Isizathu Sokuba Ufanele Uthethe Nabangaphandle

Umxholo

• Amanqaku aphambili
• Ukulumka kakhulu kusenza siphume kubudlelwane
• Thetha nomntu ongaqhelekanga

Amanqaku aphambili

• Imiyalezo yemidiya malunga nabantwana abalahlekileyo yenze uloyiko kubazali, abathi emva koko bathabathe amanyathelo okhuseleko.
• UGen Z kunye neMillennials, bafundiswe ukungathethi nabantu abangabaziyo, bakhule bengafundanga ukunxibelelana nabantu abangabaziyo konke konke.
• Njengeentlobo zentlalo, kufuneka sinxibelelane nabanye kungekuphela nje ukwenza izinto, kodwa kunye nokugcina impilo yethu yeemvakalelo.

Ngo-1979, u-Etan Patz oneminyaka emithandathu ubudala wanyamalala ngelixa esiya kwisikhululo sakhe sebhasi kumazantsi eManhattan. Kwaye emva koko, ngo-1981 ngenxa yokunyamalala kuka-Adam Walsh, isizwe saqhwalela. Iifoto zabantwana ezilahlekileyo zavela kwiibhokisi zobisi zabantwana ukuba bazijonge ngelixa besitya izitya zesidudu sakusasa. Izithintelo malunga nezinto abantwana abanako nabangenako ukuzenza zitshintshile.

Kwanangaphambi kwaloo micimbi yothusayo neyapapashwa kakhulu, ndabhala incwadana emfutshane ethi, “Ice Cream Is Not Always Good,” ngokusekelwe kwingxelo yeendaba yalapha yendoda engaqhelekanga eyayikwimoto eluhlaza okwesibhakabhaka kufutshane nesikolo samabanga aphantsi sabantwana bam. Incwadana yasasazwa kuzwelonke ngamapolisa nezikolo, nakubazali. Emva koko yaba yincwadi Ungaze uthi Ewe kumntu ongaqhelekanga: Into ekufuneka eyazi umntwana wakho ukuze ahlale ekhuselekile kwaye ibishicilelwa ngeendlela ezahlukeneyo amashumi eminyaka. Amabali kunye nemiyalezo banceda abazali kunye nabahlohli ukuba bafundise abantwana abancinci umahluko phakathi kwabantu abangabaziyo abalungileyo nabanokuba luncedo kunye nabo banokubenzakalisa. Yenzelwe ukubonelela ngezixhobo abantwana abancinci abafuna ukuhlala bekhuselekile xa bebodwa, bengajongwanga.

Imiyalezo yosasazo ejikeleze abantwana abalahlekileyo, ngamanye amaxesha ilahlekisa ngokusilela ukwahlula phakathi kwabantwana ababalekile kunye nabo bathathiweyo, abazali abothukileyo abathi emva koko banciphisa inkululeko yabantwana. Abazali baqala ukujikeleza kwaye bahlala kwindawo ekhuselekileyo yokukhusela, yokujonga.

Ukulumka kakhulu kusenza siphume kubudlelwane

Kwincwadi yakhe, Ithuba lakho: Indlela yokuba Mdala, UJulie Lythcott-Haims uxoxa ngendlela intshukumo ephume ngayo ngaphandle kolawulo kunye nendlela ukulawula abantwana bethu kubachaphazele ngayo abantu abadala namhlanje kwaye “kwabakhokelela ekubeni balumke kwaye ngenxa yoko [bayaphulukana nendlela yokwenza ubudlelwane obubalulekileyo kulonwabo lwethu . ”

Isahluko sakhe, "Qala Ukuthetha nabangaphandle," sivula ngesicatshulwa esithi, "Musa ukuthetha nabantu ongabaziyo," esichaphazeleka kuye "Wonke umntu." Yayiyimpazamo enjalo, ubhala athi:

Ngokuhambelana, uninzi lwabantwana beMillennial kunye noGen Z bakhuliswe ngemantra ethi 'Musa ukuthetha nabantu ongabaziyo.' Oku kuthetha ukuba akunakunxibelelana ngomlomo nabantu ongabaziyo kwaye ngokuqinisekileyo musa ukuhamba nabo naphi na, nokuba. Kodwa yajika yadibana nokungaboni ngamehlo nabantu ongabaziyo, kwaye ingabinazo izingxoxo ezincinci nabantu ongabaziyo ezindleleni okanye ezivenkileni. Emva koko kwaba kukungahoyi abasemzini ngokupheleleyo. Uninzi lwabantwana lukhule lungoyiki kwaphela uluvo lwabantu ongabaziyo, kodwa ngokwenyani bengazi ukuba banxibelelana njani nabo. Ngenxa yoko, abantwana abafundanga kuhamba ngeendlela zentlalo ezinikezwe ngumntu ebebengamazi. Kwaye emva koko baphumelela kwisikolo samabanga aphakamileyo baphuma bangena kwihlabathi, apho ubomi babo babugcwele khona. . . abasemzini.

“Nanko ke esiza nongoyena ucacileyo ndiza kuyenza kule ncwadi: Ke, ngandlela thile, siqhelana nabanye babo (bangaphambili) abantu esingabaziyo, kwaye abanye babahlobo siba ngabamelwane, izihlobo, abantu esisebenza nabo, abacebisi, abathandi, amaqabane kunye nosapho. Uphando oluvela kumacandelo e-biology yendaleko, i-anthropology, kunye ne-psychology yezentlalo lubonisa ukuba siintlobo zezentlalo ezifanele ukusebenzisana ngokubambisana kunye nobubele omnye komnye kungekuphela nje ukwenza izinto kodwa ukuba nolwalamano ngokwasemoyeni. Uphando lude lwabonisa ukuba ukuhlangana nabantu abaya kuhlala bengabaziyo kuthi (okt umntu osesitratweni odlulayo) uneziphumo zempilo yengqondo kuthi. ”

Thetha nomntu ongaqhelekanga

Kuhambo ngebhasi kwisiXeko saseNew York kwiminyaka eliqela eyadlulayo ndeva amanenekazi amabini exoxa ngendawo yokutyela endandinomdla wokwazi ngayo. Endaweni yokuba ndimamele, ndiye ndacela ukuba bandixelele ngayo. Saqala sincokola. Ngokuzenzekelayo, omnye wabafazi uhlala kufutshane nam kwaye ube ngumhlobo osenyongweni. Phambi kobhubhane senze izinto ezininzi kunye esixekweni kwaye saye saxhasana ngokweemvakalelo. Ngokukhawuleza ukuba iCDC ithi ikhuselekile ukuphinda uqhakamshelane nabo bangaphandle kwemidumba yethu, ndiqinisekile ukuba siza kuphinda siqale ubuhlobo bethu bobuso ubuso ngobuso-ozelwe ngokupheleleyo ngaphandle kokuthetha nomntu ongamaziyo.

Ubhubhane uye wagxininisa ukuba nokuba yeyiphi na iminyaka yethu, sidinga ukudibana ubuso ngobuso-hayi amaphepha eendaba ezentlalo "abahlobo," kodwa abantu esinokubajonga emehlweni, kwaye, kungekudala, baphinde babambane. Ukuba ukhuliswe phantsi kwemantra ethi “Sukuthetha nabantu ongabaziyo,” ukwenza olo lwalamano kungangonwabisi ekuqaleni, kodwa njengoko uLythcott-Haims ekhumbuza abafundi, “ayikulunga nje ukuthetha nabantu ongabaziyo, uyafuna. Umelwe kukufumana. Masihambe."