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Ukungafumani ngqwalaselo ngokwaneleyo kubangela ingozi yokwenene; isithukuthezi ngumbulali olusizi nongathethiyo (jonga “Iingcebiso ezili-10 ezinokukunceda ukuba weqe ubulolo”). Kwelinye icala, ukufumana ingqalelo engagungqiyo kunokubangela iingxaki ezinkulu kubo bobabini abantu nakwindawo abahlala kuyo. Umntu obanga izinto angakhula ngokuya ngokuxhomekeka kwinkxalabo yangaphandle aze akhule ngokuzithemba. Ngokwesiqhelo, oku kubangela unxunguphalo, uxinzelelo kunye nemfuno yomsindo yokufumana ingqalelo engakumbi nangakumbi.

Uninzi lwabantu abafuna ingqalelo olungapheliyo banengxaki yokungaqiniseki kwaye kufuneka bafumane "ulungiso" lwabo lokujonga ukufana noxolo lwangaphakathi. Ngelixa enokubonakala edlamkile, kuninzi ukubandezeleka ekufuneni okungakumbi. Ulonwabo lwenene kukungabikho kokufuna okungakumbi kunye nokuvuleleka kwihlabathi njengoko liqhubeka.

Okwangoku, imeko-mbono yomntu ofuna-ingqalelo iba barraged ngeemfuno; wonke umntu uyadinwa kwaye ahlawuliswe iimvakalelo. Njengokuba idrama iqhubeka, wonke umntu uyonwaba.

Abona bantu bafuna ukunyanzelwa ukuba bajongane neepatheni zokuziphatha kwe-Histrionic Personality Disorder kwaye batshisa usapho ngokwenyani, abahlobo, ootitshala, abanyangi, okanye noluntu ngokubanzi.

Igama elithi "histrionic" lithetha indawo yeqonga kwaye livela kwigama lesiLatini elithi histriōnicus— "labadlali." (Oku kwahlukile ekubeni yimvakalelo egqithisileyo, engalawulekiyo, eyaziwa njengempambano. "IHystera" ligama lesiGrike elithetha "isibeleko." iingcali kwaye malunga nabani na ohoye okwenzekayo kwimidiya yoluntu.)

Ngokutsho kweDSM-V ¹ , Abantu abanengxaki yokuphazamiseka ebuntwini baneminyaka eli-18 ubuncinci ubudala kwaye banengxaki yokufumana iimvakalelo ezigqithileyo kwaye Ukuziphatha okufuna ingqalelo. Banobuncinane ezintlanu kwezi mpawu zilandelayo:

1. Ukungahambi kakuhle kwiimeko apho engenguye ophambili wengqwalaselo.
2. Ukunxibelelana nabanye kuhlala kuchazwa ngokuziphatha gwenxa ngokwesini okanye ngendlela evuselelayo.
3. Ibonisa ukutshintsha okukhawulezayo kunye nokubonisa iimvakalelo ezinzulu.
4. Rhoqo usebenzisa imbonakalo yomzimba ukutsala umdla kwiziqu zakho.
5. Ngaba unesitayile sokuthetha esibonisa kakhulu kwaye eswele iinkcukacha.
6. Ubonisa ukuzenzekelayo, umdlalo weqonga, kunye nokuzibaxa kweemvakalelo.
7. Ngaba iyacetyiswa, okt, ichukunyiswa ngokulula ngabanye okanye ziimeko.
8. Uthathela ingqalelo ubudlelwane ukuba basondele ngakumbi kunokuba benjalo.

Ndiyabulela ukulunga kweqonga kunye nomntu owenza 'njengobomi betheko.' Sifunda kwimizekelo eyenziweyo; banokusishukumisela ekubeni ngabantu abangcono. Kwaye siyathanda ukonwatyiswa, ngakumbi ngamaxesha obunzima kunye nezoyikekayo.

Nangona kunjalo, xa sizifumana sikwinqanaba lobomi bokwenyani nabantu be-histrionic kwaye siqala ukwenza indima esingazange sayityikitya, siyabiwa ingqondo.

Abantu bembali banetalente yokwahlulahlula abantu. Ngequbuliso, omnye umzali wathandwa ngomnye, kuphela ukutshintsha iindima kusuku olulandelayo. Ngamanye amaxesha kwenziwa izityholo ezibi. Ukuba umntu we-histrionic ufumene yena kwiziko lonyango, i-Therapists inokuthi iqale ukulwa omnye nomnye njengoko uxinzelelo lusakha.

Iqela eliphenjelelwa ngumntu we-histrionic linokuqala ukuziva lahlulwe laba ngabantu abanqwenelekayo nabangathandekiyo, kunye nomntu o-histrionic ofumana uninzi lwengqwalaselo njengegorha okanye ixhoba ngelixa iqela lahlulwe laba ziintandokazi kunye ne-scapegoats.

Ngamafutshane, ukungasebenzi kakuhle kwi-histrionic kunokubanwenwa, kubeka uxinzelelo kwiintsapho, ukuhambisa amandla, kunye nokubetha abantu ngokuchasene nabantu.

Yintoni ekufuneka yenziwe?

Kuqala, yamkela ukuba ukufuna ingqalelo egqithisileyo akunakulungiswa ngokulula njengoko kungekho zindlela zemikhwa zitshintshwayo ngaphandle komzamo omkhulu kunye nenkxaso.

Okwesibini, nceda unake ezo ntsapho okanye amalungu eqela angajongwa ngokubanzi. Kuya kufuneka simamele abo badiniweyo, bapheleyo, lusizi, kwaye kunokwenzeka ukuba sibaphazamise abanye kwaye sinike inkxaso yemfesane. Abantu kufuneka baqonde ukuba bohluliwe kwaye badlale indima endaweni yokuba babeyinyani. Ukuba ungumzali womntu oneempawu zembali, qiniseka ukuba uyaziqhelanisa ukuzikhathalela okugqithisileyo kwaye ujonge nabantwana abangenabunzima bungako. Kulo naliphi na iqela, kufuneka sifunde ukumamelana njengoko sifumana umgama kwidrama ebesiyinxalenye yayo singaqondanga.

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