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Ukwabelana ngesondo yinto esiyenzayo sonke. Ngelixa kukho izizathu ezininzi zokulala ngesondo (jonga izizathu ezi-7), abanye bethu, nangasiphi na isizathu, bayenza rhoqo kunabanye.

Ngokunyuka kokuthandwa kwe-porn, abantu, ngokuqinisekileyo, banolwazi ngakumbi ngesondo kunanini na ngaphambili. Nangona kunjalo, kusekho i-LOT yolwazi olungeyonyani ejikelezayo.

Kukangaphi 'sisabelana ngesondo'?

Kukho inani elothusayo lokwahlukahlukana koko abantu bakuthathela ingqalelo "ukwabelana ngesondo" (umzekelo, malunga neepesenti ezingama-45 zabantu bakuthathela ingqalelo ukukhuthazwa kwesini kunye nokuzala "njengokwabelana ngesondo", kwaye iipesenti ezingama-71 zithathela ingqalelo ukwenza isondo ngomlomo "njengesini"). Isifundo esenziwe kwiZiko laseKinsey sagqiba kwelokuba i-avareji yokuhamba nomntu abelana ngesondo kuye kwahluka njengenxalenye yeminyaka yabo:

• Abaneminyaka eyi-18-29 ubudala; 2.15 amaxesha ngeveki
• Abaneminyaka engama-30 ukuya kwengama-39 ubudala; 1.65 amaxesha ngeveki
• Abaneminyaka engama-40-49 ubudala; 1.33 amaxesha ngeveki

Ukwabelana ngesondo ngokuqinisekileyo yenye yezinto eziphambili apho umtshato (kwaye ulwalamano olunomdla kakhulu luhlelekile). Enye yezinto ezibonisa ukuba ulala kangakanani nokuba utshatile okanye awutshatanga, kwaye ukuba kunjalo, unexesha elingakanani utshatile. Ukuxhaphaka ngokwesondo emtshatweni kunxulunyaniswe ngokuqinisekileyo nokwoneliseka ngokwasemoyeni nangomtshato (kokubini amadoda nabasetyhini), kwaye kunxulunyaniswe ngokungafanelekanga namathuba oqhawulo-mtshato.

Isifundo esikhulu saseMelika sifumanise ukuba ubungakanani obuqhelekileyo bezesondo kwizibini ezitshatileyo, zilinde, amaxesha angama-1.25 / ngeveki-nangaphantsi kunabantu abakwiminyaka engama-40 ukuya kwengama-49 ubudala! Enye into eyothusayo yesifundo yayikukuba ukuhamba ngokwesondo phakathi kobudlelwane kwanda xa iqabane eliyindoda lenze kancinci endlwini. Ngokukodwa, amadoda ayesohlwaywa ngokwesondo ngokuzama imisebenzi yasekhaya ngokwesiko enxulunyaniswa nabasetyhini ... (?)

Uphononongo olwenziwe ngo-2016 olupapashwe kuVimba wokuziPhatha kwezesondo lufumanise ukuba phakathi kwabantu abatshatileyo abahlala eMelika, amaxesha okwabelana ngesondo, ukwaneliseka ngokwesondo, kunye nokwoneliseka emtshatweni konke kuye kwehla ngokuhamba kwexesha. Kuwo onke amatyala idrophu yokulahla yayintle kakhulu kwiminyaka embalwa yokuqala emva komtshato kwaye ngokuthe ngcembe yalinganiswa.

Indlela yokugcina uthando inokuba kukuxubeka kwigumbi lokulala, kwaye uhlala une-orgasms rhoqo. Ngelixa ezinye iingqikelelo zibonisa ukuba amadoda aphindwe kathathu amathuba okufezekisa i-orgasm ngexesha lokwabelana ngesondo kunabafazi, iindaba ezimnandi zezokuba abasetyhini banamathuba okuphumeza i-orgasm njengoko bekhula (amadoda mancinci amathuba okuba).

Isifundo esikhulu esixhaswe yi-NBC News safumanisa ukuba rhoqo kunye nokwahluka kwezesondo zezinye zezona zinto zixela kwangaphambili ukoneliseka ngokwesondo kunye nokuthanda amadoda nabafazi.

Kukangaphi abantu besabelana ngesondo ezimpundwini?

Ukuba ukhe wachitha naliphi na ixesha kwi-intanethi ukhe wabona okungenani isibhengezo esinye malunga ne-porn. Ezi ntengiso zenza umsebenzi olungileyo wokukunika umbono wokuba phantse wonke umntu uhlala esenza isondo ezimpundwini. Ngokuqinisekileyo oku akunjalo, kodwa izibalo zinokukumangalisa.

Ayimangalisi into yokuba uninzi (kodwa ayingabo bonke) amadoda athandana namanye abandakanyeka kwisini sangasese ngamanye amaxesha. Ingxelo uninzi lwayo ithathe inxaxheba kuzo zombini iindlela zokuziphatha kunye nokwabelana ngesondo. Yintoni enokumangalisa abanye abantu lixabiso elandayo labantu abathandana besini esahlukileyo ababelana ngesondo ezimpundwini.

Olunye uphononongo olubanzi lucebise ukuba uqikelelo olusezantsi kakhulu lomyinge wabasetyhini baseMelika ababandakanyeka rhoqo kwisini sangasese baya kuba malunga ne-10%. Elona nani lipheleleyo labantu abathandana besini esahlukileyo ababelana ngesondo ezimpundwini mhlawumbi lijikeleze i-4-7x ephezulu kunenani lamadoda athandana namanye abelana ngesondo ezimpundu.

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