelela kulo (1) ngento ayenzayo okanye uyenza njani, (2) nalo naliphi na iqabane, okanye (3) akazange abe kwaye akayazi ukuba kanjani. Unokuba neentloni ngokwakhe ngokungakwazi kwakhe okanye ngokungazi okanye ngeentloni kwiqabane lakhe kwaye ufuna ukugcina ukuzazisa kwakhe. Kwimeko nayiphi na into, ngaphandle kwexesha elithile, kunqabile ukuba yinto efanelekileyo yokwandisa inkohliso.

Ukuba isizathu sakhe (1) iqabane lakhe alenzi nto “ilungile” okanye lenza into engasebenziyo okanye engasebenziyo, ukutsho into ayithandayo kunokuba lula kwaye kube nemveliso kunokuthetha into angayenziyo Andiyithandi okanye ayisebenzi. "Ngobunono, ngobumnene" kunokwenzeka ukuba kuthethwe kwaye kuvakale ngokulula kunokuba "Hayi kunzima!" Ngamaxesha athile, ukwenza inkohliso kunokuba yeyona ndlela ilula yokuphelisa isiqendu sesondo esiqhubeka "inde kakhulu" ngaphandle kwengxoxo enkulu. Ukuthi, "Ayizukwenzeka, Sweetie, ke masigqibe," kunokuba lula njengokukhohlisa kwaye kubengcono kubudlelwane ekuhambeni kwexesha.

Ukuba uliqabane lomfazi obonakala ngathi akafikeleli nokuba uzama ntoni, mkhuthaze. Zama ukuthi, "Ndixelele into oyifunayo," okanye "Ndibonise apho ufuna ukuchukumiseka khona." Ukunikwa imvume enjalo kunokuba yile nto ayifunayo. Ngokuqinisekileyo kufanelekile ukuzama.

Ukuba akazange abe ne-orgasm kunye neqabane (2), ukubonisa iqabane lakhe kanye ukuba uthanda ukuchukunyiswa njani xa ezonwabisa ngokukhokela isandla sakhe ngokuqinisekileyo kulula kubafazi abaninzi kunokuba uzama ukucacisa. Ukuba uliqabane, ukuthatha isandla sakhe nokusibeka ngaphezulu kweyakho yeyona ndlela ilungileyo yokucela olo lwazi. Khumbula, izenzo zithetha kakhulu kunamazwi, ngakumbi ngexesha lokwabelana ngesondo.

Ukuba akazange abe ne-orgasm (3), okanye wena, iqabane lakhe, kholelwa ukuba kuyinyani oko, uzixelele ukuba uphumle, uzithobe ngemiyalelo enjalo okanye umthobise ngentetho emnandi enje ngala “Musa ukuzama; phumla nje kwaye wonwabe. Oku akufuneki ukuba kuye naphi na. Ndiyayithanda indlela egudileyo ulusu lwakho. ” Ukuzinika okanye imvume yokuba ungabinayo i-orgasm, ukuphumla nje kwaye wonwabele okwenzekayo, yindlela entle yokuthatha uxinzelelo kwimeko yabo bobabini abantu okanye ekugqibeleni ungothuka.

Ukuba oku akubhekiseli kukuchukumisa ngesandla kodwa ukuvuselela ngomlomo okanye malunga nezikhundla ezikhethiweyo zokulala, ukuthetha ngento anokuyidinga ukuba afikelele kuvuthondaba okanye umnqweno wakhe onamandla wokuba angazenzi inkohliso ihlala ingxoxo enkulu ukuba babe nayo ngaphambi kokuba babelane ngesondo. Olu hlobo lokuxela, ukuxoxa ngokukhetha ngokwesondo ngokubanzi, hayi kuphela ukutshintshiselana ngolwazi oluxabisekileyo; kukwasebenza nokwakha ukuthembana. Ukuthetha ngesondo, ngakumbi into oyithandayo, kunye nokukuva oku kulowo uza kuba ngumthandi wakho kunokuba yinto ebangela umdla kumnyhadala.