Cima i-COVID-19 Joke okanye uyiThumele?

Umxholo

• Ngaba Konke Okuhlekisayo Kuyingenelo?
• Sifumana Njani eyona Nto iHlabathi?

Ngu-Ami Hileman

Xa ndithatha ifowuni yam ngale ntsasa, ndafumana iimemes ezintathu kunye ne "quarantine soundtrack" ividiyo, zonke ngoncedo lwabahlobo abalungileyo abafuna ukwabelana ngokuhleka. Ngelixa kunokuba lula ukuhleka kunye nokuhlikihla oku njengendlela ebubudenge yokuhambisa ixesha wedwa, eneneni kukho into enzulu eyenzekayo apha. Uburharha obujikeleza kwii-imeyile nakumajelo osasazo eendaba ezentlalo kunokuba kunceda ukusikhusela kwiziphumo ezibi zexesha elide zoloyiko kunye noxinzelelo oluhamba nendyikityha ye-COVID-19.

Iingcali zengqondo zeentlekele ziye zafunda umxholo wokomelela komntu, sisakhono somntu sokubuyela umva kwaye achache emva kobunzima. Uphando lubonisa ukuba uburharha buphakathi kwenkxaso yentlalo, ithemba, ukholo, kunye nezinye izinto ezinamandla njengezinto ezinamandla ekukhuliseni ukomelela komntu.

Ngaba Konke Okuhlekisayo Kuyingenelo?

Kungothusi ukuba uburharha bunamandla kwimpilo-ntle. Emva kwayo yonke loo nto, "ukuhleka lelona yeza lifanelekileyo," njengoko isitsho intetho. Nangona kunjalo, ayizizo zonke iindlela zokuhlekisa ezisebenza ngokulinganayo ekuphuculeni ukomelela komntu.

Uburharha bunokwaphukelwa kwiindlela ezine. Uburharha obudibeneyo Isitayile esisetyenziselwa ukuhlekisa abanye kunye nokomeleza unxibelelwano lwasentlalweni, kubandakanya ukubalisa amabali okudlala. Ukuzihlaziya okwenzekileyo ibhekisa kumbono wokuhlekisa ngobomi obusetyenziswa ngabantu njengesixhobo sokulwa phantsi koxinzelelo. Uburharha obundlongondlongo Luhlobo lokuhlekisa oluhlekisa ngabanye, ujolise umntu okanye iqela. Uburharha bokuzibetha isetyenziselwa ukuhlekisa abanye ngeendleko zethu, ngokukhomba ubuthathaka okanye ukusilela kuthi. Uburharha obudibanisayo kunye nokuziphucula kuthathelwa ingqalelo njengezona ntlobo zilungileyo zokuhlekisa, ngelixa ubundlongondlongo kunye nokuzenzakalisa kuthathwa njengezitayile ezihlekisayo.

Uphononongo lwamva nje kwiYunivesithi yaseOviedo eSpain ijuba nzulu kula mahluko. Abaphandi bacele abathathi-nxaxheba abangama-804 ukuba bagcwalise imibuzo emithathu emisela iindlela zabo zokuhlekisa, inqanaba loxinzelelo kunye noxinzelelo, kunye notyekelo lokuba nethemba. Iziphumo zabo ziqinisekisile ukuba ezi ndlela zintle zokuhlekisa zinokuba zizinto ezikhuselayo kuxinzelelo noxinzelelo.

"Umntu onethemba lokuphila uya kuba ngumntu oqhele ukuhlekisa kunalowo ungonwabanga kwaye ... uya kukhuselwa ingakumbi kuxinzelelo noxinzelelo." (UMenéndez-Aller et al., 2019).

Izitayile ezihlekisayo zafunyanwa zinesiphumo esichaseneyo, kodwa kwezi ntlobo zimbini, uburharha bokuzibetha babunolwalamano olunamandla ngakumbi kuxinzelelo noxinzelelo. Uburharha obunoburharha bunokuba neempembelelo ezilungileyo okanye ezimbi, ngokwahlulahlula phakathi kwamadoda nabasetyhini naphakathi kweenkcubeko.

Sifumana Njani eyona Nto iHlabathi?

Olu pho nonongo luqinisekisa ukuba i-adage ubudala. Ukuhleka kulungele umphefumlo-ukuba luhlobo olufanelekileyo lokuhleka. Asinamatheli kwindlela enye yokuqhula.

"Umntu unokucinga ukuba uqeqesho kusetyenziso olwahlukileyo lokuhlekisa lunokuba luncedo njani." (UMenéndez-Aller et al., 2019).

Ngokukhumbula iindlela ezahlukeneyo zoburharha nokukhetha iindlela ezintle zoburharha, sinokunciphisa uxinzelelo kwaye sikhuthaze ukomelela komntu. Ngexesha elizayo xa uthumela i-meme, usenokwabelana ngaphezu kokuhleka; unokuba uncede abahlobo bakho babuyele emva kwe-COVID-19.

U-Ami Hileman ungumfundi ophumelele kwiNkqubo yoLuntu kunye neNkokeli yeNtlekele kwiKholeji yaseW Wheaton (IL). Imvelaphi yakhe ibandakanya ngaphezulu kweminyaka eli-15 yobunkokheli kwezamashishini kunye neminyaka eliqela ekhokela amaqela eenkonzo zamanye amazwe.