Iindlela ezingama-20 zokuHlala uqinile kula Maxesha oMdaka

Kwezi nyanga zimbalwa zidlulileyo, ndive iingxelo ezininzi ezifanayo ezivela kubaxhasi endibabonileyo ...

Ndiziva kule ndawo yonke mva nje. ”

"Ndixakiwe."

Ndiziva ndivalekile. ”

Ndidiniwe ngalo lonke ixesha. ”

"Into endifuna ukuyenza kukukhasa ebhedini kwaye ndihlale apho de kugqitywe konke."

Andilikholelwa ilizwe endiphila kulo. ”

"Ndiye ndasebenza kakhulu nabantu endibathandayo."

Kunzima kum ukucinga ngekamva. ”

Ngaba ikhona into oyifundileyo ehambelana neengcinga zakho mva nje? Ukuba kuye kwafuneka ndiqashele, ndingathi ubuncinci bayo buvakala kwinqanaba elithile. Ndiyazi ukuba iyavakala kum. Kwiinyanga ezimbalwa ezidlulileyo, ndiziva nditshintsha ngamandla am, indlela endivakalelwa ngayo, ixesha lam lokujonga, kunye nokunyamezelana. Ndivile utshintsho emzimbeni wam kwaye ndabona utshintsho kwindlela yam yokujonga izinto.

Kuninzi lwethu, amava esihlangeneyo esiye sahamba nawo asiphazamise ngokupheleleyo ukuqikelela esihlala sithembele kubomi bethu. Uqhekeke umngxunya kubomi bethu — lowo siwufumanayo awunakuphinda ubuthungelwe njengoko wawunjalo ngaphambili. Oko siphila kuko ngoku kufana nokuncinci kwento esakha saphila kuyo ngaphambili. Sikummandla ongaqhelekanga. Simi kumhlaba ongagungqiyo. Kwaye ukutshitshiswa koku kuphazamiseka kuhamba ngathi ngeendlela ezininzi.

Ngaphantsi kwezi meko zingaqhelekanga, kusengqiqweni ngathi ukuba sizive siqhelekile. Iingqondo zethu, imizimba yethu, iinkqubo zethu zeemvakalelo, kunye nolwalamano lwethu zonke ziphendula kutshintsho kwaye zizama ukuziqhelanisa ngokufanelekileyo. Le nkqubo yokuziqhelanisa ayisoloko igudile okanye ithe tye — kwaye kungasithatha umthwalo omkhulu kuthi ukuba asikukhathaleli ukuwuphendula. Kungenxa yoko le nto kubaluleke ngakumbi kunangaphambili ukuba sisebenzele ukuhlangabezana neemfuno zethu ukuze sikwazi ukuzikhathalela kangangoko sinako. Nazi iindlela ezimbalwa zokwenza oko:

1. Gcina ijenali kwaye ubhale rhoqo indlela oziva ngayo, amava akho kunye nezinto ozifunayo.
2. Beka imida ekusebenziseni kwakho iindaba kunye nemidiya yoluntu.
3. Chitha ixesha ngaphandle, kwaye uqhagamshele kwindalo kangangoko kunokwenzeka.
4. Ukulungele ukucofa iqhosha lokuphumla kwiincoko ezinzima ukuze uzilinganise kwaye unxibelelane ngokucacileyo.
5. Zama inqanaba lakho ngokusemgangathweni ukuze ufumane iiyure ezingama-7-9 zokulala ngokuzolileyo busuku ngabunye.
6. Nxibelelana nomzimba wakho, kwaye uhambe kangangoko unakho.
7. Gcina iioyile ezifanelekileyo (i-lavender, umsedare, nentlaka yokuqhumisa ziluncedo kakhulu ekuthomalaliseni nasekumiseni umhlaba). Hlikihla i-1-2 yehla kwizandla zakho, zisa izandla zakho i-intshi ezimbalwa ebusweni bakho, kwaye uthathe imijikelezo embalwa yokuphefumla.
8. Qalisa ukucamngca kunye / okanye isenzo sokuphefumla.
9. Zibandakanye ekuziphatheni ngokwakho, okanye ubuze iqabane lakho ukuba likuthambise (ke, ewe, buyisela ubabalo).
10. Thatha ikhefu ngabom kwifowuni yakho nakwikhompyuter.
11. Gcina ukutya okunesondlo okuninzi kukutya kwakho.
12. Yenza iseshoni ye-teletherapy yokuqhubana nezinto ohlangabezana nazo kwaye ikuncede uhlale ulungelelene.
13. Zigcine uhlanjululwe.
14. Ziqhelanise nokuzivocavoca komhlaba (njengokulungisa kwiimpawu zakho ezintlanu, enye ngexesha).
15. Nxibelelana noluntu lwakho kwaye uncedise kwabanye ngazo naziphi na iindlela onokuthi wenze ngazo.
16. Zibophelele ekuchitheni ixesha lakho kwizinto ezikwenza uzive ukhululeke kwaye wonwabile.
17. Hlala wazi ngemizamo yengqondo yakho yokuxela kwangaphambili ukuba ikamva liza kujongeka njani (kuba ingqondo exhalabileyo ithanda ukugcwalisa iindawo ezingenanto).
18. Yayama kwinkcubeko yakho okanye kwizenzo zokomoya ukukuxhasa ngokuthembela kubomi.
19. Yithantamise indlela othetha ngayo ngaphakathi kuwe.
20. Zimisele ukukhulula okanye uyeke imigangatho ozibambe yona (kunye nabantwana bakho) kwiinyanga ezintandathu ezidlulileyo.

Olu luhlu alugqitywanga; zininzi iindlela zokukhulisa wena njengoko uhamba kula maxesha anzima. Kodwa nangona ukhetha ukuphendula kwinto eyenzekayo, ndiyathemba ukuba uyakuyenza kunye nokuzamkela, ukuzazi, kunye nemfesane. Nale iza kudlula; Kude kube kuyenzeka, siya kulungiselelwa ngokusebenza ngokulunga kuthi nakwabanye.